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Hi. Oh, let me try that again. Hi, and welcome to the Scary Girls Club podcast. This is the first podcast I [00:01:00] put out in 2026. Is it? I'd have to check. I haven't even checked. I actually did record... Well, first of all, hi. Thanks for listening and still being here on this journey after, I don't know how big that pause was.
What was it? What's it now? End of May, five months, six months. It feels so good to be back. I just, I, I actually recorded a bunch of podcasts when my daughter was, like, super teeny tiny, like proper newborn, and I didn't edit them. I didn't upload them. I think I did it in, like, a darkened room. I might actually edit and upload them at some point.
It was more just, like, bits of update. And then I just, it just wasn't something that I was feeling called to do, and any leftover en- energy that I had, which interestingly I'm gonna talk about today. But any leftover energy I had, I just wanted to rest and spend time getting into like a routine as a family of four, and five if you include our dog, Maple.
And just, it [00:02:00] just wasn't something that I felt called to do. I actually just really wanted to have a pause.
I just didn't really wanna sit on my computer to edit them, to upload them. It just felt like a no. I might go through it at some point, but for now, this has been... Yeah, this evening has been the first time that I felt really called to just, called to do a podcast and also had the energy and also had the space and also been like, "Let's do it."
And I'm gonna talk you through what it is that's helped me do it,
Hang on two seconds. I'm just gonna put my phone on airplane mode. So I'm sitting here now. Luke's out.
I have both kids are down. I've got the monitor here. They're actually in the room next door, so I'm not sure how that's gonna work. Hopefully they can't like hear me. They've got like brown noise on, so they can't-- hopefully they can't hear me. But if I do have to suddenly go because one of them wakes up, but I think they'll be pretty, they'll be pretty calm.
So anyway, this is my window of opportunity. But what I wanna talk about today is [00:03:00] how to actually do those things that maybe you've been putting off, that maybe feel like a little bit more effort, but you know, ultimately you actually want to do them, and podcasting has been one of those things for me, certainly over the last like few months.
I kn- I've known I've wanted to do it. Oh, great. That's the monitor actually needing charged. Hang on, let me pause. I'll go charge it. Grab a charger. I'll be back Back, baby. Also, if you're watching this on video, I am in, like, post-run. I went for my first run with the double buggy, so I bought the minute, and it's a little bit humid here today, and I'm a little bit sweaty.
I've not even showered. I've not anything. I just wanted to sit down and record it. So this is where I'm at. It's all good. We're casual. We're cazh. We're feeling casual. We're feeling relaxed. So this is the vibe. Welcome. Welcome to the new era of podcasting. Although it was always pretty relaxed, let's be honest.
Um, anyway, where was I? Okay, so doing the important thing, the [00:04:00] thing that actually you wanna do, but maybe it takes a little bit more energy. Maybe it feels a little bit scary because you have to put yourself out there. For example, with podcasting, it's like I have to show... Well, I don't have to, but I certainly am showing up and sharing my thoughts and sharing stories and sharing reflections.
I am on video, and I'm uploading it to YouTube. All of these things can feel really vulnerable and a bit scary. So maybe there's something that, like, you wanna do, but it feels a little bit vulnerable and scary, and so it's easier almost not to. Also, we often tend to do the easier things because it's maybe habitual.
So normally after bedtime, like, what I would normally do is I would go downstairs, or one of us, depending, we would, like, Luke and I would tag team it, but, I would go downstairs and just make sure everything's tidy, tidy the kitchen, clean up, do any bits that need done, for the evening. And that would be take- It's, it's like [00:05:00] there's the energy from the day, the energy for bed, for bedtime or dinner, and, like, all that, energy for bedtime, and then energy and all the cleanup.
And then whatever leftover energy I would have, which often at the moment is very little, I would just wanna go and, like, lie in bed, or I just wouldn't almost have, like, the brain capacity after all that to then think about and be in this creative space of being able to actually share things that are useful and potentially interesting to, to someone like you.
So this might be something that you're finding. If there's something that you're putting off that's really important and that you know ultimately you want to do, like, it feels like a priority, it feels like something important, but you're not doing it, is it's just easier to-- Like, for me, it's easier to go and- do the h- the thing that I normally do, the habit that I have built of go and just clear up after bedtime.
Which [00:06:00] normally is fine because it's very useful and it's nice coming down in the morning to a clean kitchen. It's not always me that does it. Luke does it most of the time. But just getting everything ready or, like, getting baby ready for bed, like, all that kind of stuff. Anyway, so the different reasons that we...
Let me say this another way, is, like, the reasons that we put off doing the important thing. One, the important thing maybe feels scary or a bit, like, ooh, unsure. It maybe takes more brain energy. It's something new. We're putting ourselves out there, whatever that is, or we don't know how to do it yet. We- we're figuring something out.
