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Hi, welcome to episode 35 of the Scary Goals Club podcast. Happy Friday, if you're listening to this on a Friday when it goes out. And how is your November [00:01:00] going? How is the final couple months of the year going so far? I have been, I have just been loving autumn and loving October. And I don't know, I think like for me, this time of year, I normally find really hard just with the, the clocks change at the weekend and it's darker.
And normally like I can find like my mood dips quite a lot. I'm like more lethargic, lethargic. And I find, and I've been a little bit like that, like I have noticed it, but I've just been spending as much time as possible outside. Like, and I think that's just helping so much. I might get one of those, um, blue lights, you know, that you put on in the morning that like gives you, gives you the blue light into your brain to help like wake up your circadian rhythm and wake yourself up.
I think just getting out for a walk first thing when it is light and just getting outside throughout the day is really, really helping me. Even like Tuesday, I was having a really. shit day basicallysorry for swearing, but I [00:02:00] just was like low on energy, had so much like heaviness, was like so much like beating myself up, just like everything felt really heavy.
I had like cried a lot. There was just a few different bits, but just basically being so, so hard on myself. And like anytime I sat down to do something, I was just like felt this like tightness in my chest and this like knot in my stomach. And I did a lot of like, really sitting feelings, like breathing it, breathing through it, like processing it.
And it did help shift it. And actually once I'm not doing anything anyway, I'm like trying to get stuff done on my computer and it's just not happening. Had a big cry, had a lie down and then I was like, I'm just going to go out for a walk. And it was so nice. I went out with Maple, we walked down to the river.
And I just, and because it's been like nice and sunny, I think that's helped. And I just lay on the bank of the river, like close my eyes, was like looking up at the [00:03:00] clouds for a bit and did a meditation. Like normally I do meditation inside, but it was so nice doing it outside in the sun and was watching the like ducks playing in the river and like diving under.
And then just, I was like, Lying on the grass, just like soaking it all in and like clapping maple. And then these two massive fish, I assume they were salmon. The salmon normally swim up the, up the D to go and spawn. Although I don't know what time of year that would be. I'm sure they've done their spawning.
Anyway, two massive fish. I think they were salmon. Jumped out of the river, not onto the side, but just like jumped up and splashed. And it was amazing. I just like, was like, got a fright and was delighted. I'm just like, odd in equal measure. And honestly, just that, like, just that getting outside, putting my hands like in the grass, lying on the grass, breathing in nature, like phone was away.
I was just soaking it all in. And I think doing a meditation as well, where I was really just like feeling grateful for everything. It just [00:04:00] completely shifted my energy and, oh, I just felt so much better after it. And it almost felt like that reclaimed the day. I didn't do much more after that, but it really helped almost be like a reset for then that evening and the rest of the day.
And so it's just being aware, like of my energy levels and just, knowing that if I'm trying to force something like it doesn't work and I just end up getting like more in this pit in this spiral and for me just the thing I've learned and that I'm really leaning into is okay I said I would do this thing and it's it's just not happening for whatever reason for like beating myself up whatever's going on and actually just Um, and I'm just stepping away from it and moving my body, getting outside, putting my hands on the earth, hugging a tree, just like being in nature and just completely shifting my energy.
So that's been really, really helpful. So yeah, I just, and yesterday spent loads of time outside as well, just with Flynn and we just watched diggers and, you know. Dump trucks and all of these other things that I never thought I'd be so excited about a digger and a dump truck and a yellow digger and a red digger and like [00:05:00] watching them and we were on this watching this like building site and then some of the guys would like come over and like wave and oh it was just it was so good.
So yeah I have been I've been really enjoying October and also feeling ready for November. I'm trying to think what other news. I had this, there's this event that I helped co host in Aberdeen called People Planet Pint. It's, if you've not heard of it, it's part of a bigger movement. It's like a global community.
I think that there's ones in the States, ones in Hawaii, ones like all in Australia, like all across the world. And it's all voluntary, like we volunteer, but it's sponsored. So people that come get like It was so good. I'm like I've moved like when we moved to Banchory last year. I will get into what we're talking about today, by the way, which is all about being really intentional.
So I'm going to get on to that. And this is part of it. But so it helps set this up and there every few months and we've kind of been growing it and it's just like that was one of the things when I moved back [00:06:00] to Bankory and especially like it being part of Aberdeen, Aberdeenshire, like there's a lot of oil and gas industry up here.
