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Hello, I'm still adjusting my hair. You guys look good. It's like, it's one o'clock. Let's go. Um, awesome. How are you doing [00:01:00] today? Just checking my mic and everything. Right. So welcome to, no, I had to check there. I was gonna say October's Scary Goals Club, November's Scary Goals Club Cull, and we're diving into Goals habits.
So get ready, it's gonna be very workshoppy, but obviously you'll have the recording afterwards so you can. Take away if you need to kind of go back through stuff, but we're going to be doing stuff in real time. So grab your phone notes, grab a piece of paper, like whatever works. And we're going to be like writing stuff down or use the chat as well.
So if you want, just remind you if you've been on the call before. So if you want to grab the Q and a box and pull that up, you should see it like down the bottom of zoom. If you're on your phone, um, Actually, that's a good point. I think it's down the bottom as well and you can grab and like get the Q& A.
Sorry, I'm still like, still squirting my hair. Um, so if you pull up the Q& A box and just, that is what we are going to use to communicate during the [00:02:00] call. So if you have, like, as we go along, I'll ask you and put stuff in the Q& A. It's so powerful because You can learn from other people. I can learn from you.
You can learn from me. We can all learn from each other. So use the Q& A box, put anything in there, any of the answers to your questions and I'll read them out as I go. Um, I won't read your name, so don't worry, it will be anonymous and yeah, grab something to write with, piece of paper or your phone notes.
And also if you have any questions, like if like outside of the goal habits, which is what we're going to be diving into, like a bit of workshopping. I've got some time at the end that I'm going to answer any of the questions you have and give you like dedicated support and coaching around anything where you're getting stuck with any goals that you're working towards.
Anything like time habits, goals that you're working. So like put any questions also in the Q and a box of like something you want coaching with or anywhere you're getting stuck or anything that feels really like heavy or hard or you're like, Oh, I can't seem to get over this one [00:03:00] bit. And I've had, um, some questions come in in advance, so I will make sure that I coach on that as well at the end.
So if you want me to coach on anything about your scary goals, make sure you put the question in the Q& A box now and I will dive into that. Okay. Awesome. So let's see. I have a few little notes here. Okay. So we're diving into goal habits today. So my aim is that at the end of this session together that you're going to leave knowing, okay, exactly what habit you're going to practice building over the next month.
So until our next call, and you're going to know exactly why you want to do it. You know, that it's moving you towards your goal. You're going to know like how you're going to make it super easy, how you're going to track it. You're going to feel really like empowered to just get on and start building this habit.
And habits are so powerful. I just want to kind of recap before we dive in because like we can have these goals and like goals are amazing but if we're not [00:04:00] actually doing the things that are getting us towards our goals then we may never reach the goals. Like you can have a goal and it can just sit there as this goal unless we are doing like taking the steps towards it.
And the amazing thing about habits is like Our brain loves to conserve energy and it builds habits very, very quickly. So it means that like one side of that is a lot of what you are doing at the moment is habitual is on default based on things in the past, how you've done things in the past. If you are having a goal that is different than anything you've done before, doing what you've always done in the past, isn't necessarily going to get you there.
And so it might just stay as this goal, but it's not getting any closer. And so what we want to be doing is instead thinking, okay, this is the goal that you're going towards. Who is that person? And then how, like, what kind of habits would they be building? And actually building in those habits so that without much effort, habits take a little bit of effort at the start, but then very quickly, because our brain builds habits so, so quickly, and it's amazing at doing that.
When you can build habits [00:05:00] that are moving in the direction you want to go, it's so much easier to just automatically, Like do the things that are going to get you there and we'll get into specific examples, but that's what we're diving into today is like making it just so easy to actually become the person who's creating your goal and just like taking different action and moving towards where you want to go.
So hopefully that will make sense. Let's just start before we dive, like really into it, bring to mind. What is that one goal? You might have a few different goals you're working on. Pick one for the purpose of this session. So bring it to mind. I mean, you're welcome to put it in the Q& A, but you don't have to just even like have that in your mind.
