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I Right. Hello and welcome to the Scary Goals Club podcast. Ha. I thought I was ready to do, to do this episode, and now that I'm standing up here and actually going to do it, I do not feel as ready. I've been doing lots of processing this morning and. Ooh, I don't feel as ready as I thought I did even a few minutes ago.
Now that I'm actually here.
Well, do you know what? Here's what I'm gonna do. If you're listening to this, then this has gone out into the world, but I am going to record this and then I might never share it. And actually the act of recording it. Might feel helpful for me, so that makes me feel a bit better. I'm like, I'm like, I don't have to actually publish this, but if you are listening to it, then I have made the decision to publish it.[00:02:00]
So today's episode is I'm going to talk, going to talk through something that's been happening over the last few months and if you listen back, there was an episode I did just after New Year where there was something really hard that happened at New Year and. I wanna talk about it today and I want to draw out lessons.
It was essentially a "fail", a setback, uh, having a goal, something that I was creating that like just was no longer working in the way that I thought and was no longer gonna happen in the timeframe that I thought. So it was basically what I'm gonna do is talk through that and draw out like. Things that I have been doing that have helped me and how I've kind of moved through it and been able to keep showing up and keep doing things in other areas of my life, even when this big part of my life has felt really heavy, really hard and things have not been [00:03:00] going how I had hoped.
And I also just want to say. That. Well, I'll, I'll, I'll end up talking about what this is now, but I just wanna give a bit of a trigger warning for this episode that I am gonna talk about miscarriage. And so if this feels like it's gonna be triggering to you, please keep yourself safe. Please don't listen to this episode and take care of yourself.
And I know for me, I had. Like even a few months ago, I wouldn't have been able to listen to this maybe, maybe like, yeah, six months ago and, and earlier, like just after I had had Flynn, like I wouldn't have been able to hear an episode or hear someone talking about it. It felt really triggering, really upsetting to me.
So please, please, please take care of yourself. Close it down and don't listen to it if it's gonna feel triggering to you. However, if you, and I'm not gonna go into like the real detail of it, but if even just like talking about [00:04:00] it feels triggering, please take care of yourself, close it off now. Don't listen to it now.
And if it does feel like something that feels okay, or maybe it doesn't resonate with you at all, maybe like. It's not something that you have been experienced or you know anyone that has, well, you probably do know someone that has, it's just that in the society we don't talk about it that much. It's a very like quiet and it almost can be like a bit of a shameful thing.
And so I guess part of the reason of wanting to talk about it as well is like I know that when I've opened up before about miscarriages that I've had in the past, like before I had Flynn and I had my son. People reached out and they were like, oh wow. I didn't realize you were going through this, or like, this was really helpful, or Me too.
And it's like we realize that there's so many things that we're like all going through or so many people we know are going through and we keep them quiet and we don't talk about it. And we pretend like everything's okay and we get on with other areas of our life. [00:05:00] And that is one of the most amazing things that like women are able to do is like.
Almost compartmentalize and they can be like succeeding and excelling at work and at different places in their lives. And then there's this like part that just feels really hard. I guess it's like with all of us that we, and I think with, with miscarriage especially, or like when, especially as high achieving women who are used to, I am used to like deciding I want something, I'm going after it and making it happen and like creating it and to decide that I want something.
It not to happen is really hard. It's, it's like, it requires a lot of surrender, a lot of realizing like, yes, we can do all of the things in control as much as we can. Um, and, sorry, two seconds. I'm just writing something down. Um, for today's episode, I was like, we'll get onto that. Um. We can, you know, [00:06:00] do all the things that we can.
And then at the end of the day, there is a certain amount of biology and chance and nature and magic and things that either need to happen or don't happen or don't seem to happen how we want it to, that we can't control. And of course, the things that we create and big scary goals, like there's a certain amount of, of that at play as well, but like when we're used to.
Making a decision, creating something, making something happen, and like going after stuff and doing well in, in other areas of our life to be hit with infertility and not, you know, it's like, especially when we have this vision that we want for our lives where if there's a kid in it or like imagining having a baby or whatever that is and it's not there, like that can feel really hard as well.
