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Welcome to episode 23 of the scary goals club podcast. I am Hazel Robertson. I feel like I have so many things I want to like share and [00:01:00] talk about. Firstly, I had like the most amazing time watching live music last week. It was so good.
It was so amazing having just an Eve, a couple of evenings. Just like Luke and I and just hanging out. We went and saw the Manics and the National at the castle in Edinburgh. And it was just like, it was so good. It was tiring. I will, I'm in bed at like half nine or 10 and we didn't get to bed to like midnight by the time we were like at the music by the time we got back.
But it was, it was just so amazing. Like having. Um, that space to ourselves and yeah, just being in a space with other people. Although one of the goal today, like being in the people was amazing. I bet at one point I was like, Oh, I feel quite overwhelmed. One really tall in front of me, like swaying back and forth.
I couldn't really see we were in the standing and we, as soon as we like walked back round and we went where there was a bit more space and we got a nice view and it was [00:02:00] like a bit more chilled. I had like a cup of tea and a biscuit. Okay. Woo. Going to live music in your 30s, late in your 30s with a kid.
Well, when you've got a kid, it's like completely different, but yeah, it was so good.
And the other fun thing, I'll speak about this more in a future episode, I was almost going to do today's episode on, on trust and entrusting. That stuff is working out for you and stuff is happening, but I'll speak about that in a future episode.
And because I've got a very specific example, but just, I've been trying to lean into this a little bit more, like not having to know exactly how things are going to figure out how things are going to, and I, there's a lot of uncertainty in a few different areas of our life at the moment, like good uncertainty.
And it's not getting to the place where it's like, Oh, I need to know what the answer is. I need to know. I'm just letting almost like it unfold and knowing that the way that it's going to unfold is going to be so different and actually so much better than I could ever have imagined. And there's some stuff going on around.[00:03:00]
Like I mentioned on a previous episode, like, we're looking at where we want to move and buy a house and all of that. And like, literally, again, I'll talk about it on a future episode, but something has happened literally in the past few days that like, we could never have imagined that just feels so serendipitous.
And it's almost like when someone, um, Like, somewhere in another part of the world that you don't even know is making a decision that is going to positively impact your life in some way, actually, you have no idea. Like before this thing happened, and I'm being quite vague, but I will speak about it in a future episode.
Before this happened. Like, I had no idea. It's like, how's it gonna work? Is it gonna be this? And then someone else is making a decision. It's like, oh, it's this. And suddenly it like all comes into focus. It's just, I don't know, I am in a place now of just really leaning into the unknown and uncertainty and actually finding the magic within it.
Because often there's Humans. [00:04:00] Uncertainty can be very scary. Like we want to know what's going to happen. We want to know exactly how things are going to go. That's why we can often get into almost like over planning, like trying to figure out every detail and worry about things. And it's like having to know exactly what it is, but actually what I am finding.
And again, I'll talk about this in a future episode is like, there is. beauty in the unknown, there is almost this like surrender and trust to things working out better than we could have even imagined. Like if we, even if we had planned, we knew all the details, we miss the magic of actually how things could be even better than what we can imagine in that moment.
Like where we are, like even thinking right now, if there's something uncertain, maybe it's your scary goal or whatever it is like in the future, even if you knew exactly how it would work out and you knew all the details now. That's kind of from your current brain, your current mind, your current, like, experience.
And actually, it can then be quite limited in what you can imagine, you can imagine, because you base it on your past, you base it on things you've seen before, like, you can kind of imagine things. [00:05:00] And actually, it can be even better than you could even be dreaming of right now. And that's the power of, like, leaning into uncertainty and trusting it, is that it almost leaves space for this magic for things to unfold and opportunities to come.
that are so much better than you could have imagined. That you're like, wait what?! This is so good! So yeah, it's so like, oh I can't wait to share that.
Anyway, I thought this would be a really fun episode, is just going back through Pulling out things that I haven't learned from past scary goals that I've done.
