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Hello, and welcome to the Scary Goals Club podcast. This episode that you are about to hear is a slightly different one. I [00:01:00] recorded this when my daughter was two weeks old, so in the dark depth and wet of February earlier th- in 2026. And I never got around to editing it, or looking at it, or publishing it, and I just had a look at it, and I've decided I'm gonna release it into the world.
It's so funny. As I am speaking this little bit of the recording, I'm just downstairs, and my daughter is asleep, and I can see her on the monitor, and she's rolling, and I might need to run upstairs if she kinda wakes up. Anyway, So I just wanted to give a bit of context of when it, it was recorded.
I'm two weeks postpartum, so really in the thick of it. And it pulls out three useful things for if you are navigating a period of change, uncertainty, taking what I was figuring out and what we were figuring out as a family from those early newborn days of this, like our life completely changing in so many ways, and managing [00:02:00] to feel like we were in the flow and in a bit of a rhythm, even when the everyday was a little bit different, and there was lots of stuff that, lots of different demands everyone needed.
So wherever you are at the moment, if there's a period of change in your life, things are evolving, happening, or just life-ing, then hopefully there's something you can take from this episode. And enjoy.
Hi, and welcome to the Scary Goals Club Podcast. I'm your host, Hazel Robertson, and if you can hear some little breathing noises in the background
I've just put her up to the mic. I have my lovely little daughter here. She's snuggled up in a sling, and this is my first podcast with my baby girl, no longer in my tummy. And it's so fun. We didn't even know... You might hear some noises in the background, but I'm not even gonna apologize. It's... [00:03:00] I'm just doing it anyway.
This, uh, yeah, it was so fun. We didn't even know the whole time whether we were having a boy or girl until we got to meet her, and oh, she's just the best. So yeah, this is two weeks in. We've known her for two weeks, and we've had a big brother and his little sister for two weeks, and this is the first time.
I've kind of toyed with doing a podcast before now, but I've just been so tired and not had the energy. Whereas today has felt like such an amazing day. We all went out and got out as a family this morning, taking my son to get his haircut, and even that, like, getting out somewhere, all of us showered, teeth cleaned, breakfast eaten, nappy changed, fed, like all of that for 10:00 AM, and we did it, so that felt really good.
And then we went to one of our favorite, coffee and lunch spots after, and we just hung out there, and that was the first time taking her [00:04:00] out. First time I really felt like I've wanted to go out. Like I've-- It's been really, really wet here. I think it's the wettest January or something on record. Like Aberdeenshire is just crazy at the moment for rain.
It's like every day. I think we had, we had a, like, three-hour gap the other afternoon where we saw a bit of blue sky, and it was the first time in, like, literally weeks, and we all just went and stood out in the garden and, like, stared at the patch of blue sky like, "Whoa. We can be outside with our hoods up and our waterproofs and wellies on and, like, hunkered down."
So- I digress. Yeah, it's been the first time today that I've really felt like, "Do you know what? I'm ready to go outside and see other people, and feed her outside, and change her nappies somewhere in, like, a toilet," and, like, do all those things. Just feeling a little bit more energy. Had a good sleep last night, and yeah, everything just feels really good.
So I was like, "Oh, this is really fun." [00:05:00] And I have, like, a few moments this afternoon to myself. She's cu- currently cuddled in the sling, which is why you can kinda hear her, and so she'll be joining me on the podcasting as well. I haven't put a video on this one, so I don't know if I'll still upload audio only to YouTube.
I'm not sure. But I am, like, sitting in, like, pretty much a dark room. I have, like, the light that's normally on me. Like, the curtain's down, the light, like, really dimmed, and, like, I'm kinda hidden out of sight. I've taken the plants away from the background 'cause obviously we're on maternity and paternity leave, so we're not really in the office that much, so I was thinking the plants aren't gonna be watered, so I've taken them away.
