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and welcome to the Scary Goals Club podcast. I'm your host, Hazel Robertson, and I am joined here with my dog Maple, who is probably gonna start [00:01:00] p pawing at me. And I'm not sure how this will work. Sometimes I've brought her in before with podcast recordings, but I thought I would tap into a little bit of body doubling for the last bit of the day to today and have her in here to help me focus and help me.
Just create what I wanna create for this next podcast episode. So we'll see if it works. It's also just before her dinner time, so she might start scratching at the door if I stop scratching her ears or giving her claps. So if it gets too distracting, I will. Um, I'm not sure what I'll do. She's like, no, don't leave me.
Don't put me eye, hang on. Don't see if you can see her. There she is. There you are. There you are you saying hi? Um, all right, let me set this back. Okay. Hang on. Ah, you know. That's the only thing is then she'll start pawing at me and looking at me. Look at me. Okay. Um, so welcome this Scary Goals Club podcast.
I'm joined [00:02:00] here with my dog and I've got like auto zoomo on for the video. It's why it keeps like moving in and out. I thought it was a good thing, but every time I move, it seems to move. Anyway, I'm gonna leave it on for now because I don't wanna like fiddle around with then change. And if you're listening to this in audio, you probably have no idea what's going on.
You haven't seen Maple and. You're like, what is she talking about with Auto zoom. Anyway, let's get into the podcast for today. So today I, well, I wanna talk about something that it's all, it's always at this time of year that I get the same, at the same kind of feelings, the same kind of. Reflections is around about the time of my birthday, so it is a big birthday this year.
I mean, all birthdays are big year, are big birthdays. I guess that's one way I think about it is like how amazing to be alive and get another trip around the sun and have another day. So this year is 40, turning 40 in a few days. So [00:03:00] this is like my last Thursday as a 40-year-old. No, I'm not 40 yet as a 30 something year old in my thirties.
It's so funny when, um, because I'm like a December birthday and most of my friends that were born in the same year are like, they've already turned 40 by the time it's December. I remember when I had the scan with my son, like they asked me to check. I think it was like my date of birth or that my age, that was it.
And I was like, oh, no, no, that's it. That's not right. I'm actually, I'm actually older than that. And then they were like, uh, no, no, you're right. If your date of birth right, like that's your age. And I had just assumed it was like almost by the time December came around, I had just assumed I was that age, not with 40.
I am clinging on to, I'm not in my forties yet, so. This year, I very much feel like I've been in my thirties for most of the year. I've not just been like, oh yeah, cool, I'm the age already. It's like, no, I still have two or one and a half full days left of my thirties and [00:04:00] they're gonna be amazing and I'm enjoying them.
But yeah, I think like birthdays for me are always quite reflective. I think it's a, a chance to reflect on the year. I guess it's also knowing. Um, you know, I have like a friend that I was really close with at uni who never got her 25th birthday, let alone like her 30 somethings, let alone her 40th birthday.
So for me, like birthdays are always this extra, I guess, this extra gratitude of, of like, I almost see it the other way. Not like, oh no, I'm old or whatever, like aging. It's almost like, ah, how amazing. To get to this age at all. Like so many people don't, and I know people that didn't. And I think that just gives me this extra like, not necessarily boost, but just, just appreciation.
That's what it is. It's just this like deep appreciation for life and [00:05:00] for being here at all and getting, yeah, well, like life is, I didn't expect this to get so philosophical, but like. Life when you think about it, is crazy anyway. Like the, the chances, you know, it's like when you think about the chances of like you existing at all in this moment of time with the other people that you know, that existing in this moment of time and having this like human experience even like I think about that with my dog.
It's like the chances of her, it was her birthday yesterday, actually, five, she just turned five. So it's like the chances of her being around. And then the chances of me being around like at the same time, and it's like, how amazing all these people in my life who just make my life so amazing and vibrant and rich.
Who, there's just like such a crazy, crazy small chance of them being here at all. Like if you think back to like [00:06:00] their parents and their parents and their parents and like all of the like sliding doors, encounters and moments that had to happen for them to be here at all. And then the same for me. And it's like, and we all get to cohabit the earth at the same time and like have this human experience at the same time.
Like if I think about that, it just blows my mind. But like in the best way. And so yeah, birthdays are always really reflective from that point of view and just, just feeling this like deep appreciation for being here at all and for getting, for having another trip around the sun and getting another day.
And it, it kind of, yeah, I'm almost like, do I want to do like a little reflection on 40? I hadn't actually thought about that. This maybe could be another podcast episode. Maybe I'll do another one. Maybe you'll get that next week or maybe I'll decide not to. But for today, I just wanted to, this links into like, again, the piece around how [00:07:00] to, it's kinda like how to bend time, how to just change your whole experience.