We're lear- there's, like, a learning element to it. Number two, there's a habit. We just-- Like, our brains are wired to do the easy thing, seek comfort, do the familiar thing. They form habits very quickly, especially when we wanna do something that feels easy and safe and familiar, and then it becomes a habit, and so it takes more energy to do something other than the habit.
And especially when you're tired and you've had a full day of doing whatever you do in your life, it sometimes can feel hard to then... harder to break that habit because it's so much... You're, you [00:07:00] just go into default mode of doing the thing you've always done, whether it's cleaning up the kitchen and going to bed or whatever, or it's vegging out and watching a film or, I don't know, whatever else you might be in the habit of that maybe you slip into easily, but you know maybe that's not ultimately how you wanna be spending some of your day or some of your weekend or your evenings, whatever that is.
So, and then the other piece, hang on Well, yeah. And it takes-- so because it's, uh, it's habitual, it also then takes less energy. So again, when we have used a lot of energy and cognitive energy, like thinking on other things, then doing something that requires thought is just like, no. Like for me, after doing all the other bits and the housework stuff, to sit down and think about doing a podcast, I'm like, "It's a no."
It's-- uh, to even like fire up my laptop, I'm like, "It's a no." So that's how things have been, [00:08:00] and I have realized, which I knew already, but often we need to learn and relearn the same things again and again and again. Even as a coach, I coach people on this all the time. Literally, part of my job is helping people do the things they actually wanna do and not just default to the things they've always done, the things that feel safe, the things that feel familiar, but actually help them back themselves, back at themselves, step into something different, do the scary thing, even though they're-- have all the excuses, all the like, "I don't want to.
I don't like it. Oh," and their brain's throwing all this stuff at them, to still go and do that anyway. And that's how they grow, and that's how they expand, and they become that version of them, and they have that version of life that they actually want. Even though it's so much easier to see in other people, sometimes it's so hard to see in ourself.
Again, this is why people get coached, why I get coached, because it's easier for someone else to see that in me. It's easier for me to see it in someone else than for us to see in ourselves. So this has kind of been the pattern I've been [00:09:00] in, and like of course I've had a newborn and been figuring that out.
But definitely the last like few weeks I have been-- like the podcast and restarting the podcast has been kind of whispering in the back of my mind, and yet I've just been in this habit of how my evenings have gone and just ending up like sometimes-- I mean, sometimes I'm asleep in my clothes at 7:00 p.m.,
let's be real. Like sometimes I'm so tired that I fall asleep in my clothes at 7:00 p.m. Sometimes I wake up at 10:00 p.m., still in my clothes, the curtains all open, and like, "Oh, cool. Better go and get ready for bed then." So that is also how some things have gone. So I am giving myself grace, but I know that the way that I have been thinking about it has actually been backwards, which is do all the things Then go and do the, the thing that I actually want to do after.
But of course, I have no energy left. So this is what you wanna do instead. If this is you, like no judgment, no shame. Again, our brain is wired to do this. Like it wants to do the easy thing. [00:10:00] It doesn't wanna do the thing that feels scary or hard or new or where we have to put ourselves out there or do something different.
It forms habits quickly, and so it's easier to just default to the same habits than actually make a decision, make a choice, and do something, like actively do something differently and break a habit takes way more energy. And again, when we're tired, it's just hard to do that. So here is what we are doing instead.
Here's what I am doing instead. Here's what you can do instead, is whatever that important thing is, the thing that you really wanna do, the thing that you, you know you've maybe been putting off, that you know ultimately you wanna do, but it maybe takes a bit more energy. You have to think about something.
You're not quite sure like where to start, how it's gonna go. Carving out time for that first. Like, like that becomes almost the most important thing, then everything else fits around it. So for me, my evenings when both kids are down and I have a little bit of space to myself, kind of, it depends if I'm not asleep in all my clothes.[00:11:00]
If I'm not sleeping through the space to myself. But if I do, if I'm awake, I'm alert, I've been fed, I've showered. I've not showered tonight, but that's okay, and I have the space to myself. If you're the same, when you have that space, instead of doing all the other stuff and then getting to the important thing that you wanna do, it's doing the important thing first.
So this is what I have done tonight. So I wanna reiterate it. Do the important thing first, and everything else fits around it. Now, it would be easy to think, I mean, "Oh, but I need to clean the kitchen. I need to do all these things." So there's... You might have heard of this before, Parkinson's Law, and maybe you haven't heard of it, but maybe when I describe it, you'll have heard of it, which is the phrase that work expands to fill the time that we give it.
So when I have the evening to tidy up or do something or sort something or do some house admin, it will take me the whole [00:12:00] evening until literally I'm like, "Oh, I should probably go to bed now so that I have energy, so I have like a good sleep for tomorrow." And yet when I've been really focused and like set timer, put on music or like been like, "Go, go, go, I'm just gonna get this done quickly," I've been able to get it done really, really quickly.