What is that one goal like for this session that you're going to build a habit towards? You can like close your eyes, imagine it a little bit. Okay. We're going to do a bit of visualization. So now I want you to again, close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths. [00:06:00] We can do it together.
So closing our eyes makes it really helpful because we can tune into imagining, like we're not seeing the wherever we are in our environment, like we're not having that input so we can really get into our imagination. And now I want you to really imagine, so you have created your goal, like it's already done at some point in the future, who is that person?
Who is that version of you? Maybe it's like six months from now, maybe it's a year from now, like almost playing a movie in your mind. Who is that person? What are they like? And if you find this hard, Um, maybe you can imagine stuff visually, you can write it down as well. So that's another way to do it is just grab a pen and paper or your phone notes and just write out like how that person is being.
So even imagining like, how are [00:07:00] they walking? How are they holding themselves? How are they speaking to others? What kind of things are they doing? Like what does a day look like for them? What kind of things are they doing? Like when they get up in the morning, what kind of things are they doing when they maybe they're at their desk, maybe they're interacting with other people, maybe they're with friends, maybe they're with family, like.
Laying in your mind a movie like what is their day like what kind of things are they doing
really feel that this is you in the future so you're really tapping into your future self that version of you in the future that is you and they've already created your goal and what are they not doing that maybe you are how are they like thinking differently than you're thinking
so when you're ready you [00:08:00] can keep imagining for a little bit longer or just take a few deep breaths and kind of Come back into the room and if you want either jot things down in a notebook or anything or put something in the Q& A and I can kind of share some of these. So like when you were imagining that future version of you that's already created that goal, like what kind of things are they doing differently than you are?
And as you're putting stuff in the Q& A, I'll give you some like specific examples. So like, for example, with the goal, when. And my goal was to launch a podcast and record 30 episodes. Like my future self wasn't like going back and forth on like second guessing herself of like, Oh, should I do it on this?
Should I do it on this? Oh wait, that's not good enough. She wasn't like saying it wasn't good enough. She was just like turning up, putting on the mic, putting on the computer and recording [00:09:00] an episode. She wasn't like, overthinking it too much. She was just editing it. She wasn't like not putting stuff out in the world.
She was just like editing it, publishing it, like putting it out there. And she was showing up speaking confidently and speaking openly and being relaxed. So those would be some of the things like when I was imagining my future self, like with the podcast goal, those are the things that I would be doing that maybe I wasn't doing before I'd actually started that goal.
So again, feel free to share anything in the Q and A. And these are things that they're doing. So also habits that they have, like What things are they doing on a day to day basis to take care of themselves, to help them. Get towards the goal. Um, thanks for paying in some comments. Okay. Second guessing is a huge one.
Yeah, I hear. Yeah. I think having an easily repeatable weekly schedule at the moment, everything I [00:10:00] do is as, and when I think about it is in terms of that makes sense. Okay. So that version of you in the future isn't thinking in the moment about, Oh, what should I be focusing on now? They have maybe. Maybe it's a repeatable schedule or they have an idea of like, okay, this is what I'm doing this week, or this is what I'm doing today.
Like ahead of the event. Is that what you're kind of thinking rather than deciding like in the moment or like this or this or this. So maybe they're being a bit more strategic with their planning, maybe putting a bit more intent. Okay. Yeah. So maybe being a bit more intentional with the energy that they're putting into like thinking ahead, maybe thinking ahead of kind of how they want their week to be and then, okay, what's going to help them get there.
So being a bit more strategic with that. Okay. Yeah. So any of these things, like it can be so powerful when we imagine, okay, what is that person like? And if it's sometimes hard to think of you in the future, some people find that challenging. It can also be helpful to think like, okay, what a person that has created this goal, how would they be [00:11:00] thinking?
Like what would they be doing? That's maybe different to how you're doing things now. So again, you can take this away as well. And like, just. The more that you can visualize and dream and imagine your future self and connect with how they are being the more that you can kind of start being like, Oh, I can, I can be that person right now.
