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Hi, and welcome to the Scary Goals Club podcast. I'm your host, Hazel Robertson, and I am sitting down today, but [00:01:00] it is not the comfiest chair. I've put like two cushions under and I think. I think I might need to with this, uh, this baby bump growing a little bit. I think I might need to take my podcast recording.
Oh, to come for your seat. Or take it somewhere else, or drag a seat through here. Anyway, I'm here. Here we are. And I, well, there was something this morning. I was like, I'm gonna share this. It's a little bit random, but I'm gonna share it and then we will dive into today's podcast, which is all about time.
And how to bend time. Okay, so if that sounds a little bit vague and you're like, wait, what? What is this? What is going on? We will dive into that. But today, so I've been testing out something and if you are like me and have ADHD this might be something that you tend to do as well, where. I'll have, it's like there's [00:02:00] clothes that I wear, like I don't wash everything straight after I wear it.
Like sometimes I'm like, oh, I'll give it like a little sniff, like jumpers or like something like this shirt for example. Like it might, or like some trousers, they'll get like a few wears. And what I used to do was things that I'd worn that I wasn in. Ready to wash yet I would just like drape over my chest drawers.
I didn't always wanna like put them back in because then I was like, have, are they actually clean? Do I know that I've worn them? Like I didn't really have like a system or anything. And. I guess just being in the new house and like trying to figure out, okay, what are some of the systems, what are some ways that could work for me?
But anyway, what, what used to happen is either they would like pile up somewhere. They'd pile up on the floor, I'd like leave them somewhere. There would just be like piles of clothes and so I couldn't actually see what was in the piles. And then I would go to my wardrobe and like wear something else and then put it on the pile of like, I could still rewear this and what I have done.
That has been it. It sounds so [00:03:00] simple. This is like, anyway, I'm gonna share it just in case it's helpful for you. Is anything that I have worn, so like a lot of my stuff, just the way that the cupboards are set up in the place we're in now, there's a lot more hanging space than I had before. So I'm actually hanging a lot more stuff and so when I have worn like a jumper or a t-shirt or whatever and I'm like, actually it's got another use in it.
I'm hanging it back up. I'm turning the hanger the other way round, so like I can very quickly go into my cupboard and be like, oh, I wore that. I've worn that jumper already. Cool. I'll prioritize wearing that one again. Or if I want to wear another one, then it's like, at least I know that that's a clean one.
And that's been worn, but like has other use out of it. It's almost like I can give something a couple uses and then be like, okay, and now it's time to wash it. So stuff's not going in a, like I'm not piling stuff up in a pile and then being like, oh, I forgot all about this. And then just having to like [00:04:00] wash all the stuff anyway, so it's like cutting down and washing, cutting down on the piles of clothes that I used to have of like, it's not quite ready to, I don't wanna hang it back up, but it's not quite ready to be washed yet.
That then would end up like, I'm forgetting about and be washing anyway. So it's not having piles like lying around and it's such a simple system.
But anyway, I just thought I would share that in case I like love my brain. My brain needs systems to help me just like know where things are, know what's going on. Like, and I, I actually think quite well in systems.
Like I love figuring out how to make something that's like a repeatable process or system so that it's actually so much easier and it doesn't take as much thought, like anything to get basically, I was chatting to like to Luke about this end. I guess it's like basically have like a lazy brain that like [00:05:00] any small, like I can do massive endurance runs, expeditions, like all of that, like huge, big goals.
Great. The smallest, tiniest things can completely derail me. And I know this is common with A DHD where it's like. Or even if I say I was like on an expedition, I was, I would be so rigorous with like, I would know exactly where like my food bag was, my snacks, where everything would be like organized and packed.
So it's like when I go into a pocket, I know that there's a snack in there or like whatever, or like I go into this part of the bag, I know that I can get my water or whatever. Anything where I'm having to search for something, having to figure out where something is or remember where something is.
Anything that's using up, I think like that's part of it. Here we go. This is, I'll get onto this part in terms of, but this is, this is I think important. Anything where like I, I think with knowing how my brain works now and actually being kind to myself and knowing that [00:06:00] I have variable energy and that is part of being someone that's been diagnosed with A DHD, I have bursts of creativity and like everything feels like it's going and it's flowing and I have so much energy and then.