Like I know I could go downstairs now and I could clean the kitchen in 15 minutes, like probably less if I put on some music and I just really went for it. It's not gonna take me an hour. And so when I prioritize the thing that is really important, so this is for me tonight and now is this podcast and recording this.
Hi, thanks for listening. This is my important bit. When I'm prioritizing this, this is the bit that gets the, the important, that, that gets my energy, that gets my focus, that gets like the best bit of me, best brain energy, best brain power, and then everything else that's actually secondary at the moment gets less of it.
And what is gonna happen, and I know exactly how this is gonna go, is once I've recorded this podcast and edited it and uploaded it, [00:13:00] I am gonna go... Sorry, I just got so distracted. I did not know that iCloud, like, not iCloud, iPhoto on my desktop background is like showing old photos. It's like just come up with this like old photo of some of my school pals from, I don't even know when that would've been.
We were all together a long time ago Anyway, that's really distracting. Thanks. I'm gonna have to turn that off. It's not what I wanna be looking at right now. Right, I've hid it. Okay, we're good. Um, anyway, where, where was I? Oh yeah, so I know that I'm gonna have less time to tidy up and do all that stuff, and that's okay because I'm still gonna get that done.
I'm just gonna do it in less time, and I'm happy with that, and that feels good. So again, thinking for you, what is that important thing? What... And, and, and also like-- Okay, wait. Sorry, I did scribble down some, some notes. Okay, so we're flipping it. [00:14:00] We're, we're doing the important thing first, whatever that is.
So deciding now, what is that thing that you're like, "Oh, I'd love to do that, but I don't have the time," or... And these are all like excuses our brain gives us. It's like, "I don't have the time," and then we go on social media and scroll for like 20 minutes. It's like literally could have done something on it for 20 minutes or go and veg out and not do something for 20 minutes.
And of course, rest is important. I'm not saying like you have to be filling all your time. But something that's really, really important when you decide and you plan that in first, and again, this is deciding ahead of the actual moment of doing it. So I decided earlier, I was like, "Right, straight after bedtime, I'm gonna go and sit and do this podcast."
I didn't really know what it would be on, and then often as is my podcasting and the ones that are probably most useful is something I've figured out. I'm like, "Oh, I'll just talk about this." Like this feels something that's really useful that I'm figuring out at the moment and going through and working through, helping clients with at the moment.
This is something that I can then share, and this will be a great first podcast to like get back into it. My brain's a little bit... I'm [00:15:00] like, "Wait, what's this?" I have, I have got my like bit scribbles. I couldn't even find a pen. I've used like a, a whiteboard, a flip chart. No. Whiteboard marker and a piece of printer paper 'cause I didn't have a pen, but we're good.
Also, we, slight tangent, we have moved the office to the spare room. It was in this like room that was probably designed as an office. It was quite narrow. It was on the ground floor, and it was a bit dark. Even though it was south-facing, it was quite dark. This one's got like two windows. It probably looks a bit dark now 'cause it's at night, and I've got this like massive cheese plant behind that's really dark.
I need like some lighting for that. But for now, we're good. But it's so nice just being able to like look outside. And the thing I always love about being like on the second floor is that you're like eye level with some of the trees. So like I'm looking down on some of the trees, I'm eye level with some of the trees, and you're like eye level with some of the birds.
It's so fun. Rather than normally like looking up at them, it's like, oh, you get to like hang out. I feel like I'm up in the trees. Anyway, I digress. [00:16:00] So we're doing the important thing first, okay? And I know this, like I've taught this for so long, but I do sometimes forget, and it's easy to get I sucked into this.
Anyway, I'm not gonna dwell on that. Okay. I should probably edit all these bits. I'm not gonna e- oh, the other piece. Okay. Like I'm jumping about all over the place. Let me pause a sec and take some deep breaths and some water
And watch my baby roll about on the monitor. She's so cute. She's so chatty at the moment. It's amazing. She's like, just makes the most amazing noises. It's so fun. Hopefully she can't hear my m- my voice through the room, through the, the walls. Okay. So when we're doing the important thing first, it's also...
Like sometimes even the word around like important can feel really heavy. It's like, "Oh, it's the important thing." It's like we can give it this extra weight. Like the language we use, the words we use to [00:17:00] describe things are really, really important. So important. Or really important. So important can sound f- it might sound really heavy, but just basically the thing that you really, really wanna do, that you're like, "I don't have time for.
Oh, I don't know how I'd fit it in. I don't have the energy for it." That thing, whatever that is, pick one. If you have loads, pick one. When we're doing that thing first before all the other boring admin bits that we don't really care about, of course, they're, quote-unquote, important, but like they're not as important as the thing that you ultimately you really, really wanna do.
