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Hi and welcome to, I'm going to try that again. Hi and welcome to episode 33 of the scary goals club podcast. And today [00:01:00] I am talking all about how to simplify your life. Now, I know that might sound a little bit different than the regular content you've been tuning in on, on the scary But I want to offer that when you can simplify your life, and I want to talk through like how I have done this and how this has been a focus over the last three years.
When you can simplify things, it actually frees up so much more energy for your goals, so much more creative energy, so much more emotional energy, just so much more like mental energy to actually go after the things you want rather than in this place where you almost have this like. overload of stuff.
Now, I don't mean like physical stuff, but I do also mean it could be physical stuff, but like the mental load of having too many things that you're focusing on too many things that you're doing, like too many distractions, too many things coming at you, too much stuff, like all of those [00:02:00] things are using mental energy.
And all of those things are there for using emotional energy as well. And we only have a finite amount of energy. And so the more energy that you're putting into distractions and stuff and stuff that you don't need and stuff that's using your time, rather than if you can simplify all that, You have so much more energy to put into your scary goals, the things that you actually really want to do in your life to make that bigger impact and to put your energy into something where you know that you're moving in the direction you want to go.
So we're like, I have not always had a very simple life. In fact, and I don't know, I don't know. I was going to say, I don't know if it's like an ADHD thing, but I know it is an ADHD thing having like. like brain working at about a million miles an hour and lots of different thoughts, like the way, you know, whether you have ADHD or not, actually, I'm just going to check my mic.
Here we go. Do you know, I've actually like not had. Well, I had [00:03:00] caffeine for a while. And then this morning I've been up since half five Flynn's was woke up this morning at half five. And I was like, Oh, I am tired. And I always know it's like a slippery slope starting the caffeine and then I get a bit like bahhhh going to crash.
So much the afternoon. So let me take a deep breath. Let's start this again. I'm good. Talking about brain working a million miles an hour. Okay. Okay. Okay.
And if you want to take a breath now, I invite you to also take a breath and center yourself.
I normally do this before I do a podcast, however, I just recorded one. And in that podcast, if you listen to last week's, it's like, Oh, I'm going to do a future episode on this. I was like, I'm just going to record it now while it's fresh in my mind. So I'm going straight off the back of one, straight into another one, add some caffeine.
And anyway, here I am, this is what is real for me right now. Okay. Okay. So. The executive part, like our prefrontal cortex decide, okay, [00:04:00] which part of the brain is like, are we bringing in information from, and which are we like quieting out? There's a really good analogy. Dr. Andrew Huberman uses on his podcast. And it's almost like the executive function, the prefrontal cortex is like a conductor andit can go, okay, Yes, we want some noise from this like we want okay this part but like for the rest of it so it can be like okay we're focusing on this one piece so let's like drown out sounds let's drown out the thoughts about what's coming up let's drown out the thoughts about what's just happened Let's not see the cat moving across the road.
when ADHD brain, the executive function isn't as like able to say, okay, we just want this one piece.
So it's like, why sometimes it can be really hard to focus because literally every single It's like everything is coming in. So I like even now it's like I'm focusing on this and I'm very aware that there's like a bird just flew past and like a car just went past. I'm like bringing my attention back and I can see thoughts like sneaking into my head and especially when I'm like [00:05:00] even here we've got a dimmer just the place we're renting it's got like a dimmer light and like I can hear it buzzing and I can notice also if it's like Turn down a bit, it buzzes a little bit more if it's not like fully up.
So my brain is like, is tuning in and like Luke's working downstairs today and I heard him cough. So it's like, like all of those things are coming in, even though I'm focusing on this. And so Yeah. So there's an element of that has been before I even knew I had ADHD when I was diagnosed last year. That's how my brain has worked.
And also I almost like created the environment that also didn't help that. So I know like when my. Like when the house is clear, when things are tidy, when things are like, organized, when everything feels really simple and organized, like my systems are good. Having like, random thoughts popping in and my brain going, that's kind [00:06:00] of okay, but almost there's less things for that to happen.
