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I am welcome to episode 20 of the scary goals club podcast. So hi from downstairs. It's a little bit of a different [00:01:00] setup today. I, uh, normally I work on a Tuesday, but the, can I work and Flynn's at nursery. And, uh, normally I record a podcast on Tuesday. I was actually supposed to be doing my first podcast interview, which would be super fun with one of my clients, but we've had to postpone that because Flynn is ill, so he's off nursery and we're tag teaming it.
Luke and I, like, he's working at the moment. until later in the afternoon and then I'll do a few hours as well. Um, anyway, so I've had to cancel all my calls and move them to later in the week and Flynn is down for a nap. I was like, okay, I'm going to get some podcast editing and there are two podcasts that I have that I've not published yet that I've recorded and I've been like, Oh, maybe it wasn't quite the right like energy.
I'm too, maybe I'm a bit scared to like put that out into the world. The one that you're going to hear on today's episode. This is just a [00:02:00] little intro that I'm doing. The one that you're going to hear today, I actually recorded on the 2nd of May. So it's, this is going to go out on like the 28th of June.
and I recorded this episode in early May and it was all about basically something like, I guess, kind of tough that's been going on in the background over the last few months.
I feel like I am through most of it now and on the 2nd of May I recorded this episode and I was like, Oh, it feels too scary to share. So I've sat on it and I was like, I'm not going to put it out and I'm going to rerecord it at some point, but. I don't have the biggest backlog of something I'm learning is like, have a few recorded in advance so that if there's a week where your kid is sick or you're sick, at least use them.
I'll get there. But anyway, so I do have this one that I'm going to be publishing. And so I just wanted to say, that's where it's from. So I [00:03:00] talk about like a few months ago, or I talk about different things that maybe sound. I can't even remember if I mentioned dates, but this was again recorded almost two months ago now.
And so I'm putting it out now and yeah, I guess it's lessons learned from making a decision when you don't want to do a scary goal anymore. And this was a scary goal that I had set for last year and I did, and then I didn't want to do it anymore. And just how to understand, I guess, some of my thought process, what I've been going through and kind of learn from that.
And you can take it into your scary goal as well.
And I just like part of this podcast and here we go. So this is episode 20 and I was a bit more vulnerable and shared some more scary in episode 10. So here we go. Like it's out and it's like, okay, it's episode 20 maybe every 10 I like up the, what I feel feels scary and vulnerable. So here it is.
Any questions obviously on any of it, let me know and I hope you have an amazing time listening to it. I'll see you next week. All right. See [00:04:00] ya.
Hi and welcome to the Scary Goals Club podcast. I am Hazel Robertson and this is episode 14. 14. And Today, I wanted to share something that, again, feels a bit scary, and it's something that has been going on in the background, I guess for certainly a few weeks, a few months now. And I want to talk through how I've navigated it.
And like some things I have learned that hopefully can be helpful for you and any of your scary goals. And it's especially it's around decisions and when you decide to change something or when you decide you no longer want to go after your scary goal and how to like how to make that decision and also talk about inflection points.
So the last, the last few, I guess, months. [00:05:00] Certainly months have felt like a bit of an inflection point in my business. There have been a few shifts. So even last year at one point there was both Luke and I coaching, we had separate clients, but we had done some training together and he decided he wanted to focus back on more of the kind of environmental consulting side.
So that's what he's. I've focused on that as of last year. Also I've had Flynn on through that journey of becoming a mom and figuring out my identity and what that means and what I want to do in this world and what that looks like. And I don't think I fully gave myself time to really this like re decide what that is for me and what that is for the business just with me running it and as a mom and almost Transcribed It gets to the point sometimes these inflection points come and they feel horrible.
Like the last few months have felt [00:06:00] horrible in terms of figuring out there's been a lot of like beating myself up being really like hard on myself. Things have felt really heavy. There's been a lot of like Yeah, there's been a lot of like heaviness and forcing and why I'm realizing is like and I've done this for so much of my life. I have forced things I've been able to do things and maybe some of it's like from having ADHD and finding things I love doing really easy and come like really naturally and I have so much energy for it and things that maybe I don't want to like literally.
like drag to go and do it. And I find it so, so hard. And yet looking back over points in my career, like since I, like through uni, there was so much of it that I really had to force myself to do and it didn't come easily and I was able to do it, but it was so [00:07:00] exhausting. And last year in my business, like, so I went back to work three months after having Flynn.