And that's how you make it easier to go and actually make the goal happen. Like you get so much wisdom and inspiration when we can actually connect with our future selves. Okay. So now take like all the things that you kind of saw in your mind or. Like, things that you wrote down, pick one, how could you pick something, some version of that that's going to be a habit.
So a habit is just like a behavior that you do over and over again. And so maybe like with the having an easily repeatable schedule. So maybe it's like You know, the habit is to, you know, plan your [00:12:00] day at the start of the day or like plan your day the night before or whatever it is, or plan a few days ahead at the start of the week or something like that.
So thinking about, okay, how can you, that behavior that they're doing, what is one habit that you want to build over the next month? And like writing that down. So again, for, for the podcasting, the habit was for me was like to record a podcast, like every single week, like that was the habit that I was building.
And actually then, then I got into maybe like doing a few weeks in advance, but it was like, the habit I was building was every single week, no matter what standing up, like, or like imagining what I wanted to talk about in that, like thinking about it, standing up and talking, recording it, editing it, publishing it.
And like, Rinse and repeat. So that was the habit I was trying to build for doing the podcast was like, just actually recording something every single week and it not [00:13:00] taking ages, but it did take a while at first and then it got quicker and quicker. So have that written down and really think then the next piece, like once you have, so this is almost the, like, the first step that we've gone through is that like.
Imagining with your future self and then picking one goal. Oh, sorry, one habit, writing it down and then really connecting with like, why do you want to do it? Like, why do you want to build this habit? And the reason that like having a why is so powerful is like, there is going to be times that you don't want to do it.
It's like, why do you want to do the goal? Why do you want to do the habit that's going to help you get to the goal? Or why do you want to do the habit anyway? And like, even just pausing for a moment now, you can put it in the chat or just have it written down, but like imagining. What are like five different reasons why you want to build this habit that is going to help you when in the moments you're like, Oh, you know, so whether it's like building a repeatable schedule or like planning a little bit in advance is like, when you're like, [00:14:00] I don't want to plan.
It's like, no, but this is why, this is why I want to do it. So feel free to share, like, why would you want to build this habit at all?
And certainly like, One of, one of the reasons, like I'll give you a personal reason of like why I want to build habits, and this applies to any habit for me, is like, I know that once I have the skill of building any habit, I know that I can apply it to anything. So it's almost like, It almost doesn't for me.
It doesn't matter in some ways what the habit is. Yes, there's habits that are helpful and they're moving me to where I want to go. But I know that if I can build a habit where I say I'm going to do something and I actually go and do it, like I know that that builds trust, self confidence and belief in myself that when I say I'm going to do something, I will actually do it.
So I'm like, if I commit and I'm like, yes, I'm definitely going after this. Like I know that I'm going to make it happen. So I think anything like that. Like that, [00:15:00] take that if that's a useful reason of like why you want to build a habit is just knowing that like there's so many benefits from it beyond actually like doing the habit is just being like, huh, I stuck at this thing.
It was really boring or I didn't want to do or felt a bit like blah and I can be bothered at first and I did it and now I'm seeing the effects of it. Um, okay. So, okay, here is. That's one of your habits. Okay. To spend half an hour a day on a trial project, no outcome needed, just to experiment. Fun. Yeah. I love that.
Just like no pressure, just experimenting, just playing, just like doing that. Why? To come up with new ideas, improve my skills and confidence with tackling new client projects. So fun. Yeah. That is really fun. So again, anything like that, like anchoring to that why and really being [00:16:00] like, okay, I That is why you want to do it.
Okay, so, you have, you've connected with your future self, you've imagined what they're doing, you've come up with your habit, you've got your whys. The key thing now, so the next step, is to then think, okay, how can you make it, like, so easy? Like, ridiculously easy. Ridiculously easy. And so, the reason we want to do this, again, is like, when we are building a habit, our brain loves to form habits, and it's formed lots of habits.
Changing them will always require more energy. It will always want to go back to like, what it's done before, because a lot of times we don't even realize we're doing it. Like, you know, you might start your day and you just have a quick scroll and then you do this. And before you know, you're like, Oh wait, it's like half 10.