Because like, for example, like I used to have, I still can. I'm still good. Again, something I've been working on. I used to have like piles of stuff everywhere. I still do. I'm looking at a pile of stuff down there And then I'm like, okay, great.
At least everything's in one place. And I can go and like, put these things away, sort this here, this goes in this room, this goes in this room. But sometimes I would just not even almost see the piles, the piles of stuff would be in different places. And then they'd be there for so long that I wouldn't even see the piles.
But yet, or sometimes I would see the pile and it would be like, Oh, I need to try to tidy that up. Or like, then it would maybe have a more, like, it would trigger in me a more unhelpful belief. Like, Oh, I'm not that organized or, Oh, I'm messy or I'm scatty or like all of these unhelpful negative beliefs that I used to have about myself.
I'd kind of internalized that I have worked through that still come up, but there I've worked through them, but it would trigger that. And it's like the more. things that we have in our life, things that we have in our environment. Like imagine I used to have a lot [00:07:00] more like clothes and stuff in my cupboard.
So open it and you're just like, Oh, what do I wear? It's almost like too much choice. And there's so much research that shows that humans, like when we have too much choice, we get overwhelmed because we're so worried about making the wrong decision. There's more inputs to have to sift through. If you had to decide between two things, it's like when my son was like choosing what he wants to wear for the day, And literally rather than showing him his wardrobe, it's like, okay, do you want the yellow or the like purple trousers or do you want this top or this top?
So we'll just pick two and then he just makes a decision between two because it's so much easier. It's not like even still he'd be like, Oh, okay. Yeah. And so. The more that we can simplify our environment, simplify what we are working on, the less decisions we're having to make, the less inputs we have, the less, like, stuff that's coming in that's actually a distraction that's taking us away from, like, ultimately what we want to be spending our time on and spending our life on and just having energy.
And so, [00:08:00] It was like, this is kind of how I lived previously and had so many commitments, I would say yes to everything. My calendar would be full. I would like triple book myself with social stuff. I remember even being in Edinburgh, like at uni and going to one party and like cycling across Edinburgh, like mad to get to something else that was like at the same time and everything was flitting.
Everything was like superficial. Like, like high level conversations, nothing was like deep, you know, it's not like I had lots of time at one thing. It's like jumping from this jumping to this calendar would be packed full, we'd have all this stuff. And then I remember like a really key moment.
So in 2017, Luke and I did this big expedition across Alaska. So we spent three months in Alaska, aiming to become the first people from the southernmost to northernmost point by mainland Alaska. which didn't happen. That's another story. And we were raising, awareness of what the impacts of climate change were on the people, on the [00:09:00] environment, and just sharing stories online and filming and just seeing some of these remote and wild places and also connecting with the people that live there and actually seeing the impacts of climate change throughout the whole expedition which ended up scuppering our expedition because of the thawing permafrost, but that is another story.
And like one of the things, and I got this a bit from endurance races, so I'd done endurance races before that, like for example, like multi day endurance races, like Luke and I'd run the The Cape Wrath Ultra, which goes up the west coast of Scotland,
And I'd been on some expeditions, like smaller expeditions before, and the thing, and the same with Alaska as well, the thing that I like, love with expeditions, when, and again, It can be like a couple of days, but when you're getting into like months worth or like weeks worth, like you and you have everything with you that you need to [00:10:00] survive.
It's like life gets so simple on Expedition. Yes, there's like months and months of preparation and spreadsheets and organizing and like logistics. And yes, there is that when you are there and in it because you're having to respond to whatever is happening and you're having to. you know, keep in a helpful frame of mind and make dynamic decisions as you're going, and respond to whatever's going on.
But it is so simple, like, because you've done all the work before, because you have, you know, for Alaska, we had posted out, we bought all the, like, all the food, or most of the food. We had bought from stuff that was about to go out of date so we'd like shipped all these boxes of like bars and lunch and things that we're going to go out of date to different places in Alaska like along where we were going and then they would arrive and we'd pick them up and we'd like restock and you know get any supplies we need and then we'd be on to the next bit like a few weeks without seeing people or like on our own [00:11:00] and you have everything that you need to survive and you just realize like how simple life can be.