So there's a bit of a bare background. I'm, like, sitting in the darkness recording this so that she can sleep. But here we are. We're here. And I have a... I guess, I was thinking about, like, in terms of what I would do a podcast on, and there's been a few things that have come to me, so I will do a few of them.
Don't know how long they'll be. I'm not sure when I'll get them [00:06:00] edited or uploaded, but I'll record them, so there we go. Um, and today I just wanted to chat around something that's been really helpful over the last couple weeks for us, which is how... Like, when there's a period of change, routines are changing, something's changing, there's uncertainty.
Like, things are a bit in flux, which is what it kind of is with a newborn. Like, there's no s- yet routine yet. Everything's changing every day. Luke and I are both off. Our routine we were in, even when we were both working and, like, before Christmas, is different now, and then we have another little person to think about and, like, figure out.
And so there's been a lot of, like, testing out different things, seeing what works, and- T- yeah, it's just about creating, it's not even like a routine, but when there is a period of change, how to create some, like a rhythm, a system, some kind of [00:07:00] structure that's gonna help anchor you even when there's lots of moving parts, lots of things are different.
And, and for you, it might be maybe there's some things changing, maybe you're changing things job-wise, maybe you're moving house, maybe you're doing lots of travel with work, maybe there's lots of different projects happening or, like, new things happening in a work sense. Just where there's a period of, you know, when you're used to being into, like, a rhythm with things, and then lots of things seem to change at once, it can be easy to get thrown off a little bit.
Or I, I can find that anyway. 'Cause it's funny, I think for me, I, in some ways I love a routine and I love structure, and I also hate it, and I think the ADHD part of me hates it. Like some part of me loves knowing what's coming up, having that predictability. There's like, in terms of habits and having that, like, comfort.
Um, and yet the other part [00:08:00] of me really resists stuff when it gets too samey, and, like, craving novelty, wanting something new, wanting something different. And so having a newborn, there's lots of novelty, and there's also lots of stuff that's, like, the same, and it's balancing that and also thinking, like, "What is it that I need, and what is it that all of us need?"
And so-
Yeah. So I just wanna talk through, I guess I've got like, I've got three things. There might be more that comes to me when I'm actually chatting through this. I don't want it to be too structured an episode because I don't think my brain's quite there yet. But there's three things that have been really helping all of us, especially me, like in the last two weeks, figure out and get into place now where it's like, "Oh, okay, we're, we've got like the hang of it.
Everyone's getting what they need every day." Even though things are changing, we're adjusting to this like new normal and, and figuring that all out. So I think [00:09:00] the first... Let me see. I'm gonna swap one and two around. This can be one. I've written them in my notes on my phone, and I was like, "Actually, let's do this one here."
Okay. I think... No, no, no, let's do one and two 'cause this was the organic way that it happened. So it all started figuring this out by reflecting and carving out... So when our son's in bed, and then she's asleep in the cot, Luke and I will have some time for us to kinda chat and figure out the day and just be like, "Okay, what happened?"
Like, "Where are we?" And I think that's the first thing that's really, really helped is every single day, at the end of the day, just... A- and you can do this yourself or with someone, like with a friend, with a partner, whatever, just reflecting on what worked. So, okay, things are changing. Things are different.
What actually worked really well today? And I mean, you can do this anyway. It doesn't have to be in a period of change or flux. But just [00:10:00] taking the time at the end of every day and being like, "Okay, what actually worked really, really well? Let's continue to do that," or like, "How can we build in more of that?"
Or, right. And, and, and when you are consciously pulling out the things that did well, that went well, that like you did well, it's so much easier to then build them into the next day, so you're gonna have this compounding effect, like it just, things just feel easier. And also reflecting on what maybe didn't work so well or what we wanna do differently and thinking, "Okay, what is that thing we're gonna test for the next day?"
I wish I'd thought of examples that I'm gonna like... I jotted down some notes, but let me see if I can have any examples off the top of my head. Um, well, it kinda leads me into number two, but I'll-- some examples would be the first few days We noticed there was like some things maybe felt a bit harder for my son, and [00:11:00] when we were reflecting, it was like, oh, actually, as soon as he had one-on-one time with me, like one-on-one mommy time, actually everything was a lot easier.