So. It's kind of like, I guess like a, it's a goal, it's a scary goal, and I just wanna talk through a little bit about like, well, what's happened and also things that have helped me, [00:07:00] like four things that have helped me navigate it, come back to myself, and be able to genuinely feel now in a, in like a really good place.
And. Yes, of course. There's still like days and moments where something will hit me and I'm like, Ugh. And, and it feels really hard, but like, it just feels very different. And I know I have, like, having had miscarriages before, this feels a bit different because like I have my son and like I know I can have a baby.
Like I know that's possible. So like, you know, whereas before it was like, is this ever gonna happen for me at all? Like, I didn't know that yet. So I know that that's possible, but in some ways it's also hard because it's like, I understand then even that, like those early pregnancies, like what it can actually become and it can grow into this like human that talks and like tells jokes to silly and it's like, that also feels hard because it's like [00:08:00] those lines, you know, the double line on a pregnancy test or whatever it's like.
I now know what that can actually become like. I have experienced that and so it almost can feel like, whereas before I couldn't almost really imagine it. It's like you have other people's kids, but it's like you can't imagine what it's like having your own and then like when you do, it's like now the, those positive tests, suddenly it's like your brain goes to like, or my brain went to like, ah, this is what it could be.
Anyway, so basically what had happened, I'll talk through a bit of the story and then, um. Talk you through some things that have helped me. So I had found out we, we had been, yeah, trying like a good chunk of last year to get pregnant. And it wasn't happening. It wasn't happening. And then in December I found out I was pregnant and it was still fairly early when it was like around Christmas time, but I was so tired and.[00:09:00]
It was one of those things where I was like, oh, let's just tell our parents. And so at Christmas we were like very early bot and it was like, you know, cheersing and then I was like, chill out. And yeah. And we had probably about like, again, it was like early stages, but we had. Maybe 10 days or something of like me knowing I was pregnant.
I mean, I'd been feeling pregnant for about two weeks before that, I'd been so tired and I didn't really understand why, and it was like, oh, that makes sense. And so then had 10 days of knowing that I was pregnant and being really tired and like just adjusting to that. And then. Had started getting like some pains, went and saw the doctor and then yeah, it was like walked out of the doctor's office was like all just nipped the loo or I'd had a bit of spotting and then it got heavier and then we were actually, it was New Year's Eve, so it was almost like with the pregnancy, like last year had been pretty rough.
Getting burned out was really depressed, like was just struggling with a [00:10:00] lot of things. It was a lot of what felt like really heavy things going on, and so it was almost like, oh, here we go. Like. Yes. You know, not being able to get pregnant and it was like, oh, here we go. This is like, what a way to round off 2024.
Like, pregnant baby's gonna come in like early September. Like this is so cool. And just like, oh, how amazing. And then yeah, came out of the, the doctor's office on, on New Year's Eve and it was this like really surreal experience where like I was. Miscarrying and I knew that that was starting there. Like I could feel it and Flynn was there looking and Maple as well, and we were like playing in the play park and it was almost this like I was processing it in real time of like letting go.
So I think the thing with all of this is that like how in that moment, like the future that you imagine in your mind, it like goes [00:11:00] and it's like I. Uh, you know, a few hours before when everything felt okay or maybe like a day before everything felt okay. It's like the future is, as you imagine, which, which just shows that like, you know, often our brain can go to like the worst case or the best case.
It's like we never actually know. We can imagine, but actually we don't know and it can change. And just that like split second in a moment, like literally everything changes and it's like, oh, okay, I know what's happening here and just. Going through and like processing like the grief and the sadness in that moment.
But also just like I, I remember the, the sky was like really dark and there was this like amazing intense double rainbow. It was like so bright and then there was like another rainbow above it and we were just like watching the rainbow and I was climbing. There's this really cool like. Tree thing you can kind of climb.
I was climbing that with Flynn [00:12:00] and it was just like the, the, it was just like such a human, raw experience of like the intensity of the future just disappearing. Like in that moment of how I had imagined it and how I thought it would go. And then also the beauty of like playing with my son and seeing this amazing rainbow in the sky.
And it was just like, I think that's one of the beautiful things is like when we can just. Feel and be present with whatever the feelings are. Like, yes, we experience the sadness and the grief and the pain, but like we open ourselves up to all of the joy and all of the precious moments. And I think it's like when something like that happens, it's realizing that life is such a gift.