Also from this one, as I'm doing my scary goal of creating 30 podcast episodes, I'm also thinking about like, what have I learned from scary goals that I've done in the past? And how can I share some of those learnings with you so that you can draw them out and apply them to your scary goal as well? So these are eight things.
That I have learned from a scary goal I had a few years ago in, it was 2020 when I skied solo across the Hordanga Plateau. So it's called Hordanga Vida or the Hordanga [00:06:00] Plateau, which is in Southwest Norway. And it's the largest high mountain plateau in Europe. So I think I did this the last time I spoke about it on the podcast.
I literally didn't have the details for how far I skied or anything like that. I think it was 130 kilometers in kind of like winter into spring. So it was February, March time. Crazy, crazy snow conditions. There was like insane storms battering the UK, the same storms that I was being hit with in Norway.
And what it was falling as rain here, it was falling as snow. So I was skiing from the northernmost point was a place called Finza, which is so cool. You only get there by train, so you like fly into Oslo and then you get the train to this place called Finza. And from there you ski and you're skiing across like over mountain passes, like through the calls of passes and then down onto essentially lakes and frozen lakes.
And so you're generally camping on the frozen lakes, getting your energy, sleeping, [00:07:00] refueling, doing all that, putting up your tent, like getting into your sleeping bag, cooking. Sometimes it was getting down to minus five and then you have all your energy to then go up the hills over the mountain passes through the call the next morning.
And then you kind of are descending down. Sometimes it's a few passes and then again, camping on lakes. Generally, that's how it went. And I ended in a place called Hakula Seter, which was in the South. I'm probably, if you are Norwegian and listening to this, I'm really sorry for how I've been speaking.
It's probably not right. I'm actually born in Norway, but I can't really speak much Norwegian.
But anyway. there's so many things I learned from it and I just want to pull some of them out and talk through them and then thinking about how these apply to your goal. So again, when I'm going through these lists, think if there's anything that's resonating, like pick one thing and be like, huh, and then think about how that applies to your goal.
Okay. So the first thing I learned is that you can. learn like pretty much anything.
I remember the first camping trip I ever went on. No, not the first camping [00:08:00] trip. The first like expedition I ever went on was from, was from a, with a friend from school and we were 17 and we decided we were going to walk the West Highland Way and literally we had, we didn't, we didn't, like, we met her mums and we packed our bags and by the time we set off, I mean, we had these massive backpacks, these old hiking backpacks, like a caramore one, like proper from like the 80s.
We had tins of food with us. We had like I'd borrowed a tent from my brother who was like in the scouts and he was like do you want me to show you how to set it up? I was like no no I've been camping before I'll be totally fine. Literally we got into Mulgai at the start of the West Highland Way at nine at night it was pouring with rain we went to go and put up our tent and there were no tent pegs.
Literally, we're like, what are we going to do? Are we going to sleep in the toilets? It's a campsite. Luckily we bumped into someone who like lent us four tent pegs, but like the tent was like carved in, like, I don't know if you can see this on video, it was like stuck together in the middle. We were huddling next to each other.
All of our stuff [00:09:00] got wet. We got absolutely soaked. And that was like before we'd even walked a single mile of the West Island way. It only went from there. There were so many things that like we didn't think about that didn't quite go right. And we ran out of money and we ran out of food. And, uh, it was just like, Thing after thing did not work out.
We did it. And it's just even looking back like at one point that was my camping experience was like, Oh, I didn't even check the tent and there were no tent pegs to then, you know, not even that many years later, skiing solo across Herdanga Veda. So you can learn anything. And it's thinking about that, like maybe the scary goal you're working towards now, or maybe there's something you want to do that you're like, I'd love to do that, but I don't know how, how would I do it?
Literally, you can learn anything thing. I have learned how to record and edit a podcast, like, okay, it's a bit messy at first, but we've got there still going. So thinking about that, like, whether it's the scary goal or anything. Like, you can learn [00:10:00] pretty much anything. So don't let skills, or experience, or knowledge ever, ever be a reason not to go after something you want.