So it was like, right, how can we get that in, that time with me and him just on our own, just like playing, reading a book, like whatever that we would-- used to have like all the time. How can we get that one-on-one time in as early in the day as possible, so it's not happening in the afternoon, and then he's feeling like sad 'cause he's not con- we've not connected fully, and like there's always other people there, or I'm always getting pulled into feeds and all that different stuff with a newborn.
So how can we get that time in first thing, like as soon as we can, like early in the morning? And that was one of the things. It was reflecting, okay, what things are going well? And we'd be thinking about what things went well, and then it's like, okay, what is not working as well? And, and, and almost like, why not?
Like what needs to change? And then thinking, okay, what are we gonna test out for tomorrow? And so we then had a day of testing out getting the mommy time in. So it's like, okay, how can we like rejig the morning? Maybe, [00:12:00] okay, Luke, you could be upstairs. She's asleep in the cot, then you can shower. We'll go downstairs, and then we can have our one-on-one time playing.
And then so it's just like figuring out the logistics of how to make that work. And then again, we'd review that evening, be like, "I think that worked really well. The rest of the morning was super chill. The rest of the day was super chill." Sure, there's other things, but actually I think that helped quite a lot, like getting that in early on.
Okay, we'll keep doing that in. So it was just having... And, and you can do this with anything, even if there's some like- If you or if your life, you want it to be slightly different than it is right now, or some things are working, some things aren't, just carving out that time in the evening, at the end of the day, whenever you get, like, a few moments, write it down.
Just speak it out loud, think about it, put it in your phone notes. What is going well, and I wanna keep doing that. What is not going so well, and okay, what do I wanna do about it? And then what-- like, what thing am I gonna test for tomorrow, and, like, how can I test that out? How can I figure that out? So that was the first [00:13:00] thing that we did.
The second thing, which is kind of part of-- kinda flows on from one and is kinda part of it, is really thinking about, okay, what is it we all need every day, and how can we all make sure we get all of those things? Now, when you have a new little person appearing, and we also have a dog as well, like figuring-- and it's been raining crazy amounts.
Figuring out how to get everyone, like, their exercise, their outdoor time, obviously meals and all that, one-on-one time with every person, social time with other friends, getting out of the house and doing something, having quiet time. Like, Luke and our daughter having time, just them to bond and have their one-on-one time.
Time for Luke and I to be together. And it can be easy to be like, "How are we gonna do all these things?" And so it's the same, like whatever it is that you're working towards or, like, in this period of change, is just thinking what are all the [00:14:00] bits that, even starting with you, what are all the bits that you need to feel nourished, to feel energized, to feel connected?
Like, what are those things that you know If you-- it's almost like a checklist, I guess it could be at a very simple level. If you get all these things in a day and do all these things in a day, like, or three out of five of them, I don't know, however many of them, if you do some of them in a day, you know that you're gonna...
It's almost like, what's the phrase? Having your cup filled up. Like you're gonna, you're gonna be topped up before you're depleted. And so for me, I know especially as part of like my recovery from delivery and ended up having like a, a C-section, so I've been doing a lot of physio, and part of that is building up my walking.
And also I know like for me how important it is to get outside and to walk every day. Maple also needs a walk. Um, but our son needs to get outside as well. And [00:15:00] so one example, it's like, okay, well, how can we build all of these bits in? Well, and, and what we've got into this little routine of, which has been so nice, is like my son, Maple, me, we'll go out for a walk, and we'll build up a distance, get our full waterproofs on, no matter rain or shine.
Like, there's no shine, but we're going out. It's just like what we do every day. We get what we need. You know, my son and I get some one-on-one time. We're outside. We get to like play, splash in puddles, go and like find new trails, go and like listen to birds, and watch all the snowdrops coming out, and see all the like daffodils poking through, take the bins in, like do all those kinda things, chat to any other dogs or people we see.