And I can be social and interacting and all of that. And then I need to rest. I need to just decompress, meditate, have some quiet, have some stillness, go to bed really early, like my brain because it is working and thinking and like all of these things are going on, it can be super fast and go, go, go, go, go.
And I can have a lot of energy and like come across like I have a lot of energy. And with that comes a lot of rest as well. And. It used to be I used to beat myself up because it's like why amt? I just this like same output all the time as we're fed from society. It's like productivity and you work nine to five and you like have the same output and it's like, that is just not how I work.
I will have a day, hours, days of just like unbelievable progress and [00:07:00] creativity and ideas and. That uses up so much energy that then that will come with almost like what feels like a slump. It can feel like such a contrast to what's been the previous week or the previous few days, especially if you're a woman, you have cycles as well.
Like there's all of the hormones as well. And I don't beat myself up for that anymore. I just know that this is just part of. How I am and how my brain works. And so I know that when I take care of myself and I'm kind to myself in the times that things feel a bit harder, I don't have as much energy, as much creativity, as much like ideas and momentum that if I just like take care of myself, I will very quickly come back to when I feel a bit more in my like flowy, flowy space.
So I know for me that rest is important. I also know that because I haveve variable energy levels. Like anything, anything that uses my energy, that just doesn't feel like a good use of energy, I find really frustrating and obviously frustration uses [00:08:00] energy, so I don't get frustrated about it, but I notice it.
I may be used to get frustrated and be like, now I can notice it. And if it's something that I'm gonna be doing a lot or something that's gonna come up, especially things like around the house, around our, like how we approach our work and our like inboxes and emails and for me like booking calls and like all of this kinda stuff.
Anything where I can, it's like something that's gonna be done again, again, again. The quicker I can build and figure out, okay, what is the most effective way for me to do this? Try it out, adjust it, tweak it, keep adjusting it. The sooner it's like, okay, I just know what to do and then I don't have to think about it and it doesn't become this thing.
It's like a slight, it's kind of like a ti. It's like a time and brain energy investment in building some kind of system or repeatable process that then is gonna save you so much time and energy in the future. This is one way to bend time. There we go. We've like tied into today's episode, [00:09:00] but. You know, it's like the, the micro, like the micro stuff I find on the day-to-day basis on a day-to-day basis.
Adds up, like the micro friction of going to do something or get something and around the house, for example, like seeing a pile of clothes and being like, oh, I have to like sort that. Or what's in it or I don't know what's in it. Like anything that's gonna cut down on that, where I go to go to get something and it's in its place and I've put something back at this place and everything has a place.
Or I go into my like wardrobe now and I know. Cool. I can wear this again and then I will wash it or like I can, everything's like organized and I can see everything. I think that's it. That's one of the amazing things about not having that many clothes is like I can just see everything so I know what I have and anything.
I'm not, especially at the moment with like not fitting so many of my clothes, like pre pregnancy. [00:10:00] I actually just take them outta my wardrobe. They're all in a bag. Like, well, they've not gone up to the loft yet, but they're getting attitude like going up to the loft. It's like, I'm only gonna have stuff in there that I like and that fits me, and that I feel good in everything else.
I'm like, no. It either goes out, goes up to the loft, or I'll like make a decision on it another time. Anyway, that is a slight tangent, but I do wanna, so anyway, the takeaway for you is just, are there moments throughout your day. And really tune into it where there feels like there's some kind of friction.
There's something that like takes a bit longer, feels a bit heavier, feels a bit stickier. You're having to use extra thought where it's just not worth your effort, just not worth your energy. If you can, rather than get frustrated and like annoyed, like frustration's, a good example of something to maybe change rather than using the frustration and getting really annoyed at it.
The frustration can be a signal to be like, what can I actually do? What process or system or how could I make this more effective? How could I make this [00:11:00] better? How can I make this simpler? That's one of the questions that I love asking myself, how can I simplify this?
How can I, how can I make it really clear? How can I make it really easy? How can I make it obvious? All of these things really help me. So thinking about that on your day-to-day basis as well. Anyway, that was a tangent from what I actually wanted to talk about today. That could be, I could literally do a whole podcast episode.