It's so precious. These moments are fleeting and just it snaps you into the present moment of like, okay, wow. What is it I actually have? And like, how amazing are these moments now?
And then I spent a, a good few days just like [00:13:00] napping and journaling and like having space and just like processing it all. And then, then a month or so later, or whenever it was, I got pregnant again, and then I don't know, a few days later, my period came. So that was like a chemical miscarriage. So there was that piece as well of processing it again, and my body also going through being pregnant, like being tired, boobs being massive, like all of these things, being like, okay, wow this has happened again.
Like, we'll just be cautious, but like, here we go. And then it happening again. And then a month or so later happening again, like having the positive, like faint positive line. 'cause my period was like quite a few days late, like, oh, huh, okay. Feeling pregnant, being pregnant. And then it going again or like my period coming, so another chemical miscarriage and [00:14:00] yeah.
So it's like in the last three months, well, up until like the end of March, so like a week or so ago, two weeks ago is when I had like, my period arrived late from the chemical miscarriage. And so it's like my, I have been pregnant and not pregnant three times in the last three months. So like not only is there the physical stuff of like getting really tired and the hormones shifting and like.
Everything like changing, but it's like the emotional piece of just being the like, oh, okay, is this happening? And then it's not, and then like processing that. And I think like with all of this, and it's the same like thinking with like our goals, we have some idea of like, okay, this is the thing happening and this is the timeframe it's happening in.
And like part of it is when we have these setbacks or fails or things don't happen, or like life gets in the way and it changes something. It doesn't happen on the timeline that we initially think and it's, it takes letting [00:15:00] go. It takes surrendering that
And so with all of this, I just wanna draw out, there's been four things that I've been kinda doing. I mean I do this anyway, but like definitely over the last four months that have been really helping me.
And it's the same with any goal setback that you're having, any fails, anything where you're not getting the outcome in the timeframe you want, you're not like, things don't feel like they're happening how you want them to, like, these things are gonna help. I'm gonna get out my, put my mind map of the episode so.
I think, yeah. The first thing with all of this, with any time you don't reach a goal that you set, you fail. You are set back. The timeline shifts and it doesn't happen in the timeline. Frame you want is to let yourself feel, to let yourself feel the disappointment, feel the sadness, feel the grief, feel the pain.
Feel the. [00:16:00] Jealousy of other people who maybe have what you want, feel the longing, feel the loss, because whenever you don't have your goal in the timeframe or you don't like, something happens and you get a setback, you're what you're, and the disappointment and the grieving, you're essentially grieving.
Like a lost future. This is what I think about certainly with the miscarriage, but it can be applied with anything is you have an idea of something in your mind. And again, anything we think about the future, like it's made up, our brain tells a story, we paint a picture of vision of what we want to happen.
And yes, the more we focus on our vision, and I'll go onto this, the more likely we are to create it, but it's still, we paint this picture and when it doesn't happen in the way that we want in the timeframe that we want, we are essentially. Grieving a loss of some future that we thought we'd had, some future outcome or something we thought we would have in a certain timeframe.
And so it's, it's [00:17:00] so important to just let yourself be, give yourself space. Go for walks, journal process through. Cry it out, dance it out, run it out, sleep it out. All of these things to actually make sense and just let your body feel and just process all the pain. And as I was saying with like the double rainbow is.
When you can be present with the pain and not avoid it. Not eat it away, or like scroll it away or like zone out with like TV shows or Netflix or, and it's not like sometimes you wanna do these things to take care of yourself, but when it becomes like the numbing and the avoiding, we're also missing out on like the really positive, joyful, elevated emotions like joy, like awe, like.
Wonder like presence, like fun and silliness. And actually like in those days after the miscarriage and like just even while it was going on, I was, because I was being present with all of the pain, not [00:18:00] just the physical pain, but like the emotional pain and the heaviness, I actually found myself being more silly.
I found myself being more fun and playful because I created like. I was able to process through the heavy feelings, and so I created space for these like lighter, more elevated feelings to be there. When we're avoiding the heavy stuff, we don't create space. It's like when we're avoiding a feeling and we're not being present with it, we can't really be present.