So it's like, okay. Getting down to like almost the most basic of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. It's like food, water, shelter. Okay, there's the other bits of connection and feeling safe and safety as well. But it's like, you have your food with you, you know what you're going to eat, you've packed it. And again, part of the admin for all was like, packing it in these bags every single day.
So like when you're knackered and you get into camp, you are just grabbing this bag. It's got all of your food, your snacks for after, and then it's got your breakfast for the next morning and your snacks for the day. So it's like you have that, that just comes with you. And then the next is you're not having like, you're, you're making all these decisions ahead of time so that you're not having to think in the moment about what am I going to eat?
How am I going to do it? How am I going to do it? Like everything is so simple. You have all your food, You have your water. Well, in Alaska, there was a different element than like when you're in Scotland where you can just drink from [00:12:00] streams over a certain height. In Alaska, you pump, you pump a lot of the water.
In fact, you pump all the water because they have, you can get Giardia from the rivers there. So there's that extra element of pumping water, but like the water is there, there's access to water, you have your tent, you have your shelter. And. You know where you're going. You know what's happening. So it's just really like the weather any like if there's injuries or anything like that, like you're responding to things in the moment and it's just so simple and you're so present because you're just completely immersed in nature, completely immersed.
Like in Alaska, we were kayaking in Southeast Alaska and we came into one of these, we came out of a fjord and we heard, we were like, what is that sound? And the water was so calm, it was so early in the morning. And there was just this, like, slap, it was almost like a gunshot and we're like, someone firing a gun that's just like echoing around like the fjords, basically these like, like deep, deep valleys that [00:13:00] go like down into the sea, the mountains.
And then we could like see up ahead and it was a humpback whale and it was slapping its tail. And so we like paddled over towards it and we just watched it like reach out of the water slapping its tail in the water and it was just like unbelievable. And we saw like so many bald eagles. We camped on this tiny island and saw it was like this tiny, I don't know if it was a Sitka Sitka deer, but like this tiny fawn with its mom, like on this tiny island.
I mean, I don't know how, I don't know if deers swim. I know the tide range is enough. I don't think it would connect with the land bridge. Maybe it was like just, there's like three deer on the island that they keep like, or they keep recreating. I don't even know. Anyway, there's tiny deer and just like, There's so much more capacity to just experience everything that is happening in those moments because everything else is taken care of.
Everything's so [00:14:00] simple, like you have your food, your water, your shelter, you know where you're going, it's just going there. And so you can just have these moments where you're just soaking in everything. And I remember when we got back after Alaska, Coming back to our flat in Edinburgh, opening the door, and of course, we'd literally worn, like, the same clothes again and again, and then whenever we got into town, just, like, washed them, laundered them, and then, like, put them back on again.
Same clothes for three months. You don't even think about what you're having to wear. It's like, you're like, okay, it's a bit cooler today, I'll put on an extra layer. Like, that's literally it. Like, you have your same things you're putting on. You have dry clothes, just in case you fall in or anything, but like, you have everything.
Like, you don't have to think about it. And then coming back to our flat and just opening the door and just seeing, and it's like, we didn't even have that much stuff, but just seeing so much stuff that like, A, I had not thought about for three months. Like, I hadn't even thought about. And B, like, I just didn't need.
And I think that's the amazing thing about expeditions, is like, you realize how little you need. [00:15:00] you actually need to survive, and like, to be happy, and to be present, and to be fully connected with nature. the less that we have, the happier we can be.
It's all, we think it's the other way around because we're sold by the advertising industry, like buy this thing and then you'll feel this way and buy this and then you look this way and then you're this and then you'll fit in. And so it's like, we buy more and we consume and we consume and it's the trap that we can fall into.
And stuff never makes us happy, but it can make us, feel overwhelmed if we have too much of it. When we can simplify that, it just frees up so much mental thought. And I remember just afterwards just being like, Oh my god, stuff has to go. And just spent so long just, like, culling, donating, selling, getting rid of stuff, just, like, clearing out.
And just, and I wouldn't say we're, we're definitely not like minimalists, it could probably go even more minimal, but just being so conscious with, okay, what do I actually like have? Is [00:16:00] it useful? Am I using it? And do I actually like it? Or am I a bit like, you know, I have this thing, but I'll always choose this other thing to wear or whatever it is.