I could do a whole. Thing on that, like it's like my jam is seeing something and being able to simplify it, build a system out of it, make it just easier and more streamlined. And I think it's sometimes it's easier to see with other people as well. But anyway, I am able to do it in my own life as well. And it's almost becomes like a game.
It's like, Ooh, how could I make this even better? How could I make this more efficient? How can I make this more effective? How could I make this basically from my lazy brain? Doesn't have to do as much thinking and figuring out, and I don't have to do as many steps in the house trying to go somewhere.
Something's not there. Going somewhere else [00:12:00] like that is not fun. That is exhausting. And I've done it for years and no more. So anyway, right. Okay. What I wanna get onto today is bending time. Now, I've spoken about time a little bit on this podcast. What's really interesting is when I started the coaching business, it was mainly time that I was coaching on, because this is something, especially as someone with A DHD and those of us who have ADHD, we have time blindness, meaning we don't process and interpret time in the same way we often can.
Like overestimate how much we're able to do. We can get so caught up in like, something either feels really urgent or like, so not urgent at all. There's almost like it's this like, okay, this has to be done right now, or forget about it, and then almost we can completely forget about it until it becomes urgent again.
So it's the, it's the like the now or the Not now. And [00:13:00] because I think I've spoken about this in a previous episode because. The amount of dopamine in our system, and those of us with A DHD, myself included, have a lower level of dopamine and lower uptake of dopamine because of our brain chemistry and because the way our brain works, dopamine is linked to how we interpret time.
I think I must have talked about this before. Anyway, the Huberman Lab podcast, Dr. Andrew Huberman talks about this and he like breaks it all down. He does a lot of stuff on a DH, ADHD and like the brain and dopamine and talks about how when there's less dopamine in the system,
it almost like slows time down.
I'll link the podcast to the show notes if you wanna go to listen to the other one. Anyway, it doesn't actually like the specifics of it doesn't matter. I didn't double check them before this because I didn't think I'd actually be going onto, like if I'd mapped out what I was gonna chat about. I didn't think I'd get into the like specifics of it.
But basically the key thing to know is that. Those of us who have ADHD, we [00:14:00] have time blindness. And even those of us who do, like if you don't, if you're neurotypical, you don't, you're not neuro divergent, don't have ADHD. You still might have, I guess, like, I don't wanna say challenges with time. I guess you might have a.
A challenging relationship with time. There we go. For so many reasons, and one of them is, if you think about it, like in our society, in our culture, what you've probably grown up hearing, especially if you're neuro divergent, especially if you have a DH adhd, like for me, we. 'cause of the time blindness. I'm like, la, la, la.
Cool. I can do all these other things before I leave in five minutes. And then it's like I done. I've not done all this. I did this yesterday. I went to the opticians and I left so much time to drop, drop my son off as grandparents. Chat to them. I was like, I'm gonna leave in 15 minutes. I have plenty of time to park and do all this.
I ended up just [00:15:00] not, I didn't set an alarm, which is what I normally do, and I, I was so early, everything was so relaxed. This the whole morning, and I left because I was like, oh, I can just, yeah, I've got time for like a cup of tea and a piece of toast. Like of course. That's a great. I didn't, I time for that and a chat and then to say bye before I went and then get in the car and then realize, oh wait, I have to drive.
Wait, I have to then park the car, pay for the parking. Then I have to walk to the, like, I just hadn't accounted for all that I think I had in my head, and then I didn't. I tried to fit in like so many things. It's like I be, yeah, of course we've got time for this. It's like, no, I actually don't. So I grew up, this was very common where.
My family would be ready and waiting for me and I would've forgotten something inside or I'd have to go back. And so there's always this like, especially if you're neuro divergent, this like feeling quote unquote behind being the last one being late rushing. 'cause it's almost like I've got plenty of time.
They're like, ah, everything's this bad rush. And we get fed from society like, oh, there's not enough time. There's not [00:16:00] enough time. This is late, this is late. And we feel this pressure, and especially because our brains are wired to look for, they have this negativity bias to look for, like everything that's not working.
Everything that we don't have, so say we're working. It's the same with goals, whether it's goals or time. If we are working on a goal, our brain automatically will go to how we're not there yet and how far we still have to go and how it's not working and how it's gonna take so long. It is the same with time.