Ever. Just know that you can learn pretty much anything. And thinking back to your life, I'm sure there were, there's so many things that you can do now that at one point you were never able to do. It's exactly the same with any scary goal. You can learn anything.
Okay. The second thing I learned from my solo Hordanga Crossing was systems create confidence and calm. Okay. Now, what do I mean by systems?
Systems I mean are. Ways of doing things that you can do again and again, basically like habits, a series of habits and steps, a systems, like a series of steps that you would do and they can become habits and like our brain loves habits. It's very habitual. You like your current life is made up of habits, whether you are aware of them or not.
So everything that you do so much of it is habitual, which is why we're often [00:11:00] resistant to doing new things or doing different things. Because it requires so much more cognitive energy to figure out a new way of doing things. So our brain always wants to do the easy thing, but if you can like knowing that doing something new is going to take a little bit of effort at first, as soon as you can get systems in place, it's going to help free up so much mental load because you're not thinking actively about how to do it.
You can kind of zone out almost a little bit and it becomes almost second nature.
So on this expedition, some of the systems were like. And again, it's to free up mental energy so that you're not distracted, you're not making mistakes.
So some of them, for example, when you come in and you're setting up your tent, you're going through the same ways of setting up the tent. Like, there's a certain way you set it up so that it doesn't blow away or it doesn't flap into your face. It's like you're checking the wind direction, you put the pulk here so the pulk's not going to damage the tent.
You're digging in a certain way. Even digging out like the porch in a certain way. So the porch, it's like you have the tent and then you have almost this like extra bit at [00:12:00] the front. And when you're camping, like winter camping and there's snow, you want to dig out the porch bit. So then you've got like almost a seat you can sit in when you're in the main zip of the tent and your feet can go in the porch.
And then on like, there's almost a shelf at the other side and you can do all your cooking there and put your equipment there as well. And so you're going into the routines for doing that. And then you The routines for then making your food and lighting the stove and prepping the water and boiling the water that's going to then you're going to use as almost like a hot water bottle in your water bottles for sleeping and you're charging your equipment and basically getting yourself set up, taking care of yourself, eating, hydrating, prepping for the next day, making sure that you're doing things as slickly as possible because you have gas and fire and a flame.
in a tent which is made of nylon and you're sitting right next to it and you're sleeping right there and so it's thinking about making sure that you're doing things in a way that are going to be safe and in a way that when you're knackered at the end of the day after pulling a pulp over like [00:13:00] crazy terrain which i'm sure i will get to onto that you have enough spare capacity to be able to like do these things quickly and then Like, not make mistakes, but also be able to get into your sleeping bag quickly so you can rest as much as possible and prepare for the next day.
and like the first few days were a little bit clunky. And then as soon as I was just like in the habit, in these systems, even it's like ski for 70 minutes, stop, have a 10 minute break, like check your watch, take your bite of food, and you're knowing where everything is like in your jacket. in the front of your pulse.
like the more that everything is in a system in an order, you don't have to spend as much brain energy wondering where is that thing? What do I do next? Like any of this stuff that like takes so much mental energy. So thinking about also that for your scary goal, how can you knowing when you're doing something new, how can you quickly Get it so that it just becomes a bit of a system.
For example, with this podcast, I have like the first few times I [00:14:00] went through it, I've written out a workflow, so I'm not like, wait, what is it I do next? And now like I'll have a quick check of it, but I don't need to look at it the same because it's, it's quite habitual, even though there I checked, um, I had to just like do the sound check before doing it and realize I had another microphone on, so that would.
Not have been as good. Luckily, I did that check. But the more that you can make like habits, create systems, just anything that is, takes away the question, what am I doing next? The easier it's going to be to actually do it. So anything like that you can do for your scary goal, it's going to help you feel confident, free up so much mental energy and just help create this feeling of calm.