Um, and then had made the decision to create a program. So a group coaching program with like online modules, it was like an app live coaching calls like every week and had made the decision to do that, built a program and even towards the end of that, like creating all the videos for it, I was forcing it.
I was spending like. Extra time away from Flynn and Luke because I had got sick and life events had happened and we had moved and I didn't want to push out the deadline because I'd already done that because there was just so many things happened last August. like my ADHD diagnosis and like figuring that all out and things feeling really, really hard.
Like from that point of view, we moved house, there was some stuff happening, some other things happening as well. Sorry, I'm still a bit snotty. I didn't want to push out the course launch, like the program launch [00:08:00] again, so I did that even though we moved house, even, and anyway, long story short, I ended up working sometimes like a Saturday morning or on my non working day and it just, it felt so heavy, so hard and actually last, I think it was last November.
And I'd already had people that were on the course, like amazing clients, like had already invested in it, like before I had actually launched it. So I had the money, I'd ring fenced it in the business account. And even in November last year, I was like, I'm not doing it. I don't want to do this. I can't do this.
I can't do this anymore. Like it just was, I was forcing it so much and was like cry just so emotional with it. And Luke very kindly was like, look, don't make a decision now in the state. And I know this, I coach my clients on all the times, like don't make a state, like a decision when you're feeling emotional.
Wait until you calm down. then come at it logically. [00:09:00] And I calmed down, I came at it logically and was like, no, I do want to do it. I'm so far through. I'm going to launch it. Like, let's go. Launched it. I had amazing clients in it. It was like coaching them. It was amazing. And literally I have got, I'm not trying to make excuses.
I think it's just realizing how things are in my life at the moment. And I've been trying to fit something. in that just isn't working with what I need in my life at the moment. And I got sick a lot. I've had mastitis a lot. I've had like all of the, all of the bugs. I was starting in December and having to, I just realized it was like having to like, show up at a certain time every single week and feeling like I didn't have the flexibility to like cancel anything or move anything.
It was also, I think [00:10:00] because I had built the program from, Oh, this is something I should do. And I hadn't really caught it when I was making that decision. It was like, Oh, this will almost like this program will solve, like fix everything. It will solve everything. And like, I'm going to grow it and it'll be amazing.
And what I hadn't really checked in with was. Am I building a program with something I actually want to coach around? Just because I'd coached around it historically, I was like, Oh, well, I can coach on this stuff, so now I'll make a program on it. So it was mainly focused around like time and busyness and like planning your week.
And okay, there's like the stuff that goes along with it, like self confidence. And I'd added in scary goals into that. And I realized then in January, was it January? No. Maybe it was like a month or so ago. I can't even think. I'm so off of dates. Maybe a month or so ago. I was like, I don't think this. like in this inflection point in my business, like [00:11:00] it was just feeling really forced.
I was like, I don't think time and busyness isn't it. And like goal setting is necessarily something I ultimately want to be coaching on longer term. Like I think there's something bigger and I don't know exactly what that is right yet. I know it's not this. And Every time I would bring myself to go and sell the program, either I'd get ill or I like wouldn't want to do it.
And it was like, that is a sign that I'm not really bought into like, yes, this is the thing that I want to be doing. And even, and it's not taking away from like the amazing people. I'm like the live coaching calls. Like I love them. Like. Group coaching. I love it because you learn so much from other people as well.
Like you can come to the call and not even be coached and you're like, Oh wait, I do that too. Or like, I didn't even realize that's something I've been thinking as well. Because often when you're getting coached, like your brain's trying to compute and like, You're like, wait, [00:12:00] Oh, wait, no, maybe I can think about it this way.
And like your brain's breaking a little bit. And so that's why often I recommend clients like watch the coaching back. But when you're in a group, you're a bit more relaxed when you're not being coached. So you can actually learn so much from other people as well. And it just helps feel more seen and like, you're not the only one love the format.
It just wasn't the right program that I designed and wasn't in the area that I wanted, like even a lot of the stuff I'd built in was like, this is how you plan your week and this is how you do all this stuff. And since I'd even put that together, like I do things so differently now. I'm almost like giving myself permission to get rid of some rules and having to do things certain ways.