And yeah, from then on, like, after Alaska, or shortly after, I stopped buying any new clothes. Like, I set myself a challenge to not buy any new clothes for a whole year. And again, I didn't really buy that much, but it would be like, kit, or like, outdoor kit, or different things, but I was like, no, I'm not buying any more new clothes for a whole year.
And it completely shifted how I saw consumption. It completely shifted, like, my. mindset, what I was spending my time on. Like I just wasn't going in to shops anymore. That wasn't part of what I spent my time doing was shopping. And again, it's not like I did that much of it, but it might be like, Oh, I'll just go into the shops.
I was like, okay, I'm just not even doing that. So it freed up more time for being outdoors or reading books. Like all the time I'd spent consuming or shopping suddenly was like, well, I'm not doing that anymore. Yes. I would go to charity shops and buy some stuff [00:17:00] secondhand, like where I needed it.
But other than that, And I realized how automatic it was. I'm slightly digressing here, but I'm going to tell this other story. I still remember like midway through or like, no, it was at the start of the challenge where I was still again, shifting again, the challenge was like a goal. I'm not doing anything new for a year and I had my whys and I'm figuring it out.
And it's like how I was still on default. I remember getting the train back. from Aberdeen, I think it must have been. Anyway, there's like a shopping center just where the train station is in Aberdeen. I was heading back to Edinburgh and I had a few minutes to kill before my train. So I just wandered in, was like totally unaware, wandered into H& M, picked up some top, I didn't even try it on, wandered to the till, and was like just about to go and pay.
And suddenly I was like, wait, what is going on? Like, I'm not buying anything new for a whole year. And I went and like put it back and then went and just sat for the train at the train station, just wait a few extra minutes. But like, it was just. [00:18:00] So habitual, I wasn't even thinking about it. It wasn't even conscious.
And it was like sleepwalking into buying things. And again, I didn't even really buy that much, but it was just a bit of what I used to do, how I would fill my time. If I was bored, like at the train station, I'd be like, Oh, I'll just go and buy. It's just like, Oh, you just go and buy the newest, whatever, just go and buy this thing.
And then that year I just completely changed how I thought about things. I, and like, one of the most amazing things that came out of it was I started loving what I had. Like I had this down jacket and it had like a tear in the cuff and I was like, I'm going to learn to like stitch it up, stitched it up.
I would like take care of it and like clean it and make sure it was like washed. Cause it was like, I'm not buying just cause it's got like a tear here. I'm not buying a brand new like down jacket. Like I don't need to. Whereas maybe before it'd been like, Oh, I'll get a new one. I've had it a few years.
Whereas now, I mean, I still got that. That is still like my down jacket I wear and it's still got the little like. cuff tear that I've like stitched up. [00:19:00] And I love it, and I just Completely detached from being like Oh I need to be wearing new things It's like No, I just don't. I like, stopped caring so much about what I wore.
I stopped caring so much about like, what others might think if I was wearing the same thing. It just freed up, like, I hadn't realized how much energy, time, money was spent thinking about how others might perceive me. Like, Making sure I had the newest this, buying things and it just, and it also meant that then I didn't have much stuff, have many clothes.
And if I did, you know, take something new from a charity shop, I would like let something go. And even now, like that has carried with me and for Luke and I, some of our values, like one of them is just simplicity. And like, the question we often ask ourselves is like, how can we make this more simple?
And it can apply. So this was like, kind of how it started was with the [00:20:00] stuff and with Alaska. And even now, like. We don't have that much stuff. Sometimes I'm like, we've got too much, okay, we need to do like a bit of a clear out. It can be easy for it to like sneak in, but like we are so conscious about not having much out.
Like even Flynn's toys, we have like most of them in the cupboard away and we'll take like a few out at one time and like put them away and then take a few out. So it's like keeps everything a bit more simple not having that much it, there's less to like.
put away, left to tidy. Like we can rush out of the house and it's not left like a complete tip. It's like, okay, chuck the, you know, duplo goes back in there. This goes back in here. Flynn helps tidy up. And then we like out of the house. So like things like that, that I really struggle with having ADHD, like getting out of the house, like the things like that are way more simple now as well.