Cause you're like, Oh, I know what I need to do next. That was really helpful. Number three, finding joy in the tiniest of moments. Now, this was something that I wasn't maybe able to get to the first, a [00:15:00] little bit the first day or so, but I was kind of in my head, like worrying about what was coming next.
Almost, would I be able to do this thinking about like the systems and really being like, okay, now I need to do this. Like everything was a bit more manually thinking. And then once I settled into it a bit more, I was able to find joy in literally snow blowing and call it like snow snakes. It's probably got another word, but there was the like ice and the frozen layer of snow.
And then there was like fine, loose, dusty snow, like being blown. It looked almost like snakes with the like strong wind and just stopping and pausing and being like, or even seeing fox tracks in the snow and then seeing like bird tracks and Even, you know, when I stopped and having a bite of food and just almost feeling the sugar and the fuel and the energy nourish my body and feeling myself be energized, having a drink of water and be like, ah, and really just narrowing down on these [00:16:00] tiny, tiny moments and just finding such joy in the tiniest of things, even like how the sky was shifting and changing.
Even when a big front was coming in, I was like, Oh, here we go. There's more snow. being able to be like how beautiful seeing the like the boundary of the front coming in like the cloud with the other sky and almost starting to see the snow flurries coming in and just being like this is amazing and Just even finding joy of like, ah, it's just me out here.
This is me, me all on my own. And just really sinking into those tiny moments. And again, it's thinking like that with your scary goal. It's very easy often to be like, what's next? What's next? Thinking about the bigger goal. And for me, it was like with these storms coming in, you know, my brain wanted to be like, how are you going to do this?
Like, You're not going to have enough time, you're not going to make your flight home, like all of this stuff. Like how is it even going to be possible? All of the things that could go wrong, like it wanted to jump there, but it was also bringing it back to like, [00:17:00] You know, if we focus too much on the future and getting there and all the problems and worrying we're missing like our life right in front of us.
We're missing what is here right now. And so that I find so helpful as a practice just to ground me in the present moment was just noticing, like really noticing all the different things around me and just finding joy in like the tiniest things. And I think expeditions are amazing for this because you're stripped back.
Like you just have everything you need to survive. You've got food, you've got water, you've got shelter. That's all you need. And suddenly life becomes simple and you can be more present, which is why I love to spend time like in the hills or just like running or something that's going to take me away from the day to day and the different things you have to do is ways to kind of reconnect and be present and find joy in these tiny, tiny moments.
So if there's anything like that on your way to your scary goal, celebrating all the small ones along the way, finding like joy in the process of it. It's not necessarily about getting there. I think I've spoken about [00:18:00] this on a previous episode, but that was just so powerful. And I, and I can just, I can be transported back now to those tiny micro moments in time.
Like they are so vivid in my, in my memory. I wasn't just always living in the like, will I get there? Will I get there? So finding joy in the tiniest of moments.
The fourth thing I learned was, um, And I knew this a bit already, but I really, really learned it on this expedition was I am in control of my mind always.
And really, it was about learning that I could be present and calm, no matter what was happening externally. That it was completely my choice of how I experienced every single moment.
And really, this came about because of all these storms that were battering where I was in Hordanga Plateau. I would You know, camp on these lakes. I would check the weather forecast for the next day. It'd be like, Oh, this like satellite device that you can get [00:19:00] weather. Cause I didn't have any phone signal, but I did have a satellite phone and a satellite device and like, Oh, there's more storms coming, more storms.
Okay. And you know, my heart would sink and then I'd go to bed and I'd wake up and the tent would be dark and I'd like tap the side of the tent and all of the snow would just be like, come off the side of the tent. And I knew that hills that would normally take me like. I don't know, an hour or two if the storm conditions had been more firm and more packed.
We were going to picnic literally a whole morning of like zigzagging back, dragging this like insanely heavy polka. I had all of my stuff, all my bags. I was then also flying back on the plane as well. I had like a laptop in there and I just had everything with me, including way more days of food, which was something I made a decision about in terms of, Like I wanted to make sure I had enough in case of the weather.