Of your day because, hang on, I just realized that I have not plugged in this charger. I'm gonna get Potter by Maple. She's like, why have you stopped clapping me? Hang on. Let me see if the Charger's here is, I did a bit of work in a coffee shop this morning, which was so nice, and also it meant that. My charger is not plugged in.
Hang on. Oh, it's gonna do, if you're watching somebody, it's gonna do all the weird movement thing. I'm gonna pause this. I'll come back in a sec. Okay. We're good. Here she is. She's up.
Hi. Are you up? I'm sorry if you're watching this on audio. Basically, she's jumped up to try and like, oh.
She just pulled the microphone off. [00:08:00] Hopefully this works. Oh my goodness. This is a fun episode where you as a listener all my life, what's going on in the background. This is also why I don't normally take her through and maybe at this time of day as well where there's quite, oh, she's scratching the DoorDash.
You want your dinner? Okay. I'm gonna pause this again and I will come back and then we're gonna chat about a way to shift your day. Okay. We're here, we're continuing for Maple. She'll get her dinner soon. Okay. Um, so the thing I wanted to talk about today, the, I guess it's been on my mind a little bit more just the last week and maybe it's like coming up, reflecting on birthday and like all that kinda stuff is just.
Like a really simple practice and it will just completely change the course of your day, and especially [00:09:00] when you're thinking about spending time and like using time to help you and getting, it's not about getting more out of the time you have, but I guess it's. Really understanding and appreciating the time you have.
And that is practicing gratitude. Gratitude for the time that you have. So like, I guess how I've been doing it the last week, for example, would be around, you know it, okay, let me rewind back. So we often have. We can adopt, and this is from how we are brought up, this is from what we internalize from the world.
A very, what would be called like a time scarce mindset, like a scarcity lack mindset in terms of thinking about the time we don't have, thinking about how there's not enough [00:10:00] time thinking about how we want more and it will never be enough. Like that is where often so many of our brains can go on default and again.
This is modeled to us, or if it's we're been rushed as kids and it's like we're gonna be late. There's not enough time. It's like we internalize all of these sayings and phrases and ways of being around time as in, we're gonna be late, this is gonna happen. There's not enough, there's never enough.
Everything is like this rush. Then we can internalize that as well, and especially where you can hear it, like even in conversations, like start to notice it. Notice if you. Or finding yourself saying this. And if you're saying it, it means you're thinking it. And notice if other people are saying it as well.
Like, you know, when you ask someone how their week's going, they're like busy. You know, so much to do. Not, not enough time to do it all. It just becomes like part of what people talk about. And if we're talking about it, we are reinforcing the belief like on this deeper [00:11:00] level again and again and again, that like somehow there's not enough time, there's not enough, there's not enough.
It's this, like this scarcity mindset is how we. Can often move through the world, which is so interesting because I often think, like with my son, he has no concept of that. Like kids don't. I guess they must have a circadian rhythm in terms of knowing when they're sleepy, it's getting darker or like they know when their body knows when they're hungry, but they don't, they don't know the concept of time, which in terms of like the clock and the years and months and everything,
He doesn't really have this concept of time. We actually have started using a timer, which is quite fun, of like, okay, we're gonna play for five minutes, then we'll go do this thing. So it helps with, you know, rather than relying on my five minutes, which ends up being 20 minutes, it's like, okay, the timer's gone off at the five minutes.
Now we know we're gonna go and have dinner. We're gonna go and do something else or head up to bed. So that has been really helpful. But other than that. They just, they until they [00:12:00] learn time, but they don't have a concept of it. Like everything is just happening in the present moment. Like kids are so present, everything is just happening now.
They're fully present with what's happening. They're playing, they're taking things in, and we start to lose that. As adults. We start to worry about what's happening, how there's not enough time. We look at the clock and it's, it's almost like the clock just. Can control us. It's like we let become this like slave to the croc, the the crock that I've got on some crocs.
The clock we like, we just look at it and it's like everything just becomes, there's not enough. It's running out like all of this heaviness that just feels so heavy and also is completely not true because. There is as much time as there is, we can also completely change. I've spoken about this in the past episode, completely change our experience of time by how we are thinking and feeling.[00:13:00]
And so time is this, when you can think of it as this very fluid thing that actually we are able to influence. It's almost this like time, this dance that we have with it. It's so different and with every, you know, it's like. Yes, my brain might go to, okay, you're gonna be 40 and maybe you live till you're this old.