I think also doing like another thing that's part of this is like, so there's the, for us it's like owning less, but the things that we do own are like really good quality. Like, for example, this is like a water bottle. I remember it was like at the time, it's so bash up, we've had these for years, but at the time it was like 30 [00:21:00] quid, 35 quid, which at the time felt like a lot.
And we bought two of them and it was like, This is ridiculous, but literally we have used these for so many years. This cap, the other cap started leaking and we just bought a new cap, like rather than getting, it's like so bashed up, but it's like stainless steel. It's great. And even this, we bought this in Alaska.
So this is like seven years old. And again, I think it was like 50 bucks or something, which we were like 50 bucks for the thermos. That's ridiculous. But we were like, well, we, we want the thermos, And. Like literally still got it. It's so good. So stuff like that, it's like, I know it's quite obvious, but it really helps because it's like, we don't have to keep buying or replacing things.
You know, everything's good quality. It's like got an environmental component, like, which is really important for us, like reusing things, having less, owning less, but it just frees up so much more headspace. Like I look. I love it. Cause I'm like remembering being up in the Arctic on polar bear watch sitting up like sipping out, sipping my coffee out of this thermos and we still have it.
[00:22:00] And I'm like sipping my cup of tea seven years later and Now I have a kid and I live in Banchory and it's like, wow, that's like a different life. But just having things where I'm like, Oh, I love that. Even this watch, I find it the other day, I feel like super fancy sports watch, like a Garmin for running.
And I just forget to charge it. Maybe there's, maybe I need to get a habit of that. And so I stopped using it and then I was like not having a watch for time and then I found this in a box because the alarm kept going off and I was like, I'm going to find that, turn it off. And I was like, Oh, maybe I'll just wear it and I don't have to charge it.
So it's great. So even just for seeing the time, but again, simplicity, how can, how can you have things that you love and just having less. So it's like owning less is part of it for sure. And having less around, I mean, I'm looking over here and this is probably one of the rooms that does have a bit more piled in it because we're not in here for that long.
I guess we're in here like a few hours every day. for some days of the week, but there's a bunch of [00:23:00] stuff piled up, so actually, and it's still a work in progress, but generally, like, the main areas that we're in, it's like, try and keep them as simple as possible. And so there's the owning less, which really helps, just like, even this, we're packing to go away anywhere.
It's like, literally like, You can almost pack all of Flynn's clothes into a bag. Like, there's just not that many. So it's like, chuck them all in, chuck all ours in, minus a few, and then you just go. Like, it's just so much easier to go places to unpack, to get out the door in the morning. Like, everything's got a place.
Like, everything's just simple and it just helps my ADHD brain so much.
And then in the, like a day to day, Space in terms of like my business and what I'm focusing on. It's like, I'm doing less and I make sure that I automate as many things I can. I keep things as simple as I can. Like even just recently I switched from doing, I would do like unlimited email coaching in between sessions for my clients.
So like if they had something they wanted in between sessions, they could email me. I was like, I don't even like writing emails. I much, I find it much easier [00:24:00] to respond with voice notes. And so I switched to like. This app that they can use. So now they can drop me a message, I can voice note them back and it's like, that is so much more simple for me and I know that I can get them what they need and it's simpler.
So it's just asking, like, that question has been such a core part of everything. So when was Alaska 2017? So that's like seven years ago. Every single decision that we make, it's like, how can I simplify this? How can I make this more simple? And even, once you decide, so even thinking now for you, What are the things that you value?
What, like, what is important to you? Even pause and like, write this down now. So for us, for example, it's like, value time. Like, that is so, so important to us. Quality time. So not just time for the sake of time, but time when we're present, time when we're like, having fun together, time like, playing with Flynn.
Like, that is Is like everything and freedom and flexibility and simplicity, like those are things that we [00:25:00] really value. And so, and it might be completely different for you. So it's not like you have to simplify things. It's like, what is important to you? And then it's like, how can you get more of those things?