But also there's that boundary that's like that balance of having more food, but then also the extra food is extra weight and so that slows you down as well. Anyway, these hills in the morning would just take [00:20:00] hours and it was so easy. To start to fall into the trap of like, I'm not gonna be able to do this.
I'm gonna be exhausted. There's no way I can do this. I'm running out of time. I don't have enough time, like so easy for my brain to go into that story and that narrative and just completely put almost this like dark cloud over this amazing experience that I wanted to do like for so many years was be able to go out ski and winter camp in the mountains on my own and feel like I could do it and actually create something and feel like I was confident doing it.
And here I was, like, in this actual, like, I was doing it, and it's so easy to just Like my mind to be somewhere else and not even enjoying it, not even appreciating what I was able to do. And so I was able to catch it. And in those moments of going up those hills that took hours, I just broke it down. I broke it down into every 10 steps.
And sometimes I'd like lean forward on my poles and I'd be like, Oh, come on. [00:21:00] And then it's like, okay, another 10 and another 10. Then when I did 50, I'd be like, yes, I'd give myself like a mini high five. And then every 70 minutes I was stopping having a snack. And then I'd look back down the hill and be like, okay, I've actually.
made a good few hundred meters climb but it's taken me so so long to like zigzag back up back and forth and I was able to like just by being present and focusing on like the next step or the next 10 steps not thinking about the whole thing not thinking about what could go wrong not thinking about how I wasn't going to be able to do it and You know, which our brain can jump to, but really focusing it back.
And again, this is like celebrating the wins. It's like celebrating all the progress. Like, okay, I've just done 10 steps. Amazing. I can do another 10. I've just done another 10, 10 steps. Okay. Yes. And I was able to, in those moments, feel really calm. And I actually felt like very energized. And then of course, after a few hours, I got to the top of the hill and then it was like, that is freaking amazing.
And I enjoyed the whole thing. Um, even though it was hard, even though I was knackered, even though I was [00:22:00] sweating and had this ridiculous pulp in like the most ridiculous deep snow that I was like, to lean forward and just like use all of my body weight to try and swing it around and pull it up this hill.
I was still able to actually be present and enjoy it. And it was almost like, it doesn't matter what was happening externally. Like the storm clouds can come, this is a good metaphor, isn't it? The storm clouds can come. They can bring snow after snow after like dumping of snow, the hills can come, and I can still, in my little like cocoon with my hood up, I can still feel like calm and energized and like confident and excited and present and grounded and whatever it is that I want to actually feel.
Like, it doesn't matter. And I know that it could be the other way around, like, the storm clouds could be coming, and I could just be frustrated, and like, oh this is stupid, and hating the whole thing, and using up so much energy, fighting with the reality of the situation. But I was able to be like, [00:23:00] this is what it is, how can I make the best of it?
And it's again, thinking like, with whatever you're going through with your scary goal, if there's setbacks, if it's taking longer than you thought, if it's easy that it, you could slip into frustration or it's not going fast enough or whatever it is, or you're behind, just noticing that and bringing your brain back to being like, This is the situation as it is right now.
How do I want to respond? How do I want to feel in this situation? And knowing that you are in full control of your mind. It might offer you thoughts that are like, Oh, this is a stupid idea. And you know, you can feel frustration coming on or whatever it is. Ultimately, you get to decide and you get to feed it with thoughts and ways of thinking and ways of being that are going to help you.
And that was one thing that I learned, like truly, truly learned on like a massive scale to do this days and days on end on this expedition on my own because no one was coming to save me. Like really, they weren't.
Like [00:24:00] literally no one, like, it wasn't helping anything. I could see then. And yet, sometimes in our day to day life, it's easy to get caught up in these tiny details and things that feel really hard and not zoom out and be like, This is just not helping anyone, especially me, and it can feel like this big thing that we want to be frustrated about and really annoyed about, and sure, sometimes it can help to do that, but sometimes it's like this just isn't a good use of my energy and it's almost that like, surrender of like, okay, here we are, it's going to be one of those expeditions that takes way longer than I thought, the weather is way different and worse than I thought, let's enjoy the ride.