Like that might be habitual. And so then to change and to be like planning or intentional with your day or like have half an hour a day on a trial project when you're used to like not doing that and only like delivering on work that you already have, that is going to require energy and a lot of like [00:17:00] cognitive energy to think about it while you're actually doing it.
So the easier you can make it, In the beginning, the easier it's going to be to actually like start it, to do it, to keep doing it and to build the habit. And the key thing is like, you can always make it longer. Like, so say it's like a length of time. You can always lengthen it afterwards. And I'll give you an example.
So like with, with the podcast, like my, when I was recording it, the way that I made it like super easy is I was like, I'm just going to talk for five minutes. That was my minimum threshold and I knew I think the first podcast was like 10 minutes behind you that if I got on and was like, Okay, I can however shit I was feeling and however much I was like, I don't know what I have to say.
Oh, like whatever was going on. I was like, Okay, I can stand up and talk. for five minutes for sure. And of course it would then become like 15 minutes or like, you know, some of them are shorter and are 15 and some I'm like, [00:18:00] wow, that was 35 minutes of like ramblings or whatever. But like the, the entry point, the barrier to entry as it were, I made as low as possible.
So like when it was like, you just have to do five minutes. I was like, okay, I can do that. And knowing that like helped me get up week after week after week while I was building the habit of like doing something I'd never done before, doing it again and going through the process and make, and like, it just helped me.
So thinking about with your habit that you want to build, how can you make it as easy as possible? Like ridiculously easy, you'll know that it is a good level of easiness when you're like, Oh, I could totally do that. Or you almost want to go and like, do it now. You're like, Oh, I could just go and do it now.
So even thinking with the trial project, you know, saying spending half an hour a day, what if it was like 10 minutes? Or like 15 minutes, like what if because sometimes you know if there's other things on and it's this and it's easy to be like, [00:19:00] Oh, I don't have a spare half an hour. It's like our brain will throw us loads of excuses.
So it's like, okay, how can you make it as simple as possible. What if it's like, well, okay, five minutes on a trial project or 10. Like, what is the minimum? Amount of time you could put on a trial project to still like, get the outcome of building the habit. You can always make it longer later, but like what feels like when you were, it'd be like, Oh, that feels so easy.
So thinking about it with you and like putting it in the Q and a as well, if you want of like, what could that be? Oh yeah. So even a five minute research or draft an idea would help. Right. Yeah. So it's basically, it's like, what is it you're ultimately wanting to do? Right. Right. Is it the trial project or is it just expect for like coming up with new ideas or like thinking in a different way?
So then it's like, okay, what if it's five minutes and you have your habit, you're building every single day and you're like, okay, today feels like there's a lot on, or I'm tired or there's whatever is, something has changed. And you're like, full, it's like, okay, [00:20:00] five minutes, let's just sit and like meditate and imagine an idea, or let's just like go for a walk and think about something or have a cup of tea and stare at the window or do some research, as you said.
So, yeah. How does that like. feel or like what's coming up when you think about doing five minutes
and then also with the like the repeatable schedule or like the weekly weekly schedule or maybe it's like planning a bit in advance again what if you can make that five minutes If it was something like, okay, the start of the day, I'm going to spend five minutes and just map out my day or the day before I'm going to spend five minutes and like map out tomorrow and just have a bit of a like, okay, this is what's happening tomorrow.
Or like at the start of the week, I'm going to spend five minutes and map out the week. You might spend longer. That's the thing. Like it might, you might spend 15 minutes on it, but if it's too long, then it's harder to actually start. Okay. So yeah, let me know in [00:21:00] the Q and A. Okay. Bye.
So this is on the five minutes, drafting an idea, much easier to fit in.
I've tried this week to start it and manage two days out of three as I ran out of time on one day. Okay. So even right. Okay. So even with that, it's like, you know, the day of like running out of time, if this is something that's important, how can you build it in? So that this is something you maybe do first, like the having the five minutes of researching, or what, if it's like, how can you tag it to another habit you're doing anyway, when you're having your lunch, what if you think about the thing then, or start testing out something then, or like thinking about it.