And like, knowing that when I wanted, when I was moving back, it was like back to the northeast, like originally from this area. So knowing that like, when I moved one, okay, deep breath, knowing that when I knew we were moving back, I wanted to build a network of people that were really passionate about climate, about nature, about, Like moving to this future that we want and like figuring out how to do that.
And so me and a couple other co hosts, we set up Aberdeen's branch of the people, planet pint. And last night, Oh, it was just so good. It was like, I'd not been in a couple of months. Like I'd had to step back for a bit, just with other stuff and house move and all of that stuff that's going on as well.
And so last one last night was my first one in like ages and it was just, I just love like. Meeting up in [00:07:00] person with amazing people who are like, so passionate about what they do, are so curious, are so interested, are so interesting, like are from completely different backgrounds, completely different countries.
Like we had, actually that'd be fun, like we're figuring out how many nationalities we had there last night. Like it was so many and it was just so amazing. Great. I'd like, especially being on a Wednesday night, it's like, like, I feel so much more and even though I like got to bed later than I normally would, even though I left early, but to drive back home, I just feel so much more energized for like the rest of the week and for today.
And I think that's the other piece. that I've been doing a lot more work around is it's like what actually brings me energy. for me, like being around other people, talking about big ideas, like sharing.
Yes, things we're working on and inspirations, but I think also what was so amazing about like last night is just having a space where we could talk about the things we're really struggling with
So, oh, it just felt, yeah, just feel so energized. So like seen and it was just such an [00:08:00] amazing thing to do.
Anyway, so there it's for today. And So for today's episode, I really want to talk about intentionality or being intentional, and I guess this does actually link to energy and like what energizes you, but it's really about how, like what it it. Okay. . I'll rewind up. So it's not what we are doing. That's going to create an outcome.
It's how we are doing it. Okay, so this is where like intentionality, just meaning like deciding on purpose, being intentional. I'm going to check my mic again because I have so much for it's been so many times the last few recordings that it's cut off. No, we did. I'm sure I can see them both. Um, is that like being, yeah, so being intentional is just.
Not operating on default, not just like sleepwalking and just [00:09:00] doing what you've always done. Just like, you know, whether it's like showing up to a meeting or showing up to an event. So I'll give an example from last night from the people planet pint. And if we can be intentional about how we are doing what we're doing, that's going to create a different outcome for us and a different outcome that's going to align more with what we actually want.
So I'll give you some examples. For example, you could be doing the same action, the same behavior, like. Being in a meeting, or speaking in a meeting, or writing an email, or writing a social media post, or writing a proposal, or whatever it is, if, like, if the energy behind it, and by energy I mean how you are thinking and feeling, okay, so kind of like, your intention behind it.
If you are thinking and feeling like I just have to get this out or like you're rushing into a meeting and you've not even like thought about it and you're like oh I just need to and you're like your mind's somewhere else like you're thinking and feeling your emotional states may [00:10:00] be one of like more high alert, maybe in a more like fight or flight state, maybe you're feeling a bit more anxious or a bit like How you are then being in that meeting or how you're being when you're like writing, like the words and the language you use when you're then writing a social media post or a proposal are going to be very different, or even when you're speaking, like if I was coming on here and speaking and being like, okay, I'm actually, do you know what, do you know what actually like inspired me for this episode today was last week.
So the podcast all about habits. I didn't record that from a very intentional energy. I recorded that and you can listen, like I listened back to it and I almost, I almost wanted to be record another podcast be like, I am so sorry that was not of the standard and of the intentionality and of the quality that I would normally want to put into a podcast.
And by quality, I don't mean like crazy preparation and writing out all these notes or anything like that. That for me. What determines the quality of the podcast is [00:11:00] being really intentional with like, how do I want to make you feel while you're listening to it? What do I, do I want to like move you and help you think a bit differently or like do something differently?
Do I want it to be entertaining and inspiring and something that you actually want to give your attention to? And last week's podcast, it wasn't that. And I could see it when I was editing it and watching it back. And then I was just like, Oh, this is all I've got me this week. Again, not having the like few weeks in advance.
I've got back to the like recording it the day before it goes out. But anyway, here we are. And no judgment on myself. No judgment. I just, this is just what it is at the moment. And that's okay. So even like listening to it record, like editing it, I was like, Oh, I was like, this is not. Like the intention's not there.