Okay, the fifth thing that I learned was that having a clear purpose really helps with decision making.
so for me, the purpose of this expedition was to do it completely on my own, do the winter camping, do the skiing all on my own. And I didn't want to go into any of the huts. A lot of the huts were closed.
There's kind of huts that you get in Norway along [00:25:00] some of these ski routes and the hiking routes in summer. A lot of them were closed. Some of the bigger ones were open where they were like near a road that I would cross. But actually I was like, I don't even want to go in at all. And I, I knew that that's what I wanted was to be, to feel like I was self sufficient.
So like, if I was somewhere that there were no huts, I would still feel okay, I'm able to do that. And that really, really helped with decision making because I went past some of these huts and I'd meet people that were like, Oh, we're just staying there. Like, do you want to come in? And Or even the final day when I got to, like, into Hukulisator, just before the final descent, I met some Norwegians who were like, we've been following your trail through the snow for days.
Thank you. Like the bulk had like left as imprinted the snow and they were like, great, we don't have to do that. And they were like, Oh, we thought we'd see you in the last hut. And I'd actually skied on a few miles from the hut and then camped and it was like minus 15 that night. So like. You know, decently cold and as I go, no, no, I just wanted to camp and they were like, we thought you'd be in like we had the fire on and we had [00:26:00] guitar and we were singing songs and like, which would have been amazing, but that wasn't what the purpose of the trip was for me.
I would love to now. I really want to go back to Norway and do that, but actually stay in the huts and where the purpose of it is to just meet other people. And yeah. You know, experience hot life and maybe take Flynn as well. And like do nice skis with him and then like stay in these huts overnight and just have a really like fun time with it.
I would love to do that now, but for this expedition, I didn't want to, I really wanted to know that like, if all of the huts had been closed and I'd never bumped into anyone, I passed like the odd people coming the other way. That I would have been like. Completely self sufficient. So for me, that was the purpose of the expedition
And so just thinking again with your scary goal, if you know why you are doing it, it's going to help you make decisions.
There have been other like. Expeditions and, running events like ultramarathons I've done before where the purpose was to just enjoy it and have fun or to run it with Luke. And when it stopped being fun, it was like, I don't want to do this [00:27:00] anymore. Like, this isn't the reason why I wanted to do it.
And so, um, There was one I can think of in particular where it was so boggy, so wet, I was soaked. I was like, this isn't, this isn't what I wanted to do. And so I dropped out. Amazing decision. Feel amazing about that decision because I knew what the purpose of it was for me. If my purpose had been to do it no matter what, then I might have been like, oh, I shouldn't have dropped out.
Whatever. But knowing why you were doing it. And what is important about doing it will really help you, again, make decisions and not get into the like, oh, I should just do it this way because maybe someone else has said or someone else is doing it that way. It's like being willing to go against the grain, against the crowd, against what other people are doing because you know why you are doing it.
So really being clear, what is the purpose of your scary goal? Why do you want to do it at all? And that's going to help you drive all the decisions you make along the way to doing your scary goal.
Okay, number six. We are not [00:28:00] meant to be alone and isolated. I'm going to say that very firmly now. I, and I think maybe slightly inspired by like Luke had skied to the South Pole and was like, ha, I was like, that would, that could be quite cool.
I couldn't imagine being on my own for like 40 days. Like maybe I could do it, but I need people. Like I really, really feed off people. I sound like a bumper, not like that, but I love connecting with people, speaking to people. sharing experiences with people, which is why it's been so amazing. Like the expeditions Luke and I have done in the past, doing them with someone else, like having that shared experience, I have loved.
And so this solo crossing, like I wanted to do it to Like part of the way it was for my own experience and also I wanted to understand on some level like what it was like for him being on his own for that number of days. I mean, he didn't see anyone else. I at least, you know, saw a few people skiing the other way and I think, I think I was out for like 11 or 12 days.