We're in our own heads. We're ruminating on like what we didn't have and, and like going to the worst case of like, this will never happen for me. This will never happen. And it's not to say like. Those thoughts are totally normal, but just the more that you can allow yourself to actually feel and be present and be like, oh, okay, this is what it is.
And it's almost like just accepting and making peace with this is what it is right now, and just giving yourself what you need. Those feelings will ease and you'll actually move through them more quickly. And again, then this will create space for the more elevated emotions to [00:19:00] come in and yeah. And so you'll actually like.
It almost is like make in those moments, like it really sticks in my mind. Like when I was starting that miscarriage, it, I, I felt so alive. I felt so human because I, the pain I was feeling was the emotional pain was so raw. Because I just like opened my heart and just like was breathing through it and allowing it to come like in waves.
And it was intense as was the miscarriage. It was like they were both happening, the emotional and the physical and just be there with it. It was like there was, it was like there was beauty in the rawness of the experience and therefore like I could see beauty in like all around me, like tiny little moments of being like, wow, what an experience.
What a trip. Being a human, being alive, being able to feel this way, and [00:20:00] yeah, I just think it's such, oh, I feel a bit emotional now, but it, it's not necessarily maybe about like the miscarriage. It's more just like, just feeling so grateful, having, like having these tools to be able to do that and be able to take care of myself to be able to.
Be present and actually turn something that feels so hard and so sad and heavy, and actually just be with it and like hold space for it like that. That's what we, that's what coaching is all about. It's like holding space for however we are. In this moment right now, whatever it is, if it's messy, if it's raw, and it's like being able to do that to ourselves and not shame ourselves and not shut ourselves down and not tell ourselves we shouldn't feel this way and not tell ourselves.
It's not a big deal. One in four women have miscarriages. It's fine. Most pregnancies and before there are whatever weeks, it's like not doing any of that and just being like, [00:21:00] this hurts. This is hard, and it's okay. I'm like. This is how I feel right now and just being present in that. And I think like it's, yeah, it is hard to explain unless you've experienced it, but it's like, and I don't mean to miscarriage, but like there is like grief and pain.
Like when we can be there, just be there with ourselves, give ourselves a hug, like hold our own hand and just like sit with ourselves. Like there is such beauty in that. It's almost of just being like. Fuck. Like this is what it's like being a human being on this planet. Like yes, it's hard. And also when we can be present with that, we can create the moments and we can see the lightness as well, and like the joy as well.
And yeah, being able to create space for both. [00:22:00] Not gaslighting ourselves into like, you should feel better. It's like, no, this fucking sucks and it fucking hurts and it's okay. So yeah, I just, yeah, I just feel so grateful. Like again, having these tools to be able to navigate something that felt so hard and, and that's the other thing is like when we can be present with however we're feeling and process it through, that's when we can pull out the wisdom from it.
We can pull out like. Lessons and learning and like I wouldn't be able to be sharing this podcast now. Or even, I think I shared a podcast, maybe it was about something similar to this, like just after New Year, like I wouldn't have been able to do that if I hadn't processed it. If I was avoiding it, I would've been avoiding podcasting, talking about anything.
I would've just been like escaping myself. And so when we can process through our feelings, I. We stop escaping ourselves and we are present with whatever it is, and we can pull out all the learnings and all of the lessons as well. Whether or not [00:23:00] we share that with anyone, but we have it. It's like we catalyze something that felt so freaking hard into being like, oh, okay, I understand, and like this is what has helped me.
We can like pull wisdom out of it. Whereas when we're ignoring it, it still feels too raw and triggering and we can't pull out anything from it. We can't pull out the lessons. So first piece is just be with however you are, process through your feelings. The second piece is refocusing on what you already have.
Okay? Because often when we are going towards like going for goals, we have this thing that's like in progress, it's happening, we're on our way, and then there's some setback. We don't have it, like not in the timeframe, whatever that is. It can be easy to be like, I'm not there yet. I'm not there yet. I'll never get there.
We look on like the gap between where we are and where we wanna go. If instead you can [00:24:00] refocus back to like, this is what I already have. It's so powerful for so many reasons. And it's so interesting, like with all three miscarriages over the past three months, whenever. The bleeding had started and I was like, okay, this like the future has changed.