I almost didn't want to then have in this program, you have to do this this way, because I'm like, I don't do that anymore. I've ripped up the rule book, even from the stuff I used to coach on. So even all of the content I'd recorded, and again, slightly from a like, Oh, well, I should be doing this. And even the creating of it, I think [00:13:00] was coming from.
a different place than like, Oh, this is, this is this thing that I have to create. Like, Oh, it's going to be amazing. And it's for this and this and this. I just wasn't in that place. It was like, Oh, I should be doing it. And I'll do it on these things. Cause that's what I've done before rather than pausing and being like, is this actually where I, me, myself, Just me, quote unquote, just me as a mom and things have shifted, want to take the business and I hadn't, I wasn't done that.
And then in, yeah, so like about a month ago I was so run down, so like exhausted again from trying to force it. And I can tell him forcing things when. Like, even trying to do things like write an email to be like, come and join the program literally would take me three hours. It's like, something is not right.
And yes, I can coach myself to be getting in the right mindset and doing the thing, but ultimately it's like, if I don't want to do it, like there's, there may be a deeper reason that I don't want to. Actually, it's [00:14:00] valid. Like sometimes we can use coaching against ourselves and gaslight ourself and be like, well, I can just coach myself to want to do the thing like, no, no, no.
And it's like, actually, maybe that's not the direction we want to go in. And so it's less about forcing to do the thing to be like really getting curious, like, why am I not wanting to do it so much? What is actually going on? And what I realized was this isn't.
what I want to be coaching on. I want it to be bigger and I'm still figuring out exactly what that is and how it's looking. But on this particular morning
I was so exhausted. I literally. slept and I lay down on the desk, under the desk, not on the desk, like I haven't done that since uni, and I curled up and I set an alarm on my phone, like on the hard floor, not lying on anything for 45 minutes.
And I slept on the hard floor and I've not done that since uni. I used to do it in the, I love a nap. Sometimes if I'm like, just like brains, like the, I have a nap, everything feels amazing. And I used to do it in the uni, like the micro labs or the [00:15:00] library. I would just, if I was at the computer there, I'm just like, pull in my chair.
I was sitting on, get like, pull out, get under the desk and then pull the chair back in. So no one would know. They would think like I was just away from my desk and I'd be under there, like head on my back. Fuck. Having a sleep for like 20 minutes sometimes. And it was enough to just almost, I think of it like a computer reset, just like reset everything and then come back feeling amazing.
So I was like, I know I just need this nap. So yeah, had a nap. But before that, I'd gone in that morning and was literally like, sobbing, just in tears.
I was like, I don't want to do this anymore. I don't want, it was almost like the business that I had built, I didn't want to run anymore. And this is not saying anything about my amazing clients who are amazing badasses doing amazing things. Awesome stuff in the world. Like I love coaching them. It was just, I'd like got in my head [00:16:00] that I like should do this thing and it's like, I built myself up into this role and into this business that I, I was like, I don't, this isn't what I truly, this doesn't reflect the true essence of me, of what I believe right now, of what I think is important.
And I was like, I don't want to do this anymore. I don't want to be forcing it. I don't want it to feel so heavy, so hard that I'm beating myself up because I'm not doing the things I want. Like I know that I could be doing and I was like sobbing a really good cry and I was like, I'm closing it down.
I'm done. I'm like, I'm actually done. I'm going to close down the business and that's it. And so I had my whiteboard, I had whiteboard marker. I made a list of like, okay. What are all the like payments coming up? Like looked at the finances, like, okay, what do I need to do to like wrap things up? So it's like, okay, this, this, this refund, like clients for [00:17:00] this, shut down the program, do this.
Okay. This payment's coming out. Duh, duh, duh, duh, duh. So like map diet. And it felt so calm and so clear. I was like, okay, cool. Made some decisions, felt really good. had a nap, And then I took the rest of the week off. And so I then had two, like, full days on my own.
Where I would have been working and Luke's normally looking after Flynn and I went to coffee shops. I went for walks. I journaled. I meditated. I stayed quiet and just like, listen to what was coming up. I imagined like, what is it? Like I was imagining like, what does I actually want my business to look like?
Because oftentimes we can do this. We can get very focused on like, well, I don't want this. I don't want this. I don't want this. And then we're just focused on the problem and how we don't want it. And then we just see more problems, more problems. And it's like taking myself to, okay, what is it I actually want?
What is that business I do want? What is it going to look like? What is that bigger impact I'm making? How am I doing that? I'm really just allowing [00:18:00] myself to dream. And yeah, the most. like amazing thing happened, which was when I gave myself permission to close it all down, just shut down the business. I was like, I'm going to go get a job.