So if this is something that's important to you to like broaden and like play with new ideas that It's not something that like gets done later, but it actually is like one of the first things that you get done. And even like, imagine if it was just five minutes, like maybe it's not running out of [00:22:00] time.
Cause you'd be like, okay, I've got two minutes. Let me just like, imagine something. And like, again, you're going through the creative process of imagining something a bit different, testing something a bit different. So you're like, cool. I've done it for today. It's just like building that muscle of thinking a different way, doing something differently.
Um, and. So planning for the day sounds like a better use of my time than scrolling and like a good start. Yeah so just anything that or whatever your habit was that you wanted to to build um and just how can you make it so simple and so easy and just like yeah keeping it like as simple and easy and really thinking with that like again when in the day It's going to be useful for you to do it.
So for me, for example, when I'm building like an exercise habit, I like, we'll do it first if I can at all, because if not, like all I'm thinking about is like, I'm almost like you never put it in my calendar. I'm still negotiating. I'm like, [00:23:00] Oh, but. There's this now and there's this like okay maybe I'll go for a shorter run and maybe I'll do this like I start to negotiate if I just get the thing done first thing if it's something that's really important and I'm building a habit I'm like okay cool that's just done.
So even just thinking about that and again with the podcasting it would be often I'd record it like my first work day of the week is a Tuesday and I would record it on a Tuesday morning and I'd be like it is done like that's like the first thing I'm like imagining coming up with ideas recording it and it's like Done the first thing of the week.
It's like, well, I'm building that habit. I find that so much easier. So you don't have to, but again, thinking if it's something that your brain will come up with all the excuses of delaying, then when can you put it in and can you put it in one of the first things that you do and just building an idea.
So, doing it first is a great idea, I just assumed it had to be last. You literally can do it whenever you want. So, and making it fun as well, so it's like thinking about how it can be easy, which is shortening the length of time, and like making it as easy as possible, but also like, how can you make it really fun?
So, for example, and like, put anything in the Q& [00:24:00] A, but like, For example, if you're spending a few minutes at the start of the day planning or like the day before, can you light a candle? Can you like put some tunes on or like make it a really nice thing? Or if you are, yeah, testing out new ideas, can you again, put some tunes on?
Like, how can you make it something that you genuinely want to look like, look forward to? Um, for me with the podcasting, I would go out for a walk first thing. And that's how I would come up with my ideas for like what I was going to do it on. And like that felt really nice. So the whole process, the creative process of like coming up with what I wanted to speak about and then recording it, like, and I put tunes on and have a dance about it.
Like it felt really fun, even when it felt really scary. And I was like, I don't want to go video talk. It was like just five minutes. Put some tunes on, like, have a dance, go out for a walk, um, so, oh, is a fun thing for you. Okay. That's why I put it last as I enjoy it. So it didn't feel like work. Oh, so fun.
Yeah. What if it was first? What if it was, I mean, you can put it whenever, but like [00:25:00] sprinkle it at the start of your day and start your day with like, A bit of joy and a bit of fun, or have it last to like, end on a high, just play, like, just playing with it. And just seeing what feels really good. Like that's the key thing with habits is like making them like, there's going to be lots of resistance from your brain anyway, because whenever we're doing something new, so it's like making it playful, making it fun, making it like, I'm just playing with it.
Just seeing what works. Okay. And then the final piece. So we've like decided you've got your why. Connected with your future self and you've decided you've got your why, you've made it super easy, and thinking about making it fun. And then the third piece is tracking it. So this is something that can be really satisfying and rewarding to our brain, is like whenever we track doing something, like we're ticking something off a list, or you can put, uh, do I have it here?
Let me just see. I don't have it exactly, but here you go. You get some, some stones and like, Or that's [00:26:00] some coral, I think, on a rock. Anyway, some stone and some shells. Put it in a jar, like, every time you do it, marbles, pasta, put a bead, you can put something in a jar to track it every time you do it. Grab a piece of paper, like, stick it on your fridge or somewhere that you see it and, like, take it off if you do it.