This isn't happening now. I immediately snapped back to like what I already had, how my life was amazing. Now, I like was playing with Flynn, like just was focusing back on him and I was almost like it, it was almost like the future and what was it? I almost like. Let it go. It's like that is gone now because, and, and what this does is oftentimes like when we can find ourselves being like, I'm not there.
I'm not there. I don't have this thing we're saying in some way that like, what we have right now is not enough and it will only be enough when we get the thing. And I did so much work on this with my first, like first ever pregnancy and miscarriage was, I was [00:25:00] like, oh, I'll never be a mom. I'll not this, I'll not this.
And, and actually it was letting go. Or even when I was trying, like before I even had the miscarriage. It was like letting go of my identity is dependent on being pregnant or my identity is dependent on having a kid because when I was so attached to, I will only be, I almost felt like I wouldn't be complete or enough if I didn't have a kid.
And it just feels terrible and awful. And it's almost like we're telling ourselves we're not enough if we don't have this thing. And it's the same if this can happen with any goal, whether it's like. A kid or not, whatever. Whatever your goal is, and it's like we attach our self-worth to the thing and it's like, I am not complete.
I am not enough. I am not worthy. I am not. Like me, unless there's this thing that I have and when we can let go and I did so much work and being like, I am enough. As I am, I am enough. Even if I don't do anything else, if I don't change anything, I'm enough [00:26:00] as I am. And yes, I would like love to be a mom at some point and like I'm so grateful I am.
And yes, I would love to be a mom again and have like a second kid at some point. But if that doesn't happen, I know that I am okay right now. I know that I'm okay as I am. I know that I love my life so much right now and like what I have is enough. I am enough. What I do is enough and anything else is like this amazing bonus.
And like if we can think that way about our goals, we become less attached. We become less like. Oh, I have to have this thing. I have to have this thing. And it's like we realize just how much we already have in our life right now. And so if there's any setback you're having with your goal, anytime that something's changed and you don't have the thing that you want in the timeframe, you want refocus back your attention.
Like how you are already enough, how what you have in your life like is enough. And just remembering like everything you have in your life right now. At one point you wanted it. Every single thing. You can almost like make a list of [00:27:00] like what are all the things you have in your life right now? And just remembering that like at one point you wanted all these things and you didn't have them, and now you do.
And just coming back to that, because if we cannot enjoy the life we have right now, if we cannot think that we are enough right now, and that what we have enough is enough right now, no goal, no. Anything that we create will ever be enough. Because we'll still be like, yeah, but it'll be enough when I do this thing or I have this thing.
And so to fully appreciate what we have it like it means telling ourselves we are enough right now. It means telling ourselves that what we have right now is enough. And it's a practice. You just decide. You're like, okay, what I have right now is enough. And like, how could that actually be true? What if you are enough right now?
What if you don't need to do anything or change anything and you're enough right now? How could that be true? And. The third. Oh yeah, the third piece is what I wrote down at the start. The extra notes is, [00:28:00] okay, so the first two. So processing the feelings, even the disappointment, the sadness. The second one, focusing on what you already have and how what you have is enough and how you are enough right now that the goal is not defined, that, that you are enough right now.
The third piece is like focusing on what you can control. Because it's so easy to, like when something changes that's outside of your control, it's easy to be like, like thinking about it a lot and like, oh, this and this, and I could have this, could have this. And it's like, it is what it is. What can you control now?
What are the things within your control? Even like grab a piece of paper, write it all down. What are some of the things you can do right now? And just focusing back on like. There's so many things that are outside of our control, and oftentimes we focus our energy here on like, oh, but this, oh, but this, oh, but this, what if this, what if this?
What if this? It's like those things may happen and then we figure out what to do. Okay? Then we respond. But like, [00:29:00] what is in your control right now? Make a list and just keep bringing your attention back there, and the things that are inside of your control include how you were thinking about the situation, how you were thinking about yourself, how you were thinking about your goal.
How you are feeling, you can change that and create that. How you are showing up your behavior, how you're taking care of yourself, how you're being kind to yourself. All of these things are inside of your control, okay? So the more that we can focus on us and ourselves and what's in our control, the easier it will be for the goal to evolve and to happen.