What started to bubble up was like, Oh no, but I do want to do this work. I do want to coach people. I love coaching purposeful people. I love helping them achieve bigger goals and make a bigger impact. I just know there's a different way that I can do it. And I am going about it that needs to change and just letting go of all of the things that felt hard and forced and shoulds and giving myself permission to just really just focus on the stuff that felt really easy, really fun, really nice and light and only doing things that I actually wanted to.
And so it's been a few weeks since then. And I have completely closed down the program, which. It's called time for good. I might have mentioned it on a previous podcast, [00:19:00] refunded everyone that was in it, and it feels amazing. It feels like this weight has lifted and I'm in a place at the moment where I'm having like loads of chats with people and so many people have been speaking to are inflection points as well.
They are. Like, maybe how they have been going to a certain point, like doesn't feel like it's working anymore or they want to change something or something's shifted or something shifted in their mind or in the world. And it's almost like rethinking and re deciding, okay, these things that I am doing now, is that what I want to be doing forward?
Because oftentimes we can think and it's called, sunk cost fallacy and I definitely had this. So it's like the sunk cost fallacy is. As humans, when we have invested like time, money into something, we are more likely to want to keep doing it. because we've already invested that time and money, even [00:20:00] if like if we were making the decision to invest and do it now, we would say no.
So it's the same with me for the program. It was like I had spent months last year and it was months that I like wasn't doing other things, time, money, like, and I refunded everyone as well, like. I'm in money had went into the making that program and I'm away from Luke and Flynn. Like the lessons that I have learned over the last few months, I have learned them hard.
They have been hard lessons to learn. They have been hard lessons of living completely out of alignment with my priorities, with my values and doing things from a should and forcing things. And actually it became, it was almost like a. sleeping on the floor, crying my eyes out, shutting down the business moment to be like, okay, now things need to change.
And those have been hard lessons. I'm still going through it, but I feel in a really good place now that I'm able to kind of share some of some of the things I've learned and just, it's just giving you a [00:21:00] bit of what's kind of going on. And It was easy for me to be like, but I've spent like months and like even this time last year I was thinking about this program.
I was starting to map it out. I was starting to like sell people on it and starting to be like, okay, what's going in and, and starting to like think about videos and blocking out a week in the summer to like record videos, all of that stuff. Oh my God, I've learned so much. I back to like, yeah. Anyway, I would do it very differently if I was gonna do it again.
But we can get there and yeah, maybe I'll talk about that in another episode. I would do my scary goal differently if I did it again and that was my scary goal for last year was creating and launching this program and I did it and it'd be very easy to say, well, I've already put all this time and money in, there's already people in it, like people are enjoying it, they're getting stuff out of it.
Why not just keep going? But I knew that it wasn't where I wanted to go. It wasn't part of the business that I was looking for. going forward, I was still figuring out what that was, but I knew that it wasn't part [00:22:00] of it. And so it was making that decision. Would I, in this moment today, invest this time and this money and have this as like a product as an offering?
And I was like, no. And so it's letting go on not dwelling. And I've actually been, I've actually, I've learned, I think it's like, I've learned so much from it. All the things that didn't go right from all the times I like looked outside my values and my priorities, that has been like 10 times over worth.
The investment of my time and my money, like a hundred percent, it's been freaking hard and it's almost like, I remember when I was embarking onto it, like the scary goal, having it last year, it felt scary because it was like, if this doesn't work out, this is almost a quote unquote public failure. It's like, I'm trying something that maybe isn't going to work or isn't going to land or whatever.
And I'm not seeing it as a [00:23:00] failure. I'm seeing it as a complete success and it's complete. I did the thing. I did it from the wrong energy. I did it from a should, I did it from trying to force something. I did it from thinking about what I Had done rather than where I want to go and like literally learned so much from it.
Like now the boundaries and my values feel like even stronger. I'm like, I am not missing out on any more time. Like I'm never ever working weekends even to record the odd video. I'm like not working my days off and doing any of that. It was for like a few months that I was doing that for like the odd week it was like I hated it at the time.
I just didn't listen to my gut really, which was like. I am out of alignment with what's true for me and my values. So like sometimes you have to learn those lessons by going so far out that like everything feels like it's come crashing down. It's almost like a bit of a rock bottom of having really hard conversations with your [00:24:00] loved ones who are like, this isn't working anymore.
This isn't fun for me seeing you like this in this place and then having to have hard conversations with yourself of being like, yeah, that was not the approach that. It's working and that's not the approach that feels true for you. So yeah, I'm trying to think what else I mean, I wanted to share a little bit of that update.