Our brain automatically will just go to, because this is kind of how we've been brought up in society and the negativity bias of our brain, it will go to how little time we have left, how there's not enough time, how there's. Like we still have so many things to do in this shorter space of time, and it's basically a scarcity mindset.
So an abundance mindset is where our brain naturally, and we do this by rewiring it and by focusing and redirecting when it wants to go to the scarcity of [00:17:00] not having enough of something, like not having enough time, we redirect it again and again. Again, this is literally one of the core things that I do with my clients with coaching is like.
Pulling the brain back, focusing on what they do have, the progress they have made, where they things are working, how they are good at that, where they've done things in the past. And it's the same with time. Focusing on how much time there is rather than how much time there isn't or how much time has already passed.
It's like just this ongoing process of redirecting. Rewiring her brain, rewiring her brain because it will automatically go to, there's not enough time. There's not enough time. Like even if you think, if you wake up in the morning. Just watch your brain before you start retraining it and rewiring it.
Guaranteed, pretty much guaranteed. It will go to how you've not had enough sleep, how there's not enough time to get to do whatever the thing is you want to do or how you've slept in later than you thought. It's like as soon as we wake up, if we, if we don. [00:18:00] Consciously program our brain to focus on what we do, have the abundance mindset.
It will slip into scarcity and it just will feed us this again and again and again over the course of the whole day. And then we look at our clock and we realize there's not enough time. There's not enough time. And, and it just, it's this constant loop. And here's the thing, like. When we are in that place, in that scarcity mindset place and our brain just is constantly looking at the clock, there's not enough time.
I haven't done this. I have all the things we haven't done all the time. We don't have how there's not enough time. How we're behind just is like this constant loop. We feel stressed, we feel panic, we feel fear, we feel uncertain. We just feel this like dread basically. And when we're in that place, well, first of all, it's so stressful for our body being in a stress state, having cordal and adrenaline just pumping through our body again over and [00:19:00] over and over for an entire day.
And all our brain's thinking about is like, it's not enough. I'm not enough time. Not enough time. I'm late, I'm late. I'm like, there's like constant thing. We are in a stress state. When we're stressed, we are not accessing creativity, innovative thinking lot like long-term thinking. We are only focused on the short term, only focused on how there's not enough right time right now or until in this hour or like for this day, we become so shortsighted, so narrow-minded.
So we're, we're in a survival place. And when we are stressed, that's when we make mistakes. That's when we rush. That's when we rush into meeting and we've not planned properly. And then we realize we don't even need to be in the meeting in at all. And so when we're talking about bending time, we're talking about like, how do we,
I guess it's like making the most of the time we have. [00:20:00] But also realizing that we actually get to control time and, and one example could be like just pausing before a meeting, taking some breaths. Checking in like, okay, what are the key points I want to put across? And showing up in a different way that's gonna like lead the meeting and lead the energy and shift how everyone else is feeling in the room.
Like we have so much more control and agency than we realize over time and our experience of time and what we're able to create. When you think, when we're in that panic place, in that scarcity mindset of not enough time, not enough time, and we are rushing and we are making mistakes, and maybe we're in such a panic that we can't even think, wait, do I need to do this?
Oh wait, an email just pinged up. I'll do this. And we're like jumping back and forth between things. We, if we stay in that we are actually using so much more time, using so much more energy. Then, uh, [00:21:00] and like we're just not like enjoying our life. We're not enjoying our time and it actually is using more time to get, like if there was some email we wanted to send and it's just like, oh, I don't have enough time for this.
And we're panicking, we're jumping around for different thing to think, to think and rushing and maybe we would make a mistake and then someone has to come back and correct the mistake. And then we haven't attached the, the document or whatever to the emails and it's like, you've not attached it. 'cause we were in a rush thinking there's not enough time like.
That is using more time and using more energy, and it's just not fun. Trust me, I did this for years. It's not fun. And there's, there's completely another way of, of being, and I'll talk a little bit about it today, but I also wanna, and I'll put the link in the show notes as well for this, like I'm doing whole free training before I go on mat leave.
I'm going on mat leap in, uh, mid-December, 18th of December. Before I go, I wanna do free training on this. So on the Friday, the 5th of December, the day before my [00:22:00] birthday, day before I'm 40. I'm like getting in there. The last training of my thirties. I am doing literally a whole workshop on this where we will actually dive into it in a bit more detail.