While you're building the habit, Like can feel really satisfying and rewarding to your brain. And then eventually it'll get to the point that it'll just be what you're doing, but the intrinsic motivation of it will be really satisfying. So you will just, for example, with the podcasting, once I got into the swing of it, it was just quite easy.
Like I didn't need to like, And it's the same, you know, if you were building the planning habits, like eventually we get to the point where you've got much more like headspace and you're thinking more strategically and you're like, Oh, genuinely, this feels good. So going back to how things used to be, we'll feel like you won't want to do it.
So you'll be intrinsically motivated to keep going. So even just thinking [00:27:00] like, how do you want to track this while you're building your habit? Think about that. Do you want to grab a piece of paper? Do you want to put something in a jar? Or even on a piece of paper, you can draw like little hearts or like little flowers or something.
Like, you can be creative with it. It doesn't really matter, but just having something that's fun to like, to be like, yes, I did it. Even if it's five minutes or two minutes, it's like, yes, I did it. Like, that's the key thing is just doing it and then building the habit. And then you can always like increase the time later.
So thinking about that, if you've got any ideas of how you want to track it, like, put them in the Q& A as well.
So, and then the key thing, like, with all of this is being kind to yourself. There's no, like, right and, like, If you miss a day or you miss doing it, like it's all good. This is like a skill you're learning your brain and want to default back. It won't [00:28:00] want to do it. That's okay. And just being kind to yourself and just being like, okay, I'll just like get back on track the next day or get back on track this afternoon.
Like there's no like right or wrong. It's not to be like, well, I didn't do it one day. Like that's it. I'm just like tearing it all off. It's just, just be so kind to yourself while you're doing this. Like you're learning so much in the whole, in the whole process. And my diary has a habit tracker, which is great.
Awesome. Yeah. Perfect. So perfect. Put that in, start tracking it, see how you get on and then building that in. And like, you'll notice a difference even in, even within a couple of weeks, it'll just become a bit more like, Oh, this is just what I do. And then certainly by a month, it'll just be part of your day.
You'll just have like built that in. So you might find you don't even need to track anymore. You don't want to, but yeah, habit tracker. That sense. That sounds really fun. So, okay, we're almost at time, but so any questions put them in about your goals. I did get one in advance. I'm going to stay on and answer that question.
If you [00:29:00] need to leave, you can. The recording will be up. But if you do have any questions you want me to answer anonymously. Like, if you're getting stuck around your scary goal or anything, put it in the Q& A and I'll make sure I answer it. So, okay. This was a question I got through Instagram, which was how to keep focused when it looks like the goal might be impossible.
Okay. So this is really fun. Get ready for some coaching. Okay. So first of all, I just want to offer that the goal might be impossible is a belief. Okay. Okay, it's a story that your brain is telling you about the goal. So there's the goal. And then your brain's interpretation of the goal is that this goal might be, the goal might be impossible.
And the reason that I say that is that even just separating it out, someone else might look at the goal and be like, Oh, that's totally possible. Or like, of course that's possible. You [00:30:00] could even get like 99 people might say it's impossible. One person might be like, Oh yeah, that's totally possible. So just knowing that the goal might be impossible.
Maybe a lot of people would agree with you, but there might be some people that don't agree. So it is your brain's belief based on your upbringing, your past, like what has happened. Also thinking like, you know, when, so anything that we're believing, like a belief, a thought, when we think it, it makes us feel a certain way in our body.
Okay. Which drives our behavior. So for example, when you're thinking the goal might be impossible, how are you going to be feeling when you think that? I know that if I think like the goal might be impossible, I feel a bit like. Well, actually two bits. It depends. I can almost feel defeated and a bit like, well, almost like, well, what's the point.
But then part of me, like, I can also like, it can be quite motivating and I'm like, well, I'm going to show it's not impossible. So it [00:31:00] can kind of depend either way, which is also so interesting that like, just like a belief can be the same thing can be motivating to someone and like completely shut someone else down.
So that's why it's so important to understand, okay, what are beliefs that our brain is thinking? Thoughts that we have, the story, and then how does that story make us feel? So checking in with you, how does it make you feel when you think the goal might be impossible? If it is more like defeat or like, oh, heavy, there's a bit of like, like, that's just really good to know because even just thinking then again, how we're feeling drives our behavior.