So I guess things I have learned always really being clear on a decision, whether it's a should or it's a like, yes, like a hell yeah, like this is where I want to go. I'm. I'm way better now at listening to my gut, listening to my body when I'm forcing something. For me, I'm like, huh, this is a sign that I need to just check in somewhere.
Like something doesn't feel right. And rather than just being like, just force through and just like push on, like sometimes things are hard and yeah, you do need, just need to do it. But it's checking in like, do I [00:25:00] actually want to? Like, is this really where I want to go? And I think also what has been so helpful is, when you give yourself permission not to do it at all, what bubbles up is, Oh, but I want to do this thing.
And it was the same for me. I gave myself permission to just, like, not do any of it at all. Close everything down. I was like, Oh no, definitely want to close down time for good, but I do want to keep coaching. I love doing one to one. I love doing like goal setting and helping people like make more impact for their business and step into a bigger version of themselves and put their sense out there more, all of that.
That's what I love. So, so getting rid of this that feels heavy and hard and I don't want to do it. And I'm focusing on what I love. And then if other ideas come along, And they feel amazing. I'll do those as well. So I'm just in a process of creating lots of space, stepping away. And like, even those two days I had completely on my ownnot having any calls and just going on walks and going to coffee shops with my journal and like, meditating and thinking about things, visualizing.[00:26:00]
I deleted all social media from my phone and it was so good. It was almost like. I think what I'd realized is with the shoulds when I was making decisions last year, some of it was coming from like looking outside of me of like someone that was further ahead to be like, Oh, okay. I should do a program now and it should be like this rather than like, what do I actually want to do for my business?
What feels really fun and amazing for me rather than like, Oh, I should do this thing. And again, it's like trusting yourself, not looking to others for the answer. Like look at it for inspiration and be like, Oh, that sounds kind of cool. How would I do it for me? Like, is this something I actually want to do?
And I think really thinking through, which I maybe didn't is like what it's then like in the day to day and not just the excitement of it, but like. the execution of it as well, which maybe I hadn't really kind of fully thought through because it was like, Oh, I should just do this thing. And then this will be amazing.
And it's like, but I didn't do it [00:27:00] from the right, I didn't make the decision from the right place, but I think I'd also realize up until that point when things came, they felt like they came crashing down floor sleeping day, the crying and floor sleeping and business winding up day is I had had so many like inputs coming in.
Of like, like the noise from social media from like, and that's where the shoots can come. It's like, Oh, someone's doing this thing. Maybe I should too. Someone's doing this thing. Maybe I should too. Cause our, this is how we're wired. We're wired to look to others and see what they're doing and like make sense of it.
And social media is this weird thing because our brain is using it to compare, but it's not getting the full spectrum of that person's day and their life and their business. They're getting the highlight reels or the things that really worked or the like, and There. So then we try and compare that and we're just not seeing the full picture.
So again, there's also the point of this podcast is like goals, the good, the bad and ugly. It's like sometimes you have your scary goal and you're like, this is not what I wanted. This is not what I set out to do. And it's [00:28:00] letting that go and being able to make those decisions. Not in the heat of the moment, like having a good cry and then coming out to the date.
So I like had, I was like, I'm closing it down and that felt really good. And then giving myself space to like percolate on it and it came bubbling up like, okay, no, actually I do want to. Keep going just in a different way and, but not having the digital inputs, the social media inputs just helped me re tap into what is it I want, because I think that I'd been slightly missing in the business is like a lot of shades, a lot of like, but I've done this in the past, so I keep doing it rather than like, what if this can be a reset?
And so I was thinking of that inflection point and some of the words that I've been, I've Playing with, I actually wrote, did a lot of journaling and one, like a couple words that really helped me. One of them was metamorphosis. So I did a lot of like napping, like lying in bed or daydreaming, just like resting.
I was so exhausted, probably [00:29:00] like quite burned out just from all of that. Um, being myself up and forcing and forcing and forcing. And yeah, the word that came up was metamorphosis. It's like, I am going into a chrysalis. There are changes happening as I'm resting, as I'm stepping away, as I'm unplugging and I'm just letting go.
What is there? What's been like under the surface being like, hello, like you've had anxiety and self doubt and something's been a bit funny, like for a while, but I've just been not listening to it. Just being like, Oh, I'll just like keep going. And then actually listening to him like, Oh, okay. This is an inflection point.