And, and if it doesn't, we know that we're gonna be okay because we can take care of ourselves. And then the fourth one is. Reconnecting. So there's the like knowing that you're enough as you are, and that what you have is enough right now, whether the goal happens or not, and loving the life that you have right now.
Loving you as you are right now. Okay? That's the piece. And focusing on what you can control. And then the final piece is just keep [00:30:00] creating that vision and like imagining the vision with. Certainty with that. Like I know that's gonna happen. Like I know, and I think the reason that like this is one of the things, well, first of all, processing the disappointment, focusing on like, I love my life so much right now and the thing's a bonus, and then focusing on what I can control.
But the final piece is like, like I know in my bones, like I feel it. I'm like, I know we are gonna have two kids. Like I know it and I feel that I'm so. Yes. It's not gonna happen on the timeframe I thought it would in December where I was like, oh, in September, like, whatever, there's gonna be this little one running around.
And then like, okay, maybe it's like October and like November. Like I know that that's not happening, but I know that it's going to happen. And so that has also helped me get into the like, uh, how's it happened now? How's it happened now? It's like, I know it's gonna, it's [00:31:00] gonna happen. It's not gonna happen in the timeframe I thought.
That's okay. And it's like imagining again with your goal, like what if in five years you knew you had the goal, your goal was there, it was done, you already had it. You'd stop stressing so much about the timeline. It'd be like a few months here, six months there, even a year. It actually doesn't matter. If you keep going, keep focusing on that vision.
If it's something that you know that you want, that you know you're called to create in your life, keep focusing that vision and like. Literally the timeframe doesn't matter. And sometimes it happens in the timeframe we want. Sometimes it doesn't, and sometimes, usually we'll look back and be like, the timeframe was actually perfect.
'cause you just get to decide that whatever the timeframe is. It was perfect because any of the setbacks, like you will learn something along the way. You will learn how to take care of yourself. You will learn how to respond. You will learn about your mind. You will learn about how much you really wanna go after this thing that you're gonna keep going, that you'll learn how more [00:32:00] resilient you are.
You'll learn something. And so knowing that any setback is an opportunity to learn about yourself, take care of yourself, to show up as the person that you want to be, and. Not just be like, oh, well that's it. I'm not gonna do, like we're done. And sometimes like I remember when we were first trying and like it wasn't happening and like every month, you know, when my period would come and I was like, I'm still not pregnant.
And I was like, I just don't know if I can, I. Go through the disappointment again of another month. It not happening, but what I wasn't doing then was processing through the disappointment. And what I wasn't doing was connecting to that vision and thinking my life was enough right now. That was when I was still doing all the work around it.
Whereas now, yes, it's been freaking hard having three times in the last three months, a positive pregnancy test and then it not happening and not turning out. But I know that I'm gonna be okay because I have these tools 'cause I've done this work and I also know that it's [00:33:00] gonna happen. And so the, yeah, the final piece, just like keep focusing on that vision, keep imagining it, that it is done.
Releasing the timeline, just letting that go and just being like, I know it's gonna be done and at some point in the future, take care of yourself and keep showing up. Keep showing up. So. I'll go over the four again. So first one, be present however you are. Process through the disappointment, the grief, everything.
The second one is just snapping back, refocusing what you already have. It is enough who you are. You are enough with or without the goal. It doesn't matter. The goal is a bonus. Your life. Like start loving and appreciating your life right now and that helps release the attachment to the goal. For third piece, like focusing on what you can control.
Like how can you take care of you, how can you be showing up that is gonna just help me get so much easier and help making, make it easier to like get on back on track with the goal. And then the fourth piece is just remind yourself of that vision. Keep painting that vision. Keep [00:34:00] imagining it. Keep becoming that future version of you and that's gonna help you just like be like release and be like, okay, this is happening.
Yes, on a different timeline than I thought. And that's okay. And just what is that next step? Keep imagining, keep showing up as yourself. So if you go this far, thank you for listening and I hope that was helpful. And if you are going through anything similar with your goals or with miscarriage as well, like I just wanna say I'm sending you so much love and it's.
Hard being a human, but it's all so beautiful and like when we can just be present that like in these moments that it feels hard, like that is when we learn so much about ourselves and like
can, yeah, just life can feel a bit more like vibrant and richer because [00:35:00] of the contrast of the like easy and the hard and the like joy and the pain. And it's just like when we can just open and be present with all of that, like it truly is such a gift. It's so beautiful. Okay. Oh, and also final piece.