So what is it making you want to do? If I'm feeling defeated and a bit like, oh. Like, it makes me not want to do anything. It makes me not want to do anything towards a goal if I'm like, if I was like, Oh, well, it might be impossible. So it's almost like, well, what's the point? Why would I even try? So if that is you, it's really good to understand that because if you're feeling like you're maybe not taking the action you want, or things feel a bit like [00:32:00] heavy when you're thinking about the goal, it's because of this belief, the goal might be impossible.
Now. Hang on. Where was I going to? I didn't. Okay. So the key thing with like all of this is knowing there's, there's the goal and then there's what you want to think about it and what you think about the goal drives how you feel, which drives what you do or don't do. So like your forward momentum and what you're doing is driven by how you are thinking about the goal, not the goal itself.
So you could have the same goal and whether you think it's impossible or like, you know, I'm going to go all in on this goal, you're going to have two very different outcomes. And really just checking in, like, again, if you think it's impossible, how do you know it's impossible? Like what evidence, and really just checking in, like what evidence is your brain using that it's impossible?
Is there like, a number attached to it and a timeline and you're [00:33:00] looking at it and it's like whatever you've done in the past you're trying to project it forward and it's like well I haven't done this therefore this bit isn't going to happen. Like, what is the evidence your brain's using that it might be impossible?
And also do you know that it is definitely true that it's impossible? Like, how do you definitely know? And even, and the reason we're asking all these questions is trying to like, poke holes in this belief and just challenge that like, what if it's not impossible? What if there is some possibility of it?
And could you imagine even thinking like, could someone else do the goal? You know, because almost there's a like, Oh, that might be impossible for me based on like me right now. But like, could you imagine someone else doing it? What's different about them? Like, why would it be okay for that? Why would it be possible for them and not for you?
So you can kind of like play around a little bit with like, do you definitely your brain's like, it might be impossible. And it's like, is that definitely, definitely true? Because knowing that like, when your brain is focusing on that, it might be impossible is probably leading to you just like [00:34:00] shutting down and not actually doing much towards it or being like, Oh, like spinning out lots of self doubt.
The other thing is like, the other way to think about it is whenever we're doing something new, it is always impossible until it's done. There are so many things and so many things like you can imagine of like different like creative people and leaders like throughout The centuries where everyone told them that this thing was impossible and they believed it was possible.
And it was always impossible until it was actually done. And then it was like, Oh, for example, like the four minute mile, it was like that four minute miles impossible. We will never do it until it was done. And then so many people broke the four minute mile because suddenly it was like, Oh, it is actually possible.
But there was some people that were willing to believe, even with everyone else saying it's impossible, that it was possible. And the other thing to consider, like, taking all of this in, is like,
even, like, what it, yeah, it's also checking, like, what is it about the goal that seems [00:35:00] impossible? Because if it's something like doing this goal in this time frame, What if you just let go of the time frame? Like, for example, I'm trying to think, um, okay. So for example, say with my scary goal of like, say I had a scary goal and I was like, I'm going to do 30 podcast episodes in like a week or something.
And then I was like, this is impossible. And it's like, well, Probably someone's done it. So I could do it, but maybe it felt impossible at that point. But it was like, okay, what if I extended it to like 30 podcast episodes in 30 years? It's like, okay, I could probably do that. And it's like moving it back. So what is your goal?
Could it be possible in like 10 years? Like, is that possible? Is it possible in five years? Is it possible in a year? Like, can you play with the timeframe? And is there any point in changing the timeframe that you're like, okay, that's actually possible. And so knowing that like, With any of the goals that we have, the time frame is so [00:36:00] helpful because it brings up all of the unhelpful and limiting beliefs that were there anyway, like it might be impossible.
Like that was there anyway, and the time having a time frame potentially brought that up. But equally, like the time frame also doesn't matter at all because If it takes a bit longer, or like it takes longer than you thought, you still have the goal at the end of it. So like the time is going to pass anyway, like it almost doesn't matter.