You can see it even behind my eyes. I'm like a bit tired. I'm like rushing through. It's not as like coherent. I do get into the swing of it a little bit, but like listening to back, like it's quite short, which is fine, but it's not very like chatty. I'm not giving that many like examples. It's quite like [00:12:00] clinical and it's not really my style and it's not my, like I wasn't being fully intentional.
And actually when I, I knew I didn't catch it in the moment I knew after. When I was recording it, it was very much, uh, I think I was like, gonna go pick Flynn up from nursery and I was like, okay cool, I've got 20 minutes. I was like, I'll just, it was like, I'll just get it done. That was the energy. So I'll just get it done, would be like my thought, my like, the intention behind it.
And then how I was feeling was a little bit like, kind of rushing, quite just like, Go, go, go. Okay. Let's just like get it done. And I just want to offer that this might be something that is sneaking in to something that you're doing throughout your whole day. I know this used to be, still is obviously for me, and I know I coach like a lot of clients on this is, you know, are you, is there any bits of you're like, Oh, I'll just get this thing done.
And you're doing it. You're not like fully present. You're not really thinking about it. And so actually the quality of what you do is going to be lower, it's just like a bit rushed. And so. [00:13:00] Like when you can be really intentional with doing the actions.
So like this, you know, over these, what's this episode 35, over these 35 podcasts I've recorded plus the scary girls club calls actually. So there's some extra ones. I can't even, I'm like, I'm like losing track of actually what the number is. But anyway, 35 that I've stood up here and chatted or interviewed someone like the same, I have done the same actions every single week.
I have stood up, I have opened my mouth. I have talked. And talk to the camera and that is it. So like the actions are the same, but the outcome, the result, like what is what? Like podcast is done is created is very different. Some of them may move you. Sometimes I will record a podcast and like you guys will reach out and be like, Oh my God, I resonate so much with that.
Or like, for sharing. So like if I'm more vulnerable, like I'm still doing the same thing of speaking the words, but it's resonated on a deeper level and it's maybe made a bigger [00:14:00] impact. Even though I've talked for the same amount of time, I've stood up here, like the background is the same. I've maybe got the same outfit on, like that stuff's not changed.
But how I am being when I'm speaking, which is how I'm thinking and feeling, that is driving how I'm actually showing up, and therefore what the outcome is. And it is the same with anything you do. If you think about any time you're just like, I just have to get this email out, and it's rushed, and you miss something,That's because it was coming from a place where it was just like, I just have to get this out. Or, I've done that with social media posts sometimes. I'm just like, oh, I just have to get this out. And it's like, It just doesn't resonate with people because, like, people can tell there's no intention behind it.
Like, we, even if logically, like, we can't explain or be like, well, this word was here or it didn't this. We know, like, when we are reading words or like watching someone or sensing something that's going on, like our body is picking up all of these cues, our mind is processing it and in turn, and like.
interpreting what's going on. And it makes us [00:15:00] feel a certain way when we're listening to something, reading something, watching something, even if we don't like understand exactly what the difference is. But like, we can tell because we are humans, we're mammals, we're animals, like we can tell how someone else is feeling, even though they could be saying the right words and like saying all the right things, but we know something is like a bit off or a bit different.
So like, if what they're saying, is a bit different than like, like how they're saying it. It's subtle, like their body language, their cues, like we've maybe don't even know specifically what it is. Again, there's probably body language experts who can talk about all of this, but like language experts that can, can say why, but we as humans, we can pick up on that.
And so when you are one, like the more intentional you can be with how you are doing something. So it's not about like, what you're doing, it's how you're doing it, it's who you're being while you're doing the thing, that's what's going to change the outcome for you. And it doesn't take any more, like oftentimes it's like, okay, what do I need to do to [00:16:00] do the thing?
And I like, whatever that is of your scary goal, I want to offer, yes, action is important for sure. You can't just like visualize your scary goal and then like, it happens magically. Like you have to take steps towards it, who you are being and like intention behind. The action that matters more than the action itself, which is why if it's like, you could follow the same steps as someone else and you get a different outcome because they were being different when they were doing those steps.
Or it's like, you could. You know, I'm trying to think of other examples, and I'll give you just a really interesting example that happened even last night at the People Planet pint. So I, in the drive in, I turned off the radio, like I wasn't listening to anything, and I was just visualizing, okay, how do I want to be?
When I am like walking in there, when I'm welcoming people, when they come in, when I'm like introducing people and like making people feel comfortable, like how do I want to be? And I was [00:17:00] so intentional with imagining, like imagining myself in advance, walking in, how I was holding myself, how I was having conversations, like how that was all going.