So even for example, like how this features into my decision making with Flynn, it's like, okay, how can I simplify things in the morning? So the morning before we like go to play group or goes to nursery. I want it to be unhurried, I want it to feel really like spacious with time, not like rushing out the door, not like, uh, frantic, but just like plenty of time to play, plenty of time to hang out.
How can we simplify mornings? It's like, okay, I pack his nursery bag the night before, or I pack bags if we're out for the day and I try and make lunch the night before. I make my breakfast the night before, I do like overnight oats and protein powder and some fruit and chia seeds and stuff and stick it in the fridge.
And it means like, I can just take that, I do it in like a little Tupperware, and I just will sit with him and play, well he's into magnatiles at the moment, so it's like I'll just sit and like play magnatiles with him in the morning instead of being like, uh, I need to make my breakfast, and like, I'm hungry, I'm [00:26:00] grumpy, or like, I'm trying to figure out his breakfast.
It's just like, how can I simplify things? It's like, I just get into that habit of just making my breakfast the night before.
So there's the owning less. And like knowing what you have and like good quality stuff and having a place for everything. There's the doing less. And this has been something that I'm trying to think when I really started doing this, probably from 2019 onwards, really, really letting go of not doing like my default is to want to say yes to everything and pack everything in.
And that just led to like this busyness, this like exhaustion, not actually having time. Yes, I did some bigger goals, but not being like, okay, what is it I truly want to do And And really focusing on that and like having these big visions and being fully present and actually enjoying my life, even just the simple things.
Like sometimes I was setting goals almost like as a distraction to keep myself busy so that I wasn't having to address like underneath. I wasn't actually that happy. I wasn't that satisfied [00:27:00] with like how my life was. And actually by doing less, it frees up just so much more headspace. For being like, okay, the things I am spending my time on are so important and valuable to me.
And again, I'm a work in progress. Like I will sometimes have a scroll on my phone just as much as like anyone else or I will distract myself with something, but when I can catch it, it's so much powerful than like rushing thing to thing and having like surface level conversations or doing things like half heartedly and actually doing less and just creating so much more space.
I remember I did this like on my mat leave. It was like, I am getting, doing one thing today. Okay, that was like my thing. And maybe it's getting out for a walk. Maybe it's going to A playgroup or something, or maybe it's meeting a friend for coffee, but I'm not going to like go to playgroup and meet my friend for coffee.
Like, no, I'm just having one thing. And even I do that, like generally we try and do that at the weekend. It's like one day we will have one thing and then the next day, like we'll kind of keep it free and [00:28:00] we'll see how we're feeling or we'll like one day we'll have like plans with people and the next day something else.
And yes, we'll fit around like we want to go for runs or exercise, but just like simplifying everything. It just makes. Like, when we slow down and we do less. It doesn't mean we're, like, creating less. It actually means we can sometimes create more. But we just, we're able to enjoy the process so much more.
We're able to just be so much more present with what is all around and just having moments and connecting with people. Like, when we're not rushing, when we are just simplifying things, the amount of Like, since I've started simplifying things, the amount of more headspace I've had to be able to think about different things or try different things or think creatively or think about scary goals, whatever it is, it's like, it just frees up so much more headspace to actually think on a bigger level just by simplifying, [00:29:00] not like by owning less and like having some systems in there, but also by just like doing less.
And it's just more, more calming. So like when we rush, And when we're, like, packing in lots of different things, it can feel really, like, our body can go into this, like, fight or flight state, so it's quite, like, stressful on our body, on our nervous system. When we are doing less, when we are giving ourselves plenty of time, when things feel spacious, when we are not packing in loads to our days, but actually doing less, being like, what is the key thing for today?
And then, yes, there'll be other bits, but, like, really simplifying down and letting stuff go, it's just, like, life just feels so much easier. That is why simplicity is, like, a value of mine and something that I hold so dearly is because, like, when things are simple, like, I'm just able to, like, have more energy, to be more of myself.
I'm not, like, in this frantic rushing around, packing in loads of things.
So I guess with you thinking about, okay, what are the things that you [00:30:00] value? And maybe it is simplicity, like maybe things be feeling simple, like maybe that is something that you value. And then just how can you build more of that into your life? And I think when you know what your values are, when you know what's important to you, it's so much easier to then make decisions around it.