So really playing with like, okay, how is there any like playfulness of the goal? Or like, what if you shrunk the goal down a bit? Like where does it feel possible? So for example, but the podcast episodes say it was like, well, if I do one, I can one podcast episode. Okay. That feels possible. A thousand feels impossible or whatever.
So it's like, where is the, just playing with like, when is it that your brain goes, I know it's impossible, or it might be impossible. And like playing with what the boundaries of that are and being like, okay, cool. So this bit's possible, but this bit [00:37:00] feels like maybe a little bit unbelievable. And just playing with like what that is and what you're showing your brain is actually there's some elements of this that are not impossible.
Also knowing the reason that our brain offered, like thinking, why is your brain offering you this thought that it might be impossible. So our brains are super, super smart. It's the same with the habits as well. Like you have your habit, you're going to go after it and your brain will pick up so much resistance.
And it'll be like, nah, just, just do what you've always done. Or like, don't bother planning a week, just like see how it goes. It's fine. Or like, don't try out like testing out new ideas. Just like, you know, do what you've always done. It's going to kick up a lot of resistance because, and it's the same with why it will throw up thoughts like this might be impossible, you know, Because it doesn't want you to do something different.
Like, our brains are wired to keep us kind of comfortable where we are, it's familiar, we've, our brains are very much working habitually, it's like, do do do, don't rock the boat, don't [00:38:00] do anything new, don't do anything where you might fail. If it's impossible, you might fail, you might look stupid, people might laugh at you, you might, like, whatever the thing is, your brain's like, don't do it.
So it's like, if it throws a belief at you, like, this might be impossible, then it's like keeping you from actually trying it. So if, if, like, Thinking about it being impossible is help is making you feel like defeat and not wanting to go after it. So I just want to offer like understanding why your brain is maybe offering you that as a belief and then Just really checking in, like, is it actually true that it's impossible?
Is there some version of it that feels possible? Focusing on that. And then also you can think, okay, how do I, like, how does your future self who's already made created the goal in whatever timeline, however long it took, they've already made the goal happen. Like, what are they believing about the goal right now?
And the more that we can tap into our future self and imagine, okay, what are they thinking? [00:39:00] We get so much more wisdom because from where we are now, we're like, it's impossible. I can't do it. Oh, like all of the like self doubt and all the reasons we can comes up. Like if you go to the other side where you're like, okay, I've already created it.
It's done. Like, what are they thinking about the goal? They're thinking about maybe like, I'm going after it anyway or like this is gonna be so fun or like I'm gonna see how far I get or I'm gonna make it possible or I'm gonna be the first one that does this to ever make it possible or like I'm gonna keep trying until it's possible or like I'm doubling down no matter how long it takes like I know that I'm gonna get as far as I can with this.
Like they're probably thinking a very different thought that's gonna then make them feel maybe more empowered, more energized, more motivated, that's gonna make them take action and actually move towards it because Again, your brain wants you to not do anything, but like, the other question to muse over is like, so what if it's impossible?
Why would you not go after it anyway? Why would you not see how far you can get? Like what if it could actually be [00:40:00] possible? Why would, why is it worth it to go after it? Even if you don't reach the goal exactly how you thought you would, why is that worth it? So a lot of different things to think about, but anyway, hopefully that was helpful.
And yeah, drop me a message. Like if there's anything else. I can help with with that, but just knowing that it is always impossible till it's done and you have the goal and just how you are thinking about that goal, like that is going to change how you're showing up and what you think is possible and like the actions and the behavior that you're taking.
So be onto your brain, like helpful thoughts and beliefs in there that are going to help you move to where you want to go. I'm like, why not you? Why not do something that is impossible that other people maybe think is impossible? Like, go and blow your mind and other people's minds. Like, why not you? So that's what I'm going to leave you with.
Anyway, I hope you have an amazing rest of the day and an amazing week ahead and a month ahead as well. I'll [00:41:00] see you. Thank you so much for all your energy and putting everything in the Q& A. That's been so helpful as well. And I'll see you in December at the next Scary Goals Club party call. All right.
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