Whereas before I have walked in, even specifically people, planet pint events, I've been to the past. Where I haven't been intentional and I've got in and maybe been a bit flustered, or maybe been a bit tired, or maybe been a bit whatever, and I'm a little bit feeling like, on the back foot almost. It's like I've not, I have not been intentional, so I'm just at the effect of like, what's going on when I get in there.
Whereas, This time I was very intentional with, like, whatever is going on, this is how I am going to be. I'm not going to be, Like, I'm going to control me and how I am showing up. Even though the same things were happening, I was having conversations. I was, like, showing people where the bar was and where this was and introducing people.
Like, the same things were happening, but I was deciding who I wanted to be. And it was so interesting because there were other people that were in the bar. Some of them came up to me and they were like, Oh, hi. And they were like, asking me these questions. [00:18:00] It's like, I don't work here. And they were like, you don't work here.
You're just giving off an air of like, you know, what's going on and like of confidence. And I was like, that is so interesting because That was what I was being really intentional about before I even walked in. Like the whole drive in, like 30 minutes to get into Aberdeen from where I am, the whole time I was like imagining how I was being and like how I was holding myself, what my energy was going to be when I was like walking into that room and for the evening as well.
And so It's so interesting. The things were the same, but the outcome is that, you know, other people that I didn't even know were like, Oh, you must know what's going on. You seem like someone that knows what's going on. I was like, I do for this group over here. I literally have no idea what's going on over here.
So that's just a really like fun example of how, when we are intentional about how we are doing something, we can influence the outcome, which could be how people perceive [00:19:00] us. It could be like, You know, one of the outcomes I guess I was wanting was like connection and feeling like I was lit, like understanding and listening to people and connecting with them on a deeper level and having deeper conversations, not just like letting about or being distracted or being like, Oh wait, this is over here.
This over here. It was like very intentional so that when I was speaking to people, I could fully focus on what they were saying and like go deep in the conversations or like introduce them to someone else. Not just be like, Huh, I know how I can connect you with, or I know what's going on here. And yeah, it was just so, it's just so fun and it's thinking like,
like for you with your scary goal or even just practicing it, like it doesn't have to be specifically for your scary goal, but practicing it today, really like, again, it comes back to visualization. Visualization is so, so powerful. Visualization. Okay. Thank you. Here we go. Some, some words.
So visualization is like imagining what is happening before it happens. Not everyone can visualize and see images in their [00:20:00] mind. If this is you, you can write out as well. So you can write out like exactly what's happening. But the key thing is imagining how you are being, how you're holding yourself, like who you are being in those moments.
And then intention is just that deciding on purpose. It's not just Going into a meeting, into a situation, writing an email, doing this, just on like whatever you're feeling. You're just reacting to that. It's being like, no, how am I thinking and feeling? What is the energy I'm putting into this? Because that is going to influence and change the outcome.
I can, I find it even with like a social media post when I am really connecting with an emotion, when I am like feeling inspired or moved or like. excited about something, other people get excited about it as well. Like, through the language I use, through how, like, the words I use, through how I speak, even when it's, like, written, other people get excited as well.
When I'm not, when I'm just like, oh, I need to put something out, like, it doesn't resonate as much with other people. So, thinking about that with you, what Even just practicing it today, it is [00:21:00] so fun, it's just, what's coming up? Have you got a meeting? Have you got a call? Have you got an interaction with a friend, a partner, a child, or whatever, like someone, a neighbor, like, it doesn't really matter.
Any interaction that you have with another person, could be one example. Or if you are writing a social media post, writing an email, writing a text message to someone, writing like anything that's written or a physical interaction with someone. Or it could be like, if you're standing up on video or like filming yourself, that could work too.
Like before you do it, don't even think about like, Oh, the doing it and I need to do it. Like, don't think about the actions of it. Close your eyes, take some deep breaths and just imagine Who you are being in that moment when you're doing it, play it in your head. How are you holding yourself? How are you moving?
How are you like walking or sharing your opinion or like raising something that's important or writing those words or speak? And it gets you like [00:22:00] when you can imagine who you are being, you're rehearsing in advance. And so when you go, when you go to actually do it, you've already kind of like pre programmed your brain to just do it a bit more automatically.