I just wanna chat through like some of the elements of it today. So I'll put the link in the show notes, like do sign up for that. I have totally lost all this. Oh my God. I got distracted by my birthday. Okay. Where, okay, so I will, I'll give more information about the free training, but one, like how we, we think and we're, we're not really taught, like we're never, if you think about this, we go through school, we're taught how to like do maths and do this and do English and do these other things and memorize dates.
We're not taught how to. Understand how time works, understand how our mind works, understand how our emotions work, how actually that influences our time, how to plan, how to make decisions. Like all of this stuff. Like we're not taught how to manage our time [00:23:00] especially, and, and, and then maybe we get into, if there's something that.
You get into like me, it's very easy to get into, okay, this is how non neurodivergent people plan their time and they do this. And it's like they can have maybe a more consistent energy output and they can, their energy's less variable so they can plan to do these things on these days. And like I used to do this of planning out like my whole week, like every single part of it.
And I used to teach this as well. And yet. It didn't account for my variable energy levels, and then I would just get exhausted and just be like, I can't do this. Like this isn't, this isn't working for me. And, and we don't get to, like, trying to use a neurotypical way of planning if you're neuro divergent also doesn't work.
Or like planning and like managing your time also doesn't work. There's so many elements, like we don't get taught this. We often get shamed or hear different things from society, or we get in trouble for being late or we think that there's not enough time. Like [00:24:00] all of this is coming in and we don't get taught how to do it.
And so it's so easy to be like, I'm just terrible at time. Time is this, is this like big thing outside of us that's just feels, it can feel so out of control and it's like, oh, however much I do, like, there's always more to be done and I'm so busy and so, so this. We'll talk about all this more in the training, but one of the key things to know is that we control our experience of time.
Okay? We control our experience of time by how we are thinking, the stories that we tell about what we're doing, about time, about life, and that drives how we're feeling if we are. Again, feeling rushed, feeling panicked. Everything feels like it's speeding up and it can feel like, like our whole experience of life and of living and whatever we're doing is rushed and feels like it can feel like it's just running away with us.
And it's like, ah, this, [00:25:00] this panic when we are just feeling calm and flowy and creative and we have a regulated nervous system and we are thinking at a higher level. That is how we bend time because we change our entire experience of it. And I'm gonna give you like a specific example. So this happened last week.
mapped out of like, okay, these are the key things I wanna get done in the day. I'd put it like in time blocks in my calendar. And I woke up and I just felt. So heavy, so many just like heavy waves of feelings.
And I was trying to focus and do the things and I just couldn't. And I just found myself like wanting to distract myself. And I would try and plan and I could, like, I just couldn't think I was in such a dysregulated place, like state my nervous system. Like I couldn't think straight. And then I was beating myself up because.
It was whatever time and, I dunno, maybe it was like [00:26:00] 11 and I hadn't started the things that I had thought I would do by the morning. 'cause I, I just, I almost like physically couldn't. I just wanted to crawl into bed and hide and just be like, I can't do today. Like, I'm just gonna not do it. I was like, no, this is not what we're doing.
But I did go and lie in bed and I pro like just processed and processed and processed through feelings and. I do this in lots of different ways. I've got free meditation. I'll put that that's in the show notes. So like, if you want, if you don't know how to process through feelings or you've never done it before, get the free meditation.
It honestly will like change your life. Change my life. And just you listened to that, processed it through, did EFT tapping, like just was like shaking out. Just like lots of breathing, just processing through moving, moving through the feelings. Had like massive cries, just got it all out and was still like, okay, I feel better, but I'm still not there yet.
And I went out for a [00:27:00] walk and. I looked at the time and I looked at what was in my calendar, and luckily I was just, because I've practiced this as well, I was so kind to myself, it was like, it's okay. We're just, we're we're getting to the point where like, I can even rethink and remake a plan. I just we're moving the emotions out my body, they're, they need to go.
Went out for a walk, just felt so much better. Did some more breathing, had another cry when I was out there. Like the emotions kept coming in waves and waves and waves. Did some more tapping and then actually felt. In this place where I just felt so calm, so like myself and I just sat with my intuition, which again is something I teach my clients like how to tap into their intuition and oftentimes if you don't know how to tap into it or you're not able to, it's because it sits under the kind of surface level feelings and emotions that often can cloud where like we feel a certain way.