[00:29:00] I think by about day five, I was like, Cool. I'm kind of done. I understand what it's like to not see other people. I'm good. I'm complete. I felt like I'd had the experience and I understood it and I was done and I still have another week after that of like being on my own, everyday camping, getting up, packing up, doing the same, moving on to the next place.
And I just realized that, yeah, I, something I love is sharing experiences with other people. So when you're in a place that's like, Like, I was like in the Hordanga Plateau, like anytime I'm like out in the mountains or in nature where there's like such a feeling of awe and you're just like, Oh, I feel so grounded, so small, like it gives you perspective and just like, I love actually having someone else to share that with, sharing in the awe of the natural world, sharing in the awe of like being able to do these things and being able to be free and be out doing something felt amazing.
But [00:30:00] also knowing that Although I wanted to share it. I also wanted the experience of doing it on my own. So it's like, you can't have both. I'm setting myself up for failure trying to do both. It's like, you can't have a solo experience and share that with someone else on the same journey, of course.
So people are not meant to be alone. I like loved it. And it was also really hard. One thing that did actually, I did find really helpful was, you know, listening to podcasts because it was like having someone else there. I listened to music one day actually, like, like some, I don't know, house music, dance music, and literally skied so fast that the next day I was so stiff, like my legs were so stiff, I was knackered.
I was like, oh my god, I'm really good time. I did like loads of distance. I was freaking knackered. I hadn't done the like, You know, keep my heart rate steady, keep super easy, like keep going. I just went way too fast. So I learned that quickly, but when I switched to podcasts, I loved that as felt feeling like I had someone else there, like the human connection.
And I think even thinking about this [00:31:00] for this scary goal of mine, like recording this podcast, I have done a podcast interview, which is so exciting. I'm in the process of editing it now, and that will be with you shortly, but. even standing up here speaking to camera and sharing my musings with you all, it still feels like there is a human element.
Like, I'm not doing it on my own because I'm getting comments and thoughts back from you guys and I'm curating and creating episodes based on that. So it feels, it feels like something, you know, it's like knowing that whatever my scary goal is. I think any scary goal in the future definitely is going to have some kind of people element to it.
Like it, I realized that's actually really important to me. So again, thinking about, is there anything like that for your scary goal? But if having a people element is important, can you add that in? Can you bring that in? Or maybe it's not. Maybe it doesn't feel like such an important thing for you, but is there anything in that that you can learn and take into your scary goal as well?
Okay. Number seven. it's just [00:32:00] keep moving. Like literally put one foot in front of your other. I'm going to try that again. Okay. Literally just put one foot in front of the other. I want to show you my drink actually, it's really fun. Have you tried these?
It's infused, it's just sparkling water and it's infused with blood orange and mango. They're so nice. Sometimes it's nice just to have, I quite like, like a fizzy water. I'm going to take a swig. Also I have a jumper on and it's actually quite warm, so I'm getting a bit warm. I've got like lights on as well.
Okay, so the other thing is just keep moving, put one foot in front of another, in front of the, in front of the other, in front of the other, okay. And again, this is like with these hills where I was like, how on earth am I ever going to get up this hill in this crazy deep snow? I did it one step at a time.
I know that sounds quite cliched and you hear it before and it's like, just keep moving, put one foot in front of the other. But like, literally, if you just do that. You will get there. You will get somewhere and you can always adjust your direction and go somewhere else. And again, [00:33:00] thinking like, if you ever feel, and I spoke about this in a previous podcast, but it's like, if you ever feel you're like, ah, which way to go, I'm not really sure, keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Keep moving, take a step, take some action, move in some direction and quickly you'll be like, oh cool it's this way, this way, like just keep moving and you will keep moving forward and not spinning and like, I don't know, I don't know what's next, I don't know how, like all of that stuff's just going to keep you kind of stuck and use up all this mental energy and you're not moving forward, just start moving.