And it means Luke and our daughter get some one-on-one bonding time as well, like just, just themselves in the house. We're out the house 'cause the other part is like I probably am not strong enough to like push the buggy yet, can't walk super far. Although I did actually do like 40 minutes the other day, which felt amazing.
Just like a, [00:16:00] a, like not a super fast pace, but just was out for 40 minutes and walking for most of it, and just it felt good. So, been building it up. I can't drive in- for six weeks, so that's two weeks in, so it's another month roughly until I can drive. So, this is a chance for like us all to get out the house.
Luke and our daughter can have a little chill time, and he can like hang out with her for a bit. So, that's something that ticks loads of boxes for loads of us, and then it's getting like our son out of the house, seeing his friends. Like Luke's been doing loads of that at the moment. They've got the energy for that.
They can go do that to like the soft play, the swimming pool. So they've been going out and doing that, and then it means like me and my daughter feel like we can have some bonding time as well. So like they're out swimming at the moment. We're having some bonding time. She's asleep in the sling, and I was like, "Do you know what?
I'm gonna go and podcast, so let's do that." So it's thinking about, okay, and, and you can even write down or just thinking what are the things that really top you up, nourish you, make you feel amazing, things that are really important, [00:17:00] and how can you start getting-- like how can you build in those elements into the day?
And so it becomes, I guess the, what had been a routine, what was the routine before, even though every day is different and we're only planning like a few days in advance really, and we're not in like a full-on routine quite yet. There is a routine of sorts in that these bigger elements of what we need are being ticked off.
Like, okay, I know that getting most of these, like if we can get these things in, this feels really good. Oh, and also doing stuff all together as a family. Like there's the, there's the other bit, but we do lots of that like in the house and playing games and reading books. So, so thinking about that for you, what, what are the things that light you up, that nourish you, that you know that you need to thrive, to feel amazing, to feel good?
And planning them into the day, even if there's not a structure and a routine and things are changing, how can you get those elements in? And [00:18:00] it, it can be so easy to be like, "I don't have time to exercise," or, "I don't have time to this, I don't have time to that." How can you build it in- to something you're already doing?
Or how can you-- So for example, even this morning, like, I went with our son to get his hair cut, and like Luke drove us, and then he went for a walk. So it's like fitting in, and it wasn't that long a walk, but he was getting outside and having some time, like, to himself as well. So it's like how can you fit in?
Can you... I'm trying to even think of examples. Again, my brain's not fully firing on all cylinders yet. Examples of how you could fit in, like, time outside. Could you have a walking meeting? Or when you are... instead of sitting somewhere and texting someone, go out and walk about and send a voice note, or have a phone call outside and you're walking.
Something like that. Like, how could you build it into something that you're already doing and get a bit of movement, get a bit of outside time, [00:19:00] whatever that thing is, and just getting some time to yourself. The other thing that's, um, really helped, certainly, and this is just a slight tangent, in the last, like, two weeks, and I will download it again.
But I, just before she was born, I actually deleted the Instagram app, and it's been so nice. I've like just literally barely been on my phone, almost to the point that people are-- some people have text like, "Eh, assuming everything's okay." It's like, "Oh gosh, sorry. Yeah. Oops. I should probably update some people that she's here and all's good, all's well."
Um, but it's just been so nice to have... I don't know, any time that I might just default go onto that, I'm just doing something else instead, or doing one of these things that I know is gonna top me up and actually make me feel amazing and help us, like, bed into these routines and these rhythms as well.
And then the third part is -- and again, we've been taking stuff, like, each day as it comes and keeping space for flexibility. Like, going out to the coffee shop today was a last-minute decision. [00:20:00] We, we hadn't planned in too much. We had the haircut, and we had swimming, and then it was like, "Oh, we're gonna be over that way.