When we do that thing that's really important fir- important, that feels amazing and fun first, the key thing also is to help, to help us make it, make it... Oh my God, my brain. To help make it easier to actually wanna do it, is to make it feel really, really easy and to make it feel fun. Okay? And I wanna tell you what I've done for this podcast that's helped me make it, helped me [00:18:00] make it feel...
Like not making sense. Anyway, it's helped me feel like it's fun and it's easy, is I've told myself, "I'm gonna do a 15-minute podcast." I don't even know how long I've been recording for. I don't think Zoom shows you. Anyway, I was like, "It's gonna be a 15-minute podcast, one thing, and it's gonna be something that I'm figuring out in real time."
Which kind of is what I'm doing podcasts on normally anyway. But for me, I'm like, "Oh, that feels really fun. I've got a thing to speak about that's gonna be useful to someone, I'm sure. And if not, it's useful for me to like try and talk about it in a concise and succinct way," and have all the, all the like tangents along the way.
And it feels really easy 'cause I'm like, "Oh, a 15-minute podcast." It doesn't have to be five steps to this and three things I learned about... It doesn't have to be any of that. Of course, I've jotted down a few things and I've tried to put it in a little bit of an order, but the key message is do the important thing first and then the rest of the stuff fits around it.
Like that's the key takeaway. [00:19:00] I'm like, "Okay, I can talk about that. I have a recent example. I'm gonna do 15 minutes easy." Maybe I'll go off on tangents. It'll end up being longer. Who knows? If you are pressing play on this, you'll know how long the final one ended up being. But 15 minutes is kind of what I'm aiming for, and actually that feels like something that's really doable, really fun.
Hang on. I think my little one's awake. It'll be a 10-minute podcast then. Maybe she hears me. Okay. Anyway, I'm gonna wrap this up 'cause I don't wanna have to keep pausing. I wanna, like, get it done, get it out in the world, and be like, "Here we go. We're back." So, in summary, what is that important thing, important fun thing that you, like, really, really wanna be doing, that you know that you're like, "Ugh, I want to be moving this thing forward.
It would be so, so cool." And you're like, "But I don't have time, I don't have energy, I don't have this, I don't have that." What is that thing? Decide, and then find some time to do it first. Maybe it's doing it before you have your [00:20:00] breakfast. That would not be a good idea for me. I need breakfast before I can think.
But, like, maybe it's doing it before you shower for the day, or maybe it's doing it before you open up your emails at work. Maybe it's doing it before you have your lunch. I don't know. Whatever-- Like, maybe, maybe it's doing it before you tidy up after dinner, or maybe it's doing it before you even have dinner.
It's doing it before all of the other stuff gets in the way. Doing the important thing first. Make it just feel really fun, really simple, really easy. For me, like, making it feel easy is, like, reducing the number. So, like, I'll just do one, or it can be I'll just do, like, five minutes or 15 minutes or 10 minutes.
Something like that, like reducing the time or reducing the quantity of it. That makes it feel really easy for me. So playing around with that, seeing what works, and let me know how it goes on. How it goes on? How it goes for you. Oh my gosh, my brain literally is, like, melting before your eyes. Anyway, it's so good to be back.
It's [00:21:00] been a Hey, thanks so much for listening. If this was helpful, please hit subscribe and leave a review. This helps get this work in the hands of more purposeful people. That is more people creating bigger, scarier goals and making an even bigger impact in the world. And if you wanna take this work deeper and work with me directly, head to the show note, and I've put all of the information there.
If you've got any questions or if there's anything you're like, "Ooh, I'd love you to talk about that on the pod," please just get in touch. I love hearing from you guys, and I'll see you next time in the Scary Goals Club. while since I have spoke, showed up on camera, riffed in real time, on video as well. Oh, before I go, actually. She's, she's rolling about. She's not made a noise yet, though. I wanna share something, like, how I'm working at the moment, in case it's of interest. Oh, she's awake. Okay. I will share that in the next podcast.
So you'll have to wait 'til the next podcast to find out [00:22:00] how I'm working at the moment, and that's actually really fun as well, of how I am building my life and business to work together, and I will share more on that soon. Anyway, I hope you have an amazing day, an amazing rest of the week. It's so good to be back.
Thanks for listening. Thanks for being here. I appreciate you so much. Mwah. Looking here. Ah. Right. Time to go. Bye. Hey, thanks so much for listening. If this was helpful, please hit subscribe and leave a review. This helps get this work in the hands of more purposeful people. That is more people creating bigger, scarier goals, and making an even bigger impact in the world. And if you wanna take this work deeper and work with me directly, head to the show note, and I've put all of the information there.
If you've got any questions or if there's anything you're like, "Ooh, I'd love you to talk about that on the pod," please just get in touch. I love hearing from you guys, and I'll see you next time in the Scary Goals Club.