And you will get there. Like, when I would get to the top of those hills and look around and be like, Cool! Four hours later, like, I did it! Like, here I am! It's almost like I knew at some point, and again, thinking, if this is helpful for thinking about your goal, it's like, with that hill, I knew I was gonna get there.
Like, I knew I was gonna get to the end, if I just kept going. It was if I stopped, then I knew I wouldn't. And it's the same with any goal. It's like, if it's taking longer, if you have setbacks, if things are not going how you planned, just keep going. Like you will [00:34:00] get there, even if it takes a bit longer than you initially thought.
Because sometimes life happens. Sometimes there's big snowstorms and you have a very heavy pulse and whatever that works in terms of your scary goal as a metaphor. Okay. And then the final thing. And this is a thought that I use quite a lot and I come back to, especially when I'm doing something new.
It's like, I can figure anything out. I, now looking at that, I have so much evidence where I wasn't able to do something before and I figured it out, or I didn't know quite how it would work. And I was able to figure out and be resourceful and draw on my experiences and ask people for help. And just having an idea of like where I want to go and what I want to do.
I am able to figure it out. Someone else has done this. Like, even if that's helpful. It's like, other people have skied across Verdanga Plateau before. Like, nothing new. They can do it, so can I. Of course I can figure it out. Even if right now I'm like, how? The hell am I actually gonna do this? Like, literally, I can't even think how it's gonna happen.
And then it's like, bit by bit, you figure out a bit more, [00:35:00] you learn some more things, you learn by doing, you meet people, you get skills, then suddenly you're actually doing it and it's done. And just knowing that, again, however hard things are maybe feeling on the way to your scary goal, like, you can figure anything out.
A hundred percent, you have figured so many things out in your past. You were in this moment, like even as a kid, you figured out how to walk, like no one showed you how to do that. You didn't, you just, you just kept trying different things. You figured that out. There's so many things you figured out in your life.
A hundred percent, you can figure out anything with your scary goal. So there you go, I will go over it. I'll read the book, review them. So number one, you can learn pretty much anything to creating systems, creates calm and confidence. Three, find joy in the tiniest of moments, or you're in control of your mind.
Always, no matter what's happening around you, you control your inner experience. A hundred percent. Number five, having a clear purpose is really helpful when you [00:36:00] actually come to making decisions. Uh, we're not meant to be alone. We're not meant to be isolated. So on that, I just appreciate you all so much for listening and for helping me not be alone and isolated on this podcasting journey.
Number seven, just keep moving. You will get there. One fruit in front of the other. It doesn't matter how long it takes. Just keep moving. And number eight, you can figure literally anything out. You can.
Oh, wait, there was something else I was going to say. I was going to mention, okay, I put some notes here. I was like, mention on the thing. Right.
Okay, so if you are, like, loving the podcast, you're loving the weekly, ramblings or anything that you're finding it useful towards your scary goal, and you want to come together with other people, amazing, purposeful people, working on scary goals, making a bigger impact, showing up in a bigger way,stretching the brain, doing scary action,
If you feel like that would be something that is amazing to [00:37:00] do online in a group setting, I'm toying with whether to launch a Scary Goals Club group. we'd meet on zoom, you'd get extra support, you'd get group coaching.
So like you can get my brain specifically on your scary goal and you learn from others.
it's so amazing to learn from other people, to understand. what they're going through that actually so much of it similar so many times. It's like, Oh, I needed to hear that.
I didn't even realize like, it's so much easier sometimes learning from others than like seeing it in ourselves. And If there's a goal that you're working towards, but maybe you want to like supercharge it, get there faster, have the support of me and an amazing group of people, let me know.
if you're like, oh my gosh, that would be so fun. I want like more of this work. I want to take this work deeper and be with like amazing people and get coaching and just supercharge your life, your goal and Oh, so good.
Oh, I'm so excited. Okay, hope you have an amazing rest of the [00:38:00] day, an amazing weekend and I'll see you next time. Bye.
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