Hang on, let me have another breath.
So, well, if you're listening to this, I've decided to publish it and put it out into the world so we will see. Um, and also like, I just wanna say with all of this, like I am okay and. So don't feel you need to reach out or like check on me if you want to, that's fine. But like I am Okay. Like I'm emotionally resilient.
I have these tools, like I've been through this stuff. And also if you wanna chat about anything, like that's fine too. But also, I know this is like not linked to miscarriage, but if you are interested in. Creating bigger, scarier goals and like a key part of this is the emotional resilience is feeling all of the [00:36:00] feelings being present with them if you want to do that work.
I have two private coaching spots that are becoming available and if you are feeling called to have these tools to apply it to your goals, to like. Dream so big, and then feel all the feelings that come up, all the embarrassment and the failure, and like all the setbacks, and learn the tools to be able to keep going, to show up in this bigger way to put yourself out there, even when things aren't going to plan
I encourage all the links in the show notes, but like if you're feeling called to do this work. I've got two spots becoming available. So if you're feeling called to do it and your intuition's like, oh, that'd be so good. Even if it feels a bit scary, I encourage you to just like have a look, book a call if you're feeling called to do it, and just what if you just trust yourself, like imagining in six months from now, having these tools changing every like aspect of your life changes.
When you are able to be present with however you're feeling and you don't feel scared, you're not [00:37:00] avoiding it, you're not procrastinating, you're actually being present with it like. That's when the magic happens. Anyway, so if you're feeling called to do this work, come do it over six months. So good.
Honestly, you're gonna love it if you love this podcast and you're like, ah, this is so good. And you wanna like apply it in a deeper way and understand it specifically for your brain and like just understand yourself in a deeper way. Have that self-awareness. And, and I think the mo one of the most amazing things about coaching is like you get to decide that you want something or you want to do something, or you wanna have something, or you wanna be a certain way.
And then you know how to actually do that. Like that's the repeatable gift that you have for the rest of your life. It's like, like I know now I can be like, I'm gonna go after this thing, or I'm gonna make this happen, or I'm gonna control this, or I'm gonna do that. And it's like I know that I will create it.
Maybe not in the timeframe, but I know that I will do it because I have these tools. Even when I'm wanna procrastinate and avoid, like this podcast, I avoided it for the morning, but I know I have the tools like [00:38:00] processing through feelings, which is what I did. To be able to show up and do it and put yourself out there and do scary things and build the life that you actually want and stop putting off the bigger stuff.
Actually focus, like get the stuff done that lights you up. Just create a life that is bigger and richer and more vibrant. Like part of that is feeling and being present with feelings. And we're not taught this often. We're told like, stop feeling. You shouldn't be feeling that way. And like this work literally.
It's completely changed my life. Even just that one tool alone. But like there's so many aspects of like understanding your brain, understanding why you're doing certain things, why you're not doing certain things like that is the power of coaching is like, yeah, being able to actually do what you want to do, actually do what you say you're gonna do and not just avoid it and not just keep going or busy yourself or.
Not do the things that you know, ultimately you wanna do. Like that is the pair of [00:39:00] coaching. So anyway, if you're feeling called to do it, two spots are becoming available. Book a call. I've got some calls for like a free consultation. We'll chat through like what you want support with and I'll lay out like if we're a good fit and what we'd work on together.
I've got some spots available on Tuesday and Thursday next week. Now is the time I'm come and do this work. It's gonna be so fun. Okay. Sending you so much love, and I hope you have an amazing rest of today and an amazing rest of the week, and I'll see you next time.
Hey, thanks so much for listening. If this was helpful, please hit subscribe and leave a review. This helps get this work in the hands of more purposeful people. That is more people creating bigger, scarier goal making an even bigger impact in the world. And if you wanna take this work deeper and work with me directly, head to the show note, and I put all of the information there.
If you've got any questions or if there's anything you're like, Ooh, I'd love you to talk about that on the pod, please just get in touch. I [00:40:00] love hearing from you guys, and I'll see you next time in the Scary Goals Club.