You know, I'm starting to calculate down of like, this is how many years you have left. And it's like, the truth is we have no idea. Like we don't know any of that. And instead, and, and like that feels to, that can feel just so heavy. And instead, and what I've been focusing on this past week is like. Just being so grateful for the time I have had.
So it's like everything in the past, all of the time, I have had these, almost, not quite, no, almost 40 years of being here as a human [00:14:00] on this, living my life, interacting with other humans, like having a human experience, learning things, figuring things out. Just being so grateful for that time that I have had and all of the amazing things that I've experienced, and then also being so grateful for this time I have right now.
It, it's like waking up and just being like, oh, I have another day. I have this day. Like, how amazing is that? So many people don't get that. So many people don't get to wake up and have the day they think they might when they go to bed and, and they don't. And just like shifting that, there's always different ways you can look at things.
One of them feels stressful, like, oh, there's not enough time. I've slept in, I'm late and rushing. And it's like, our whole day can start like that. If are we just like, go on. The default patterns that we've been brought up with of focusing on the not [00:15:00] enoughness and how there's not enough left. And yet there's always the other perspective of how much we have had and how much we have right now in this moment, in this day, in this hour.
And so taking that as a practice, like even tomorrow doing it, I mean, you could do it right now. You can just like literally close your eyes for gratitude. Sometimes I'll like put my hands in my heart 'cause that's where I really feel it and just breathe and just. Think through, do it now. Like once I explain it, like pause it and do, pause the listening or like the watching and, and go and do this.
Put your hands on your heart. Take a deep breath and just bring to mind all of the amazing, like what an amazing experience you've had so far in your life, wherever you are in your life. How amazing you are here at all and how amazing all of the like wonderful things you've done and just feeling so [00:16:00] grateful for them, like really feel it, and then just being so grateful for having this day, whenever you're listening to this, this hour, this minute, this moment right now.
I'm just pausing and sinking into that. And if you do this in the morning, like your whole day will change. It's, and it's wild how when, when you start to do this and you start to shift into feeling more abundant and feeling more, like more focusing on what you have and how much there is and how much there is to be grateful for and amazing, then you will start to see just how much
other people and just the conversations you have and like the interactions, how people are in such a lack of scarcity mindset, because it'll feel really jarring. It's so different. Like even when I, you know, it was like, speak to people about my age or whatever, and there's always [00:17:00] jokes of like, yeah, they're getting older.
You're not as young as you used to be. And it just, that feels so different with my own beliefs about being 40. I'm just like. What a gift to get to this age. How amazing to have had like four decades on this planet and experience the things I have and to be here and to be healthy and to be happy, and to have an amazing son and like a baby, like on the way, like all of these amazing things.
And just feeling and, and, and even if you're like in a place in your life where. You'd thought you might have been somewhere else, or there was a different timeline that you've maybe had to let go of for how things have been still. If you can tap into being grateful for everything that you have had, and that right now, like right now, right here, this is another day, and just knowing that whatever has happened in the past has absolutely no bearing on [00:18:00] your future unless you let it, like in any moment, you can draw a line.
Start focusing on what it is that you want. Start focusing on what you wanna create. Start focusing your attention on that, like what you have now, what you're grateful for, and where you're going. And that's when things will start to shift and you'll just feel so different and like your day will go differently.
Like practicing gratitude, especially in the morning. It just, or, or any point like. You can do it at any point throughout the day if you're feeling a bit like ugh or something. It's like, if you can notice you're getting into the not enough or the not enough time, if you can catch it and pause and bringing back to like, Ugh, how amazing this time I have, and it just, you'll feel your whole body relax and it'll become so much easier suddenly.
You'd be like, oh, cool. I did that thing in literally like two minutes and I, I've been putting it off for two hours, or I thought it would take [00:19:00] longer. Just by shifting your energetic state, just by shifting your emotional state, everything will change and it's just, and it feels good as well. And like it's just so much easier going through the day.
Like things wash over you a lot more. Don't take things on as much. Just, it's almost, I imagine, I, I feel like. Feeling grateful and really tapping into what it is that you have and especially like how much time that you have. Like how amazing to have this time. If you can get into that place. And it takes practice for sure, especially if the default is, but there's not enough.
There's not enough and you wanna like panic and rush. Bringing it back, bringing it back. It's just getting the reps in, bringing it back, bringing it back, and it just is like things will happen or. Stuff will unfold. Someone will say something and it just washes over you so much more. It's like you don't, we don't take it on as much from it's, I almost imagine it's this like protective bubble that you have around you and things will [00:20:00] happen and it's just like, ding, ding, ding.