Should we just..." It's like, "Should we just go and, like, see how we feel after, mm, after the haircut?" And it was like, "Okay, let's go do it." So it's also being able to plan for the spontaneity as well. So keeping, like, enough flexibility, like not packing loads in, which is what we've been trying to do, is like have less, and then we can be like, "Oh, let's go and do this thing," or, "Maybe we should try this now," or, "We have the energy to do that," or, "Actually, this is a really tired day.
Like, none of us slept that well. We're not feeling 100%. Let's just, like, keep it quiet and chilled." So the, but the third piece of that is planning a day or two in advance. That really helps. It's like we get up, we know what we're doing, we know roughly the plan. We can also make plans to see friends. Things are booked in, especially if there's like-- there's, it's like school holidays at the moment, so- It's like making sure we can get places swimming, like all that kind of stuff.
So planning enough [00:21:00] in advance and also having a look like a week ahead and thinking, "Okay, who do we, do we wanna see? What's on? What kind of things do we wanna do? How can we get the most out of this? Like, what is our plan? What feels really fun?" And then also creating space. So it's like looking ahead, planning like a day or two in advance loosely, and looking again like a week or so in advance, but also then creating lots of space as well.
And I think this has been really helpful because we're doing lots... Like, we know that we've got fun things in, things to look forward to. We're not having to every single day be like, "Oh, what are we doing today?" And you're trying to remember what's on or, like, think about that. It's like, "Oh, okay," have time to go and find some fun things that might be on, like one-off events and things.
And then also just be really present and just enjoy the moments, and have enough space to change plans or modify plans or add bits in as and when you need. And I'm trying to think how this could work for, for periods of change. I guess when there's periods of change and flux and there's [00:22:00] lots of different things happening, also energy levels can change quite a lot as well.
Like, when there's, you know, it's like your brain's figuring out a new normal and what's going on, and you're probably, like, if you're going through a bit of a period of change at the moment or things are just different and in flux, you're probably gonna need more rest. You're maybe going to some days be feeling, like, amazing and other days just be really tired because it's taking a lot of cognitive load and brain power to figure out a new way of doing things, and you don't have your routine to rely on that's almost like second nature.
Like, "Cool, then we do this, this, and this and this." It's like everything's new. You're learning a lot again, and so it's using a lot of brain energy. So, like creating that space allows not only for spontaneity of when you do have some energy to be like, "Right, now is the time to go do this thing," or whatever, like allowing for that, but also allowing for space to rest or to not pack as much in when you're having a slower day and just knowing that that's okay as well.
It's [00:23:00] okay to have slower day. The slower days help support the full brain firing on all cylinder days. So the, the slow days are not like a setback. They're not- like a pause there. It's almost like a, a boost, a boost for the days that are coming up. It's like, okay, you're resting, you're regrouping, and it's gonna be like creating more energy for what's to come ahead.
So creating that space also helps with that, of just giving yourself a bit of space when things are changing. So it means you can change and flex and add things in when you have a bit more energy, or when things are just changing, you have a bit more flex built in rather than everything being planned back to back to back to back, and then it feels really rigid, and you're having to then either cancel stuff and change a lot of stuff in the moment.
If you just have like a bit of a looser things planned in, loosely planned in, it gives more space for flex as well. And then just allowing space to see just kinda how you feel as well, [00:24:00] and just giving yourself time to rest. So I hope that was helpful. It may- it's like translating newborn learnings in real time into things that may be helpful for you and whatever it is that you're going through at this point in time.
So I hope you are having an amazing day wherever you're listening, whatever you're doing, and yeah, let me know how you're getting on. Let me know if you are listening. Reach out. I will maybe go and download Instagram at some point, and maybe I'll put a post on. Be like, "It's all o- everything's all good.
She's here. Mwah. Oh, she's so cute. She's so snuggly." Anyway, right. Have an amazing... I don't know when I'll next podcast, but we'll see. I've got a few other bits to, to podcast on, so you will get some more musing soon. Okay. Sending lots of love. See you soon. Bye.
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