Something needs to change and doesn't feel good in the moment. But coming back to thinking of it as a metamorphosis really helped me. I was like, I'm going through this period of change and letting my body rest. I'm laying just Whatever is there, be there. I'm not trying to change it. I'm just listening for like what's happening.
And the other word that came up was like [00:30:00] Phoenix. So it's almost like the Phoenix rising from the flames. So feeling like my business as it was, like, as it has been in the past, like I kind of burned it down. Like where it had been, there is like, now there's like ashes. And this is just like, you wouldn't notice this from the outside, like, I've not really changed anything.
I mean, I've not updated our website in like two years or something. That definitely needs some work, but not on any of that external stuff. It's all the like internal things. So the people in time for good know that I'm not doing that anymore. But other than that, this is my first time kind of talking about it.
So it's almost like burning down what was there and then from the ashes from that like leveling is gonna grow something Even better, even bigger, taking everything that I have learned, even through this process of trying to force something and being like, okay, this needs to change. So I just want to offer that that's what's going on.
There's no real [00:31:00] tips or anything for this episode. It's more just an update. And if you're going through an inflection point or if things feel really heavy and hard, I just want to offer first that. It's finite. Like you're going to come through the other side of it. When I was in this over the last like few months and certainly the last like few weeks, it has felt so it's almost felt like heavy, hard, heavy, hard, heavy, hard.
And then it's almost like quote unquote the rock bottom. It's what it's felt like a lot like the last. Like, about a month or so ago was like the rock bottom and I'm sure I'll speak a bit more about that in future. I'm not really ready to die, but it was not good, but giving myself that permission to just completely step away has really helped.
It's annoying. Like where I am now. Like, oh, everything just feels so much easier and lighter, and I have more of an idea of where I'm going. I'm still kind of exploring things, but because I've let go of the stuff that I'm not taking with me, like the [00:32:00] Time for Good program, I have so much more energy and headspace.
to think about what is next. And so even thinking about that for you, like, are there any things that feel hard and heavy that you quote unquote should do? And if you let them go, just thinking how much mental, it's not just the time that you save, but like the mental weight that you save as well, the mental and emotional energy of not even having to put any of your attention on this thing anymore.
And that was the other reason I was just like, I just wanted to refund everyone. Even though I'd been coaching, I'd had the things for, you know, six months or however long it was five months, I was like, no, I just want to be able to refund and like completely draw a line under it. Like that felt really good for me.
And I just like let that go. And I like even just this week, like did the refunds and stuff last week and even this week I'm like, Oh, I feel so much lighter even though I've been a bit ill, but I feel so much lighter and just like letting go of that. And so, yeah. [00:33:00] Anyway, those are some things that have been helping me.
So again, inflection points, they don't feel that good. And they can feel like a dip and like, you're just going down, down, down, down, down. There will be a point where you don't go any lower. Maybe you're there yet. Maybe you're not quite there yet, but knowing that it will turn and you will start going up again
It's like when we're. Um, when things happen that maybe we don't choose or we have chosen and we don't want anymore like all of these things when something just isn't working anymore and we're like forcing, forcing, forcing and it's like, Oh, those are the moments where if we are kind to ourselves.
We get to then it's like a blank sheet almost like create the future we want, the business we want, the scary goal we actually want to rather than living by someone else's rules or doing what we think we should do. And if you can give yourself that space [00:34:00] to just see what that is for you, it is the most beautiful thing.
And this is me saying this on the other side of it and yeah, just feeling like the most me. I guess I have in a long time and my business feeling like. the most me in a long time. I'm sure there's still other things that will shift, but anyway, I'm going to stop there because this has probably been a long episode so far, but thank you for listening.
And yeah, I'd love it. Like if there's anything you're going through at the moment, any inflection points that you have, or if any of this resonates, like, please reach out and let me know how you're going on. Whether it's with a scary goal that you no longer want to do or some decision that you've made previously, like anything.
any decision you've made can always be remade. So even in this moment, whatever has happened in the past, you can remake a decision right now. So it's, that's how you avoid the sunk cost fallacy is like just because you've done it in the past been invested all this time and money and whatever Would you choose it right now?
Today? And then you [00:35:00] can decide. And if not, then being willing to let that go and stepping into the future that you actually want. Go the business that you actually want because life is too short not to do what you want and to force things or people please or should do or any of that stuff. No, no more.
Anyway, I hope you have an amazing rest of the day, an amazing week, and I'll catch you next time.
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