Once we can process 'em through, we can tap into our intuition like our inner knowing. [00:28:00] And I just asked myself. I just sat on this bench looking out in the view, closed my eyes and just asked myself, what are the next steps? As in I had this day, I thought I would get these things done. Two, three hours had passed where I just wasn't able, like, was not able to, I tried to sit and focus, I couldn't, like, I can't force myself to do that, and I know that I'm just not gonna like, I'm not gonna be productive in that.
Away or not gonna be effective. So I'm just like, it's better to step away and actually just process through things. Okay. These, these, these hours have gone, this is the time I have left in between like calls and whatever else I had on for the day. It was like, this is the time I have. What are the next steps?
Four things came up. I didn't have, my phone had actually died, so I didn't even have like somewhere to write it down. So I just kept seeing them over and over in my head, and it was just this like calm, deep, inner knowing. It's like, okay, these are the things. And I, [00:29:00] again, because I've done a lot of this work, I was able to anchor myself back.
My brain kept going to. Before this, it was like, there's not enough time. You're, you've wasted all this time. You haven't done this, dah, dah, dah. I'm like off in these spirals and I was able to, after I processed it through and had my four things, I came back to, there's plenty of time and I bend time. Like this is something that is so, is a belief.
I just, I love and I find so powerful to just anchor into. I bend time. Time doesn't, it's not this thing that exists, like I get to bend it depending on my emotional experience, and went back, had these four things, which were slightly different than what I'd originally planned. But actually we're getting to the same outcome, if you see what I mean.
It's like, because I was calm, I was able to think, think at a different level [00:30:00] and I'd thought, okay, these are the things I wanna do and this is what needs to be done to get to the outcome. And actually after processing it through, tapping into my intuition, it was like, no, it's these things. These are the things, these are the next things.
I sat down and literally. Did them all in probably a third of the time that I had originally planned to like, it was like by the end of the day, I will have got to this place. And I got to that place in a slightly different order doing slightly different things. And in a third of the time it was, I mean, it's wild.
Like that is how you bend time. Like I didn't need six hours to do these things. I just needed two, but two, two hours knowing ex, being very clear what I wanted to do, being in a very, like calm and grounded and like feeling powerful place and a feeling that these things were really important and that they mattered.
And thinking about that like bigger level of [00:31:00] connection and. Helping someone or whatever. These, these bigger things I often tap into as well. Rather than when I'm in this emotional state, all I can think about is myself and how, oh, this and that and oh this, this. It's like when I can process it through, allow myself to cry and then like get out for a walk and just shift the feelings, then I can tap back into that bigger purpose, that bigger vision and actually.
Being able to show up and be useful and help someone, like that's how we make more impact. That's how we bend time, is we realize, wait, these things didn't need done. It's okay to like process through feelings and then it means the time that we do have is so much more potent. And actually the day felt amazing because I'd had like, I obviously needed, I just needed a few hours to like rest to process to go out for a walk.
I had such a nice walk as well. It was so amazing being out. Whereas before, you know, it was like, I don't have to go out for a walk. I have to get these things done. I haven't started them. No, no. It's [00:32:00] like plenty of time I get to bend time. So I went out for a walk, processed through all of this stuff, felt so much lighter, so much clearer, so much more focused, and then was like boom, boom, boom.
Did them in the third at the time. It's wild. And I'm like. Again, I'm gonna dive into this more on the fifth, so do sign up if you wanna understand and like I'm gonna get really into like the tools so you can take this away. The first thing, if you want to be starting on this now and actually taking this away and have some homework and really practice it, go to the show notes, download the free guided meditation.
This is the same meditation I use, I give to my clients and it's, it walks you through how to process your feelings because we don't get taught this either, unless you have a very emotionally. Mature caregivers who have done this work themselves, but like growing up as the, like this wasn't really known or taught or like, I guess some people maybe have been like, I wasn't taught how to process feelings.