And I really encourage you just like one question to keep asking and this one we like come back to all the time when things feel hard or complicated or overwhelming or like there's a bit of rushing like building up and it's like we can feel it. It's like the questions. Okay, how can we simplify this?
And usually it is saying no, like I actually did this recently because we had the, we've been going through like selling our house and trying to sort that out and there's some other things happening and. There's some stuff that I've been involved in and I had to just basically message people and be like, I just need a, I'm gonna pause for the next like month.
Basically. I'm like, I don't have the capacity for this right now, and I'm just gonna let things go. So I got into that place of being like, how can I simplify things right now? There's these things that are happening that are, can I quite time [00:31:00] bound and they're happening right now. What can I let go of right now?
And then I can step back in? And even now things have shifted and it's like. You know, our house is sold. So it's like, okay, now I have the capacity to add in some more things that I maybe didn't have before. And just being able to do that and ask, how can I simplify things? It just like, life is just so much easier and more simple and more fun.
Like that's the key thing as well. It's like the more, the more simple things are and the more simple. I make life, like, I don't know, it's like realize like you just, you don't need, and again this is from Expedition, but it's like, you don't really need that much, like, to be happy, and actually having less, doing less, is one of the ways to like feel a bit happier, feel a bit lighter, and just feel a bit more energized.
And that's it. Again, it's only been in the last few years, like, I had this realization after Expedition or on Expedition, and I still feel it whenever I'm on Expedition, it's like, ah, this is so good. Like, it's hard, but it's in some ways it's almost easier than life because you don't have all of the different, like, [00:32:00] demands.
But what I've been able to do or like working towards and it's always a work in progress is like, okay, how can I make my life like more like an expedition? How can I simplify it? So I'm not like, yeah, expeditions like this and you come back to your life, you know, everything feels it's like if you ever, you know, if you're in a place where you go on holiday, it feels amazing.
You come back and it's like, Life feels like it's coming at you, that is a sign that you could simplify things. And what if you could make your life feel more like a holiday? I know that might sound a bit like out there, but really like if you can ask the question like, how can I simplify this? How can I make?
My life just feel, yeah, more like a holiday. So there's less of a like break. And I noticed that now because we love like we love going on holiday, but it's not the same escape that it was like expeditions, holidays, like all of that were such an escape from this like franticness of life. It was like, Oh, I can finally relax.
Whereas now we've set our life up in a way that it's like, yeah, holiday will be amazing. And we will love it. And also, [00:33:00] like, we love our life so much. And we've It feels very spacious and it feels not like a holiday, of course, like, but weekends can feel like a holiday and it's just like, they can feel like time just expands and slows down.
And even during the work week as well like we can get in that place. That, and again, not always because obviously we have deadlines and sometimes like other things happen, but we've now set our lives up in a way that it feels like there's less of a disconnect between like the holiday and then like day to day life.
It's not that like, ah, like, ah, everything's just like, feels a bit more easy just on the day to day that it's like, yeah. You don't feel you need, it's like, we don't need an escape from it. That's there you go. There's the language. It's like, I don't feel I need to escape from my life anymore. Whereas I did feel like that before I was like, I just need to like get out of this for a bit.
Now I don't feel like that. So if you ever need to feel like you're escaping from your life, like that is a sign that maybe something like you might want to change something in your life, like how you were actually doing things. And one of [00:34:00] like the most powerful questions that I know that I keep coming back to is like, how can I simplify this?
So, I'll leave you with that. I hope you enjoyed my mumblings for today. Thanks for being with me. And yeah, I know that was maybe a little bit different, but again, the simplifying like just frees up so much more creative energy. And it's just so much easier to be creative when we're not stressed, when we feel calm, when we feel spacious, it's so much easier to like do bigger, bigger things.
Things and like do things we've never done before when we're not in it in the doing when we're giving ourselves that space Spaciousness to dream to daydream to just rest and just come into that. So how can you simplify this? And if you've got any questions or if this resonates or you've got more questions on it Or if you want me to cover anything else, please please please please please please reach out.
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