Okay, that's good. That's kinda what's happening there. Or that's someone else's perspective. Like, I've got mine and I have so much and there is so much, there's plenty of time. And just like feeling in just such a different energy and such a different place with it. So. Try it out. Let me know how you get on.
I think it will change everything for you. And I also wanna let you know, so there's a few things. I'm trying to think. I actually didn't do a podcast last week. I think I did record one of them was like, I do not wanna send out. It was a bit like, I, I, maybe I need to like watch it back, but I just didn't feel, I wasn't like, this is the podcast I wanna send out to the world.
Anyway, so I think two weeks ago I maybe talked about. My scary goal that I'm creating, which is all about like healing your relationship with time and how to actually, it's like a, a practical tool for putting into practice some of these things, like the one I spoke about today, for example, of just shifting how [00:21:00] you see and experience time rather from the, rather than this, like there's not enough of it, but really getting into a place where you're like, oh, there's plenty of time.
Everything's working out. Like everything's all good. And from that, that's how you actually. Create things just so much more quickly or they just have, they're more potent or like have a bigger impact in the world. So that is, that is still in progress. I'm excited about it and hopefully, no, not hopefully, I will speak it into existence as it is the whole, like manifestation 1 0 1 is speak it as you want it to be.
So not like, I hope it's this. It will be, it will be available by the time I go on mat leave, so that is the, I think 18th or 19th? 19th of December. And there'll be a free workshop that you'll be able to get on How to Bend Time. You can watch that, like really understand on a deeper level some of these practices.[00:22:00]
Put 'em into practice and then I'll talk more about the tool that's coming. It's gonna be so good. I'm so ex like, ah, so. Uh, just like these practices have literally changed everything for me. And I think back, even this, this is a bit of a reflective episode, but like even five years ago where it was just, I felt like this like panic and rush and this last minuteness and there was never enough time and it was like.
Yeah, it would be the first thing I would think about when I woke up in the morning, like, oh, I've slept in. Oh, there's not enough of this. Oh, there's not enough of this. And sometimes my brain can still sneak back there and I can catch it and bring it back. And just like, life feels so much easier now, so much flowier, so much more expansive.
Even though things can happen. Even having like different, different, like just life will life, right? There's gonna be things that are always happening in life. [00:23:00] But just being able to not get caught up in them and just not get caught up in the panic and the not enough, and, and it just, it like life is so much, I guess, more fun and more vibrant when you truly appreciate what you have.
Even when, and I've spoken about this in the, I think I spoke about this in the episode of like how we manifested like our house. Which was a few episodes ago, which is like even when and and the pregnancy one as well. It's like even when I did not have the situation I wanted, we were in a rented house, tap was leaking or not working, washing machine, we'd break like this.
It could be so easy to get sucked into feeling like, oh, this isn't what I wanna be. And it's the same when I've had the miscarriages earlier this year. And instead being able to be like, yes, I am here. This is teaching me something and I'm so grateful for where I am right now [00:24:00] and I'm so grateful for what's happening and all of the time that I'm creating and all of the experiences that I'm creating.
And it's like when we can just be grateful for and really appreciate what we have now and also what we're working towards. It's like both, it's like appreciating though, even though we know we're going somewhere else, but really, really finding like the tiniest things to be grateful for even. The, and it's the same with like your working day, like the bits of time or the like, oh, that meeting was canceled.
It's like, oh, 30 minutes back. Or like, how amazing is it This, like I create time and all these amazing things are happening when we can be in that place. Or even if someone puts in a meeting and it's like instead of going, oh no, there's not enough time, it's, we can be like, okay, this is amazing because of this, and then we can make a decision around it.
When we can get into a place where we're feeling genuine gratitude for the time we have, rather than panicked about how there's not enough time and there's never enough. The day to day journey is just so much [00:25:00] easier of life because things will happen we're, there's always somewhere we're working towards, but when we can truly just be present and enjoy where we are right now and enjoy the time that we've had and all the amazing experiences that we've had and enjoy where we're going in life, in work, in all of it, it just, it just makes things so much lighter.
I think that's the thing. There's not this heaviness. There's not this panic or this rush. It's just like, okay, things are unfolding at the perfect time. There's plenty of time. Everything's all good. I'm so grateful for the time I have. I'm so grateful for the time that's coming. How amazing is that? And it just shifts everything.
Anyway, a slightly rambling one, a slightly reflective one. Maybe not rambling, maybe reflective, but you know, maple has literally barked for the last however long I've been since I put out. So I'm gonna [00:26:00] go and get her dinner a little bit early and give her a big cuddle and see how she's doing. Okay, I hope you have an amazing rest of the day and amazing week ahead and I'll see you next week.
Bye.
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