Like it's only been more recently. And yet when we can [00:33:00] process through our feelings, we come into this calm ground place, then we can tap into greater thinking. Then we can realize, wait. I can just send this email like this or wait, it doesn't need an email. It just needs a quick phone call. Or we can, we can think on a higher level and the things that we thought we had to do that there wasn't enough time to do and we have to do all these things.
It just does like, it almost like dissolves some of the to-dos. We can get so into the, when we're in the scarcity mindset of I have to do these things, there's not enough time. How do you, it's like on the to-dos when we can just come back to that feeling of groundedness and calm. We realize we don't actually have to do as much.
There's just maybe a few potent things we can do, and that's gonna move us where we need to go or where we want to go. So go and download free guided meditation, and any time that you find yourself in a place where you're like, there's not enough time, or you feel that panic coming up. Step away. The meditation's only six [00:34:00] minutes.
Download it, save it to your phone, put in your headphones, go to the toilet and just process it through and then come back to, there's plenty of time and just see what comes up or like what are the next steps. You can ask yourself that as well. So go and do that. That is your homework to just like practice in your own way.
Bending time or like, how could I do this? I guess with the. Stuff I chat about at the beginning, like, how could I do this in a more effective way? Or, well, well, how can I simplify this? Maybe all these things don't need done, but again, when we're in a stressed state and panic mode, we're like, we don't qu, we don't have the cap mental capacity to question stuff.
We're just like, huh, doing brush rush, rush, ftic, frantic, frantic. When we can really ground ourselves, calm ourselves down, then that's when we think at higher level and when. We get to just change our whole experience of time. Like that day was just such a different day and it just felt like, like the amount I got done in two hours, but the two hours didn't feel rushed.
It was just this like really [00:35:00] calm presence of just like, okay, and then I do these things. That thing is done. Yep. And now we're onto this and that thing is done. And it was just such an enjoyable experience. And this is how my day-to-day, day to day work now versus, you know, even just a few years ago, like pre-coaching and pre figuring out all this work.
Where there would just be this panic and rush and it was like, there was just never, there never felt like enough time, and I was always in this panic and then I realized, wait, I get to choose that. I get to change it. I get to bend time. I'm in control of time. I changed my entire experience of time. And when you realize that your time, like this is something I was also come back to, your time is your life.
Like, it's not like life happens after you get these things done because there's always more things to do. There is like infinite things to do that your brain will find if it's trying to find them all. And then it's like you find you do other things, do other things onto the next thing, and then [00:36:00] you die, which sounds a bit morbid, but it's the same with like goals.
It's like if we're always chasing the goal to reach this place of satisfaction when we've arrived. We will never get there because we've never practiced the feeling of satisfaction and being present. So just because we do a goal, there's more things to do, more things to do, and then we die literally. So your time is your life.
How you experience time, every moment of time is how you experience your entire life. Are you present? Are you enjoying the moments? Are you allowing yourself to tap into your creativity and really lose yourself? In the moment and just create and just know that you're focusing on stuff that's really important.
Or are you in this like, do, do, do, do, do. Panic, panic that I used to be. No shame if you are. In which case suddenly like weeks and months and years will pass. And it's like, what have I even been doing? And we we're not even able to be present and experience it. And I get it. Like this was me. So if this is [00:37:00] you.
Well come to the training on the 5th of December and there's some other fun stuff coming as well. Sign up to that and go and download the free guided meditation. Put it on your phone. Get it in your headphones. Step away. If you find yourself on the, like the treadmill, they're like, and just practice bringing yourself back down and you will, and like you will notice such a shift.
Okay. I hope that was helpful. It was a little bit, I know it jumped all over the place a little bit, but. Let me know. I wanna hear your thoughts and I can't wait to see you in the fifth. It's been so long since I've done like an in-person live trading and I think maybe it's like I've just been figure, no, I've done an in-person one, an online one, and maybe I've just been figuring out like what the angle is.
But this, I just know. I'm like, okay, and there's something really fun coming, which I'm gonna talk about in the fifth as well. So lots of really cool things. I know you're gonna love this. I know it's gonna be so useful and so helpful, and I [00:38:00] like, honestly, these tools have changed my life and the life of like lives of my clients, and the meditation is one of those.
So go and get that and then come to the free training and then I'm gonna tell you about some other fun stuff coming. Okay? Have an amazing day and an amazing week ahead, and I'll see you next time. Bye.
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