It's the same with, I've done a previous episode on this, but it's the same with like Athletes, Olympic athletes, like there's so much research that our brain doesn't know the difference between what is real, when it's really happening, and when we imagine and we close our eyes and we visualize it. So when we can visualize, we're essentially preparing in advance.
It's like we're going through the motions, being intentional, and before the actual thing happens and it means then we can create more of the outcome that we want rather than just going into it and almost like being at the effect of whatever like everyone else is doing. It's like also the other thing to know is like humans We have these things called mirror neurons.
So we can very much pick up on how this is how we can pick up on like how others are feeling, but we also mimic that. So it's like, you know, if you walk into a room, or if someone is really stressed or really [00:23:00] anxious, you feel it like you can pick up on it. And it's like, why, when like babies, they hear other babies crying, they cry because they feel the pain.
They don't know that it's not them crying. They hear the cry and they think they're upset or in pain. Or like when you smile at a baby and it smiles back, like, or you smile at someone and they smile back, that is mirror neurons at work. So our brains are like syncing us with other people, which means when people are feeling a certain way, we can quickly, snap into that if we are not really intentional with actually how we want to be feeling.
Which is why it's like if you go into a meeting or into something where people are a bit like okay this thing's happened there's like a panic and there's like stress. we can pick up on that and it can be easy to get sucked into it and like when we're Panicked or like worrying about something our creativity is shut down.
We're just focusing on survival So we're not coming up with solutions and like figuring out what to do. It's the same It's like Instead of just going [00:24:00] into situations and then your mirror neurons are kicking in and you're suddenly stressed and everyone's stressed and it's like, stress is contagious.
Like if someone's stressed, like other people pick up on it. Instead, when you can be really intentional and you can decide on purpose by visualizing, by like rehearsing it, by like imagining how you are being, how you're holding yourself, like what you're like, how you're speaking, how you're everything.
You can then actually go in and not get caught up with, for example, like the stress and it's like how, and especially this is so important if you're a leader, if you work in teams, like going into a room, if there's people that are stressed, if you can come in and be that calm person and maybe when you're calm, like your voice slows down, maybe you're like having more pauses, your movements are slowing, your voice is like a little bit quieter, just like I'm doing now, like.
You're in this kind of calm place. Everyone else will start to calm around you. It's amazing. It's the wildest thing. It's so cool. And it's like, we don't realize that this is happening. [00:25:00] We can just get swept up in what other people are feeling and we suddenly feel it as well. When we realize actually we get to decide and we can control how we think and feel.
We can shift our energetic state, our energy. And then we can change how we're actually being, and we can influence what's happening around us, and we can create the outcome that we want. So, play with it, it's so fun, it's like, it's like the most fun thing, and it's just knowing that every single thing that you are doing, and try it out today, try it out over the next week, just play with it.
What if you could just, like, pause and put a little bit of intention behind it, like, close your eyes for a few seconds before you do the thing, whatever it is, and just imagine, like, doing it in a way that, like, you ultimately want to, where you are being how you want to be. and how you're being in that situation.
So let me know how you get on with this. It's so fun. And also if you've got any questions, any comments, anything, please, please, please get in touch. And also if [00:26:00] you haven't signed up yet to what month are we? Oh yeah, November's Scary Goals Club call, which is next Thursday. The, oh my gosh, I've done this again.
I haven't picked it up. I think it is the 7th. Let me just check that it's the 7th. Oh my gosh, I can't believe there's two podcasts in a row. I haven't actually got the date. Before I do it, it's the seven! Okay, one o'clock, GMT, 7th of November, Thursday, sign up the links in the show notes. And we are diving specifically into habits.
So we're going to get like, get your scary goal, get really specific about your future self, get really specific about a habit that you want to build over the next month. So by like early December, you're going to have this habit that is just part of what you do. And it's moving you towards your scary goal.
That is the aim of the Scary Goals Club. Next. Scary Goals Club. scarygoalsclub. com It's a mouthful, isn't it? Anyway, that's the aim of the party next week's party. So share with anyone you think might be interested. Come along. Obviously the recording will go back up on the podcast, [00:27:00] but if you're there live, like you can ask me any questions, bring any questions you have in your scary goal, anywhere you're getting stuck, anything, and I will make sure I answer them all.
And we're going to do some workshopping on habits and Yeah, go play with being intentional, shifting your energy, and have fun with it, and have an amazing rest of the day, an amazing week ahead. I'll see you in the Scary Goals Club Party next week. Okay, bye. Mwah! Mwah! [